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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

All the eyerolls 🙄 they/them 'not Daddy!'

211 replies

lcakethereforeIam · 26/08/2025 11:39

What nurses have to put up with. His poor wife (although that word's not used*), his poor kids

I'm a non-binary parent but have had to accept being called 'Daddy' | Metro News https://share.google/CdGfmxVnizOeyxBbe

Admittedly, when we arrived at the delivery suite on Tuesday night I did tell the lead midwife that my pronouns are they/them

Of course he did.

The whole article is worth a read, simultaneously hilarious, jawdropping and troubling. I thought he could put it on stage at the next Fringe, it'd bring the house down. It's hard to believe it wasn't ghost written by Glinner as a pisstake.

*hopefully they're not married °so leaving this self obsessed bloke will be easier.

°how would that go anyway? 'I now pronoun you wife and....erm!'

I'm a non-binary parent but have had to accept being called 'Daddy'

I wish that society could be more inclusive towards trans and non-binary folks especially as it pertains to parenthood.

https://metro.co.uk/2025/08/21/im-a-non-binary-parent-accept-called-daddy-23938765/?_gl=1*1w8ogn9*_ga*SFNiMXdlR1ZMSElTQ05RU3ZxdUYxT0I2b3dRZHRUVmZNZE5vdGMzUVl4dkFjUE5zZmdiVzBxSGR1QUpXaFRNeQ..*_ga_MYFQ9GLWWV*MTc1NjIwMjkzMC40MS4xLjE3NTYyMDI5MzEuMC4wLjA.

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Fizbosshoes · 26/08/2025 18:54

Merrymouse · 26/08/2025 18:19

"In the end I ticked the ‘father/parent’ box. It doesn’t fully acknowledge who I am, but because I was exhausted, I chose it as the easier option."

Genuinely confused - how does it not acknowledge who he is?

He's different and special, father is way too regular

Lins77 · 26/08/2025 18:55

Grammarnut · 26/08/2025 18:51

I don't get this 'non-binary' stuff. Afaik most people see themselves as people, they don't go round all the time thinking 'I'm a man/I'm a woman', they think of themselves as 'me'. That I think of myself first as a person and then later, when faced with some discrimination usually, think of myself as a woman, mean I am non-binary? If so, it means that non-binary means bugger all - which is true enough.

In this instance it seems to mean he gets to call himself "queer", which is obviously the coolest thing to be, and wear pink dungarees, which he obviously couldn't do otherwise. 🤷‍♀️

ArabellaScott · 26/08/2025 18:58

AstonsGerbil · 26/08/2025 16:42

Omg I'm loving that even over in Reddit land this special person is being roasted 😂

Big Brother Omg GIF by Global TV

At last, something the internet agrees on.

Toooldforlonghair · 26/08/2025 19:10

If he's looking for a name, may I suggest Twat might be a good choice?

Motherfluffers · 26/08/2025 19:11

I don’t think the man with pink hair realises how unhinged and essentially rejecting of his kids’ and his partner’s much greater needs, him even carving out the time to write and publish a story of his own brave sacrifice of his special pronouns, is.

There’s an open invitation for anyone else who wants to share their stories at the foot of his article. I’ve been a bit annoyed sometimes that I haven’t ever been able to fly, or do time travel, for example, maybe I’ll write about the heartlessness of that.

Do you have a story you’d like to share? Get in touch by emailing [email protected].

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 26/08/2025 19:14

His wife’s waters broke and she wasn’t admitted until 3 days later…so at least a 3 day labour with twins, maybe longer. Babies are then not only taken to NICU but are ill enough to be transferred to different hospitals. But it’s all about him and his fucking identity. Fuck sake.

Lins77 · 26/08/2025 19:28

I did tell the lead midwife that my pronouns are they/them, and she responded as I hoped – positively and respectfully.

Of course she did - she's a professional. Did he think she might tell him to piss off?

Bet she was rolling her eyes inwardly though.

niadainud · 26/08/2025 19:38

Admittedly, when we arrived at the delivery suite on Tuesday night I did tell the lead midwife that my pronouns are they/them.

Because that's the most important thing for the midwife to focus on when your wife is about to give birth. 🤨

(I'm sure I'm not the first to make that comment but the narcissism is remarkable.)

Fionasapples · 26/08/2025 19:52

Those poor children!
Oh and he was exhausted, I'm not sure he remembered to mention it 🙄

DuesToTheDirt · 26/08/2025 21:03

In every single photo he has a big grin, so he can't be too upset.

"For me, being non-binary is something I’ve always felt – that I’m not a man or a woman". And yet he fathered a child, providing sperm for a woman. Or is he some kind of hermaphrodite, who had a child with himself?

SionnachRuadh · 26/08/2025 22:11

Lins77 · 26/08/2025 18:49

JKR on twitter: "Imagine being in labour with twins and hearing the father of your children telling your midwife his pronouns."

