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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

"Biological sex is a multidimensional variable with various components" - Thread 2

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/07/2025 18:33

The last thread ended with Tandora attempting to sidestep the question about what she would say if her daughter had been raped by a trans woman in a female only space and no longer believed that trans women should be in female only spaces as a consequence.

Her last reply was along the lines of, "The same thing I would say if she had been bullied by a green person at school and said she no longer wanted to go to school with green people."

@Tandora can we have a serious answer?

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wordler · 26/07/2025 19:34

And again to add. I want those 50,000 trans women in the UK to have a safe place to pee and change. I don't want them to be forced to pee in the male toilets if they don't want to.

But I don't want the millions of women who will be harmed by losing single sex toilets or changing rooms to suffer either. Compromising the needs of these women is not acceptable to me.

Soontobe60 · 26/07/2025 19:37

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:38

Except of course for all the recorded incidents where transwomen were indeed a threat to women

There are criminals of all characteristics and all walks of life. Some of these happen to be white, black, brown, have long hair, blue eyes, one arm, etc. The existence of some criminals who happen to be trans, says nothing about trans people as a group.

One thing all people who commit rape have in common is that they’re male - even the males who think they’re female.

madeupnameagain · 26/07/2025 19:38

wordler · 26/07/2025 19:19

UK numbers:

There are nearly 2 million Muslim women - about 3.2 percent of the population

It's estimated 1 in 30 women in the UK have been sexually assaulted. 798,000 women across England and Wales every year. So about 3.33 percent of the population experience.

In the year ending March 2024, an estimated 7.8% of women in England and Wales aged 16 and over had experienced rape, including attempts, since the age of 16 - that's about 2.5 million women.

In England and Wales, approximately 47,572 individuals identified as trans women in the 2021 census, which is around 0.1% of the population.

Even if just a fraction - say 10 percent of the muslim women are observant enough to need men free spaces, and 10 percent of the women who have sexual assault trauma are triggered by male bodies in vulnerable spaces, then that's 450,000 women who need a single sex space and who will be harmed by not having one.

And that's a conservative estimate it could easily be 25 percent, 1,125,000, or 50 percent 2.25 million women.

Less than 50,000 trans women can be accommodated by a third space option to keep those who need single sex space - of which there are millions - safe.

Tandora doesn’t care.

Soontobe60 · 26/07/2025 19:39

Tandora · 25/07/2025 08:51

Have you read the relevant part of the Equalities Act. Let me see if I can link it for you.

Equality - singular…

WarriorN · 26/07/2025 19:41

you can keep repeating the idea that Upton has xy chromosomes and knows he’s female but it will never make it true.

Soontobe60 · 26/07/2025 19:48

Tandora · 25/07/2025 09:11

SP's actions were (in my view obviously - as I was accused of libel for expressing opinions about this on another thread) driven by transphobia.

Her behaviour was unacceptable and constituted harassment. If she had genuine concerns she would have handled the situation in an entirely different way.

DU also has the right to be comfortable at work.

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This particular post absolutely enrages me. Why you think a woman not wanting to have to get changed in front of a man is transphobic just shows what an absolute fucking woman-hater you are.
Upton is a man who gets his thrills from pretending he’s a woman, and woe betide anyone who gets in the way of his fetish. He’s lied, he’s altered evidence, he’s made up things to punish a woman who would now now down to him. He deserves no sympathy and certainly doesn’t have the right to practice his fetish in public.
Shame on you.

cloudyblueglass · 26/07/2025 19:51

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/07/2025 18:33

The last thread ended with Tandora attempting to sidestep the question about what she would say if her daughter had been raped by a trans woman in a female only space and no longer believed that trans women should be in female only spaces as a consequence.

Her last reply was along the lines of, "The same thing I would say if she had been bullied by a green person at school and said she no longer wanted to go to school with green people."

@Tandora can we have a serious answer?

BTW - I never got an answer when I asked @tandoraif green people had assaulted Tandora’s daughter, what wouod happen when the green people insisted they were now purple and Tandora’s daughter needed to adjust their perception of the colour ‘green’ ….

