Dear GC MNers, thanks for taking apart @Howseitgoin’s responses to my posts - agree with you all so you have a saved me some RSI of my own 
I’m fascinated by @Howseitgoin’s belief that women do follow a strict gender stereotype in the main. I’ve heard many TRAs say it’s not about stereotypes at all, so it’s interesting that @Howseitgoin not only says it’s about embracing a stereotype in order to “be” a woman, but also knows so little about actual women. I wonder if the view that women are like this is the view of someone who forms an idea of women through media where those stereotypes are promoted, e.g. porn, certain types of video games, manga etc.
As a wise MNer once said, go into any Asda and you’ll see lots of women with short hair, in jeans and t-shirts or fleeces, calculating budgets and that’s just a snapshot of women who are doing the e stereotypically female-gendered shopping. Beyond that there’s a whole world of gender-nonconformity with women doing every type of job, embracing every type of appearance, and resisting/ignoring the stereotypes that exist to limit them. Generally speaking, women are far more gender-non-conforming than men. That may be why it’s so hard for feminine men to just be themselves instead of thinking they’re women.
But @Howseitgoin’s patronising teachings do illustrate the rank sexism of gender ideology perfectly.
I’m not a feminist who opposes all gender per se. I think gender is a form of cultural expression that arises out of sexed differences in order to emphasise them, which serves a societal purpose. Some aspects of gender are arbitrary, unstable and IMO harmless in isolation - such as hair length for example. I think it is understandable that human societies have cultural expressions that signify “masculine” and ‘feminine” to emphasise male and female, and people use these to express to others who they are, especially in same-sex bonding and in looking for a partner.
The problem comes where gender is used to restrict people’s lives and freedoms and people are punished for not conforming. Not confirming to gender is another kind of gender expression and another kind of signal. It may signal that you are gay, arty or countercultural, or don’t care - and everyone should be free to express or not express gender norms - so that people are free to embrace both their actual sex which they cannot change, and their personality and interests and abilities. If their personality is “conforming” or feminine when they happen to be female, that’s OK to me. But many women have always resisted stereotypes and refused to conform - throughout history. They were and are still women.
It is not the case that if you’re feminine or drawn to feminine stereotypes when you’re male, that means you’re a woman. Woman is a sex category. If you change its name, that sex category will still be there and males will still never be in it. Mens and women’s bodies are different and one cannot become the other. Furthermore, trying to make one approximate the other causes serious health problems - unsurprisingly.
GI teaches that gender is wedded to sex and that non-conforming is not an option, if you non-conform, you must “be” the opposite sex (or of course “non-binary”).
If, as a trans-identifying person, you think you are “non-conforming”, that simply indicates you know what sex you are really.