😭

This is why we need the laugh emoji back

MistyGreenAndBlue · 26/08/2025 23:13

Babyboomtastic · 26/08/2025 15:59

😂

https://www.thepinknews.com/2022/11/24/cop27-egypt-lgbtq/

Highlights include:

"I’m non-binary and agender and I am visibly queer in most situations"

"During the meal, I was misgendered a number of times, which was good because it meant I was passing as cis, but still made me uncomfortable because it was proof that I wasn’t living authentically.

As soon as I was halfway through the summit, I was already fantasising about re-queering myself. I have booked an appointment to get my ears re-pierced and I will be dying my hair and getting my nails painted. On my first day back in Brighton I felt massive relief when I could put on my hot pink dungarees and go out and have no one bat an eyelid because my queer self is accepted as part of normal life here."

😂😂😂😂

'still passing as cis'
You're a bald bloke mate!!

Do PN not use editors? Even just for basic spag. I thought they identified as a news outlet with er... journalists

ThatZanyFatball · 26/08/2025 23:15

Gawd I wish that article had open comments - just for the entertaining reading. But you ladies never disappoint.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/08/2025 23:32

DuesToTheDirt · 26/08/2025 21:03

In every single photo he has a big grin, so he can't be too upset.

"For me, being non-binary is something I’ve always felt – that I’m not a man or a woman". And yet he fathered a child, providing sperm for a woman. Or is he some kind of hermaphrodite, who had a child with himself?

Dupers delight. I bet he’s thrilled to get a mention from JKR.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 26/08/2025 23:37

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/08/2025 11:49

"Many institutions still assume they will be dealing with a woman as the mother and a man as the father, with no room for grey areas"

😱
😂

NeverOneBiscuit · 26/08/2025 23:47

What a complete arse!

Plain average man returns to parent’s home following job loss. Spends too long lying on his bed, contemplating why his life isn’t more interesting. Decides to go ‘trans-lite’ - dye his receding hair pink & bore the world with his gender navel-gazing.

But hey, he parked his frustration at not having a suitable gendered parent name (or some such bollox!) while his newborn twins were in hospital. What a self less guy!

I guarantee the twins will be gender fluid/non binary by Reception, and he’ll be attending parent’s evening in a dress.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/08/2025 23:58

Also agree he’ll go the whole hog at some point.

NeverOneBiscuit · 27/08/2025 00:06

He’s just the kind of twit who’d talk about bringing his (their!) whole self to work.

I should imagine his work colleagues are very grateful for any working from home opportunities.

He reminds me of Colin from the Fast Show, big colourful glasses, dungarees, & if I remember correctly the office weirdo / annoyance 🤡.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/08/2025 00:11

Have you ever seen Nathan Barley? He’d fit right in at Sugar Ape.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 00:13

Christ on a bike. Could he be any more self-obsessed?

I have to admit that this part made me snigger:

I realised I was non-binary and came out in early 2017, at the start of a wave of lots of other people realising the same thing. I was 25 and had a brief period of unemployment, living back at home with my parents, which gave me time to be introspective and figure out who I was.

Yeah, mate, it's not actually all that surprising that you came up with this silly idea whilst unemployed and living with your parents with unlimited access to the internet and far too much time on your hands.

But you're a dad now. It's time to grow the fucking fuck up.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/08/2025 00:14

lcakethereforeIam · 26/08/2025 15:51

And the male patterned baldness.

Really did no-one at the Metro or outside Mx Pashby's little bubble think to say to him, 'Tom, do you really want to submit this for publication? You're going to come across as a massive, narcissistic bell-end'.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Enough4me · 27/08/2025 00:25

Remember though he could be a super brave stunning they/them. Rather than dad he's a special dad. His kids can introduce him as the 'additional needs person' so people can talk slowly to him and reign in expectations.
Maybe with extra time he'll grow up.

NeverOneBiscuit · 27/08/2025 00:44

I hadn’t heard of Nathan Barley, just googled him 🤣🤣

WhatterySquash · 27/08/2025 07:17

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/08/2025 23:58

Also agree he’ll go the whole hog at some point.

And if the usual pipeline is anything to go by, he’ll eventually decide he’s “poly” too.

I wonder what his partner thinks of his sudden fame and if she’s reading the comments (though of course she’s probably v. busy dealing with twins while he pens articles about his specialness). You can imagine the MN thread “DP wanging on about being non-binary while I’m knee-deep in nappies”.

MumoftwoNC · 27/08/2025 08:05

WhatterySquash · 27/08/2025 07:17

And if the usual pipeline is anything to go by, he’ll eventually decide he’s “poly” too.

I wonder what his partner thinks of his sudden fame and if she’s reading the comments (though of course she’s probably v. busy dealing with twins while he pens articles about his specialness). You can imagine the MN thread “DP wanging on about being non-binary while I’m knee-deep in nappies”.

I really hope his partner discovers mumsnet if she hasn't already.

I'm sure she wouldn't be the first woman to read mumsnet and think "why have I put up with this dickhead for so long?!"