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 26/07/2025 19:54

Tandora · 26/07/2025 09:01

The trans identified male doctor already knows he is a male with a trans identity (obviously), so he should exclude based on that given the patients wishes

No. Trans women understand themselves to be female - and lots of other people accept this too! If a patient asked for a female doctor they wouldn't have any reason to think that patient wasn't comfortable with them.

Then they are a fucking deluded sexual predator and should not be practising medicine.

Why are you advocating for these men to be allowed unfettered access to assault unconsenting females? It beggars belief.

Nothing you have said is supported by law.

suggestionsplease1 · 26/07/2025 19:56

Heggettypeg · 26/07/2025 18:58

I don't know whether it is still a thing, but back in the nineties and even earlier, there were people in the United States (usually white) claiming to be Native American. Some did it by bigging up or inventing an ancestral link; some said they "felt they were really" NA. It was a sufficiently common phenomenon to royally piss off some of the actual Native Americans, who had a name for them: they called them "Wannabees".

A few made a career out of their chosen identity, but the majority were clearly not in it for material gain. So of course, there was discussion as to why it was happening. The consensus seemed to be that it was a combination of liberal guilt feelings about colonisation - leading to people positioning themselves as having an ancestral right to be where they were, and as not carrying inherited guilt - plus a romanticised idea of Native Americans (with some truth at the core) as living physically and spiritually in harmony with nature, which appealed to people concerned about human impact on the environment. Plus, of course, the enduring aesthetic appeal of feathers, beadwork and buckskins to people bored and jaded with mainstream fashions.

So people can absolutely get caught up in claiming an "oppressed" identity if their real identity becomes uncomfortably associated with oppression. I've seen the same thing with some people hellbent on not being English, who either dig out some Scottish, Welsh or Irish ancestor from their family tree, or failing that, fall back on "feeling Celtic".

I would say that this is distinctly different from what we see with trans people.

Of course some people can feel a connection with a heritage if they have ancestry and wish to explore that. That has quite a serious background as well of course because there were notions of the 'one drop of blood' rule in America, or the 'one Jewish grandparent' rule in Naxi Germany. So that concept and relatedness has been used at different times in history.

Those people wishing to assert those identities however did not do it in the contexts in time where they would experience discrimination and hostility - they did this at a time and in a context when there are only gains and positives to be experienced. For example, access to scholarship programs perhaps.

This is in direct contrast to trans people today, who assert an enduring trans identity despite all the hostility, discrimination and abuse that they know will be coming their way.

Annoyedone · 26/07/2025 19:56

Tandora · 26/07/2025 10:35

I disagree with your interpretation of equalities law as you know.

However, it is also the case that transphobia being increasingly institutionalised in the UK, through law and policy. So I agree with your broader point that, at the present time, the law is in your favour. I believe SP will win her case. I think this is a terrible injustice.

You may think that. I couldn’t possibly comment.

Soontobe60 · 26/07/2025 20:05

Tandora · 25/07/2025 10:15

They were clear, thoughtful and relevant. I have tried to set out and explain what it is to be trans multiple times in multiple ways.

Posters so entrenched in their prejudices and fantasies about trans people are not interested in reading or reflecting on them - I have no control over that. Meanwhile, 5 minutes later, they demand again that I explain what being trans is.

I’ve carried out an advanced search on your posts to locate all the occasions where you’ve tried to set out and explain what it is to be trans in multiple ways, but all I can see is the repeated mantra that trans women are women, they’re not men, they were assigned male at birth but they’re women but nothing to explain what it is to be trans.

needtostopnamechanging · 26/07/2025 20:12

Hostility and abuse that they could easily avoid if they didn’t try to bully and coerce women into shutting up and putting up. if they had just tried to live a normal life without kicking up a fuss that they deserved special treatment

they raised its profile by asking for more than anyone else , and as a result the injustice and mistreatment of women became clear in people’s conscious

and when you mistreat people you are more likely for people to react badly. No one likes an abuser and abuse is what sections of the trans community have thrown at women.

but let’s be clear / it’s not generally women and feminists being abusive. Here we are trying to reason with you. Trying to understand.

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/07/2025 20:13

Tandora · 26/07/2025 16:23

Well the doctor might perceive a trans woman to be male, for example, because they don't "pass". The patient might then explain she was here for a breast screening exam because she had found a lump, in which case the doctor might become confused. At that point the patient would need to explain that they were a trans woman and had been taking hormonal therapies and had found a lump which they needed checking.

Or a passing trans man might come into the consultation room and explain that they were worried about a vaginal infection. The doctor might be initially surprised/ thrown and the patient might then want to explain that they are trans.

Of course all this could be solved by better medical practice with improved understanding of diversity and the need for organ-specific rather than sex-specific care.

A transwoman will never need to see a gynaecologist or attend a women's hospital...even if they have found a lump in their implant. Gynae and women's departments deal with the female reproductive system and female biology. A TW who has an issue with their surgery would need to see either their gender surgeon or whoever prescribed them hormones. and I,m pretty sure this is what a gynae or women's health specialist would advise.

A neo vagina is not a female organ...it is a blind fistula.

MyAmpleSheep · 26/07/2025 20:14

I see an attempt to redefine things. In the beginning there were men and women. The men are all and only those who identify as men, and the women are all and only those who feel identify as women. Most, but not all of the men have the same kind of body - the kind of body that has a penis. And most - but not all - of the women have the same kind of body - the kind of body that has ovaries.

It is to be no longer the case that you are a man or a woman depending on what body you have, but the type of body you have is an afterthought.

There is no definition of sex. It's a logical primitive, like the number zero. Things flow from it but there is nothing that allows it to be determined. It simply "is".

cloudyblueglass · 26/07/2025 20:14

needtostopnamechanging · 26/07/2025 20:12

Hostility and abuse that they could easily avoid if they didn’t try to bully and coerce women into shutting up and putting up. if they had just tried to live a normal life without kicking up a fuss that they deserved special treatment

they raised its profile by asking for more than anyone else , and as a result the injustice and mistreatment of women became clear in people’s conscious

and when you mistreat people you are more likely for people to react badly. No one likes an abuser and abuse is what sections of the trans community have thrown at women.

but let’s be clear / it’s not generally women and feminists being abusive. Here we are trying to reason with you. Trying to understand.

Women challenging men in women’s only spaces is in no way hostility and abuse, though.

wordler · 26/07/2025 20:18

suggestionsplease1 · 26/07/2025 19:56

I would say that this is distinctly different from what we see with trans people.

Of course some people can feel a connection with a heritage if they have ancestry and wish to explore that. That has quite a serious background as well of course because there were notions of the 'one drop of blood' rule in America, or the 'one Jewish grandparent' rule in Naxi Germany. So that concept and relatedness has been used at different times in history.

Those people wishing to assert those identities however did not do it in the contexts in time where they would experience discrimination and hostility - they did this at a time and in a context when there are only gains and positives to be experienced. For example, access to scholarship programs perhaps.

This is in direct contrast to trans people today, who assert an enduring trans identity despite all the hostility, discrimination and abuse that they know will be coming their way.

You make a good point but then the equivalent could be someone like Isla Bryant where some people, including Nicola Sturgeon, have said might be masquerading as a woman, presumably to gain the advantage of a female prison over a male one.

The big difference with the two scenarios is that it's possible to prove or disprove the validity of the claim to a racial heritage.

Edit for spelling.

WarriorN · 26/07/2025 20:19

AstonScrapingsNameChange · 26/07/2025 19:54

Then they are a fucking deluded sexual predator and should not be practising medicine.

Why are you advocating for these men to be allowed unfettered access to assault unconsenting females? It beggars belief.

Nothing you have said is supported by law.

nothing Tandora has said here is supported by science either.

trans ppl can understand themselves to be female but it’s not true. Its imagined.

and no one has to accept it either.

indeed, its very important that its understood that transwomen are male for their own health care.

it’s very important that trans men are understood as female, in order to claim all the health and legal protections such as maternity care.

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/07/2025 20:21

Tandora · 26/07/2025 17:36

You don't get to decide that.

It's not the 'Truth', it's your truth.

it's not 'reality', it's your reality.

DU has a different truth, a different reality.

If you continue to impose yours, without acknowledging hers, it does hurt and that hurt is being caused by you.

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All of this post modernistic, post - truth stuff has its place..but that place is not in any public setting which relies on objective, measurable reality to organise itself, and especially a healthcare setting.

MyAmpleSheep · 26/07/2025 20:27

Tandora · 26/07/2025 17:36

You don't get to decide that.

It's not the 'Truth', it's your truth.

it's not 'reality', it's your reality.

DU has a different truth, a different reality.

If you continue to impose yours, without acknowledging hers, it does hurt and that hurt is being caused by you.

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If you don't believe in objective truth, how can you call yourself a scientist?

Whose truth are you looking for when you design an experiment? if your truth isn't the same as my truth, why bother with the experiment at all? Just write up what your truth is.

How far does Dr. Upton's right to his own truth extend?

WarriorN · 26/07/2025 20:30

Shortshriftandlethal · 26/07/2025 20:21

All of this post modernistic, post - truth stuff has its place..but that place is not in any public setting which relies on objective, measurable reality to organise itself, and especially a healthcare setting.

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it’s ideology

cloudyblueglass · 26/07/2025 20:37

MyAmpleSheep · 26/07/2025 20:27

If you don't believe in objective truth, how can you call yourself a scientist?

Whose truth are you looking for when you design an experiment? if your truth isn't the same as my truth, why bother with the experiment at all? Just write up what your truth is.

How far does Dr. Upton's right to his own truth extend?

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Tandora isn’t a scientist - it’s obvious. They won’t even say what ‘field’ they are ij as it’s too ‘identifying’.

it is clear that the scientific method is anathema to whatever ‘field’ Tandora ‘works’ in.

BouncyCastleNHSSquirrels · 26/07/2025 20:38

madeupnameagain · 26/07/2025 19:26

Honestly, you are hell bent on giving away any protections women\females have by including men in their sex category. Why would you want this?
I’m genuinely upset by what you are writing.

I think it's important to remember that not every poster is here in good faith. Some posters aren't actually here to educate or convince. They sometimes don't actually believe what they are saying, and in fact if we were to take them at their word, not only would they be harming women, but they would also be harming trans identified people too (for example: when they advocate for obscuring sex in a medical setting which would result in trans identified peoples deaths through wrong sex health care).

The sort of poster I am talking about doesn't actually care about "trans rights" however they frame said rights, and just join these discussions because they enjoy upsetting women in any way they can.

It absolutely is upsetting to think that someone posting in good faith would be somehow so blind to the harms which are caused by their ideology, it's upsetting to realise how many men don't care about women's rights and that many women would sleepwalk their way into giving women's rights away. However, I find any upset I might normally feel vanishes when it becomes obvious that a poster is not posting in good faith, and especially when it becomes clear they have set out with the intent to upset women.

It's still really important to push back against this harmful anti-women ideology regardless of its source, hopefully, as a PP said, a flood of new lurkers will be reading these threads, weighing up the arguments in their minds and coming to their own conclusions.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/07/2025 20:38

suggestionsplease1 · 26/07/2025 19:56

I would say that this is distinctly different from what we see with trans people.

Of course some people can feel a connection with a heritage if they have ancestry and wish to explore that. That has quite a serious background as well of course because there were notions of the 'one drop of blood' rule in America, or the 'one Jewish grandparent' rule in Naxi Germany. So that concept and relatedness has been used at different times in history.

Those people wishing to assert those identities however did not do it in the contexts in time where they would experience discrimination and hostility - they did this at a time and in a context when there are only gains and positives to be experienced. For example, access to scholarship programs perhaps.

This is in direct contrast to trans people today, who assert an enduring trans identity despite all the hostility, discrimination and abuse that they know will be coming their way.

You don't think there are advantages to asserting a trans identity?

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cloudyblueglass · 26/07/2025 20:42

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/07/2025 20:38

You don't think there are advantages to asserting a trans identity?

That sexual predators within the prison system certaiy saw an advantage

CinnamonCinnabar · 26/07/2025 20:43

It's previously been asserted than being transgender is different and somehow more legitimate than people being transage - but humans have been trying to alter their age for thousands of years - trying to find the elixir of youth is a common theme in myths and literature going back to Herodotus. Common themes of anti-aging and the restoration of youth exist in many cultures. So identifying as being an age at odds with one's biological age is common throughout recorded human history. Why are we not legally allowed to change out age? Why is being transage less legitimate than being transgender - which is a very recent phenomenon. Early instances of people disguising their sex are pretty well all explained by people concealing same sex attraction or women seeking a way into male only professions or inheritance, or avoiding sexual assault.

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