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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

"Biological sex is a multidimensional variable with various components" - Discuss

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dunBle · 23/07/2025 00:12

To save further derailment of the Sandie Peggie tribunal threads with people debating Tandora's statements on the above theme, I've started this thread to point them to instead.

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Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:52

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 17:51

Where in the biological system is trans, and why is a belief/feeling (which I'm going to assume you agree is caused by a series of neurones firing in the brain and nervous system) more important than the sexed body?

We separate women and men to help women avoid sexual assault and therefore unwanted pregnancy.

Given that transwomen can and have caused unwanted pregnancies, why should they be allowed in female only spaces?

We separate women and men to help women avoid sexual assault and therefore unwanted pregnancy.

SO weird.

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 17:53

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:49

If she was raped by any person in a toilet I would believe her and report that to to the police.

I totally reject the idea that transwomen in changing rooms increases incidents of sexual assault or rape. This is transphobia.

I assume you're happy to talk about Katie Dolatowski then?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/07/2025 17:53

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:49

If she was raped by any person in a toilet I would believe her and report that to to the police.

I totally reject the idea that transwomen in changing rooms increases incidents of sexual assault or rape. This is transphobia.

Well, quite obviously allowing trans women into female spaces increases the risk of rape, because trans women can commit rape and women cannot. This is not actually up for debate.

So if your daughter was raped in a women only space, and she said to you, "I know you really believe that trans women are women and that sharing our spaces with them doesn't increase the risk of rape or sexual assault, and I believed that too until I was actually raped by a trans woman in a women only space, but now I don't believe that anymore because I know I wouldn't have been raped in that space if only other female people had been in it."

What would you say in response?

NecessaryScene · 24/07/2025 17:55

It's been said in the past that trans rights is like gay rights, and I think many people really think of it like that, including, I suspect, Tandora here.

And I think that they accept gay rights with the following logic, and apply the same to 'trans':

  • A group wants something
  • There is a biological reason they want it
  • Therefore they should get what they want.

The fallacious 'born this way' argument.

But that wasn't why gay rights were moral, or granted.

And it's definitely not the reason to grant a right like 'entering women's spaces' when the second point is unprovable on an individual level, and unproven on a group level, and the right in question harms others.

Gay men weren't and shouldn't have been given the right to enter women's spaces just because they're not sexually attracted to women. Same applies to trans-identified men.

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:55

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 17:53

I assume you're happy to talk about Katie Dolatowski then?

Yes what of it?

This is not evidence that allowing trans women to use female toilets increases incidents of rape and sexual assault. It doesn't.

You can ban trans women from using female toilets - it will have zero impact on reducing rape and sexual assault.

KateShugakIsALegend · 24/07/2025 17:55

Yes, @BeLemonNow

I feel like a tennis player where the other person just walks off the court because they can't risk playing on.

Not sure how blanking people helps.

Disappointed in @Tandora 's approach.

Likewise, am going to get on with other things.

Feels like an opportunity missed. (Shrugs)

Fidgetbreak · 24/07/2025 17:56

Fidgetbreak · 24/07/2025 16:33

I was thinking generally. To pick something more specific, perhaps, in the context of seeing a doctor? Maybe you could mention some contexts where it could differ as well?

@Tandora
Friendly reminder about this question. I'm still interested to hear what you know.

needtostopnamechanging · 24/07/2025 17:56

But the prison population data shows that transwomen offend at at least the same rate as other men

so you are saying single sex facilities are not needed as men won’t assault women in them

yet The data from council owned sports facilities showed that in fact sexual assaults do occur where facilities are mixed - and don’t occur where mixing doesn’t occur

cloudyblueglass · 24/07/2025 17:57

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:50

Your child is not infringing upon anyone rights by being trans and accepted and included as such.

Men demanding access to women’s spaces because they insist everyone not only believes they are female but also suffer the consequences should they dare to say ‘no’, is infringing upon women’s dignity, safety and privacy.

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 17:57

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:55

Yes what of it?

This is not evidence that allowing trans women to use female toilets increases incidents of rape and sexual assault. It doesn't.

You can ban trans women from using female toilets - it will have zero impact on reducing rape and sexual assault.

Why aren't other men allowed in female only spaces?

KateShugakIsALegend · 24/07/2025 17:58

I think the only thing left to do is gently remind Tandora of the ground we have covered and the questions that are unanswered in the event she starts the conversation up again.

Not sure what else we can do. We tried!

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:58

Fidgetbreak · 24/07/2025 17:56

@Tandora
Friendly reminder about this question. I'm still interested to hear what you know.

In the context of seeing a doctor, the doctor would assume the sex of the person by looking at them. There would be social cues - how they were dressed, their name, as well as cues related to physiological features associated with either sex. There is usually also a market on the medical record designating whether the person is 'f' or 'm'.

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:59

needtostopnamechanging · 24/07/2025 17:56

But the prison population data shows that transwomen offend at at least the same rate as other men

so you are saying single sex facilities are not needed as men won’t assault women in them

yet The data from council owned sports facilities showed that in fact sexual assaults do occur where facilities are mixed - and don’t occur where mixing doesn’t occur

The prison population is not a representative sample of the population - you cannot use extrapolate from it in this way. If you did you would generate some exceptionally racist conclusions for example.

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 18:00

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:58

In the context of seeing a doctor, the doctor would assume the sex of the person by looking at them. There would be social cues - how they were dressed, their name, as well as cues related to physiological features associated with either sex. There is usually also a market on the medical record designating whether the person is 'f' or 'm'.

How does a doctor decide what contraception to suggest?

KateShugakIsALegend · 24/07/2025 18:00

KateShugakIsALegend · 24/07/2025 17:50

@Tandora

@Tandora

  • You feel that probably most or all (not sure which) trans people have a medical reason for being trans. Is this right?
  • You believe there is extensive research to support this view, but have yet to cite it or provide links. Is this right? Have I missed the links?
  • Is BeLemonNow's summary of your thinking on this point correct (page 27)?
  • You believe that the tiny percentage of people currently diagnosed with DSD fall within this group (see above) of trans people (or do you think they are a separate group?)

Please correct my understanding if incorrect.

Now here's the thing:

why does any of the above mean that this small percentage of trans women (men at birth) have a right to be in a space for women if women don't want them there?

Go on, go on, just a quick response clarifying where we differ before the tread closes.

In the spirit of sharing what you know.

Tandora · 24/07/2025 18:00

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 17:57

Why aren't other men allowed in female only spaces?

Because of social convention, norms/ ideas about privacy/ dignity.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/07/2025 18:00

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:55

Yes what of it?

This is not evidence that allowing trans women to use female toilets increases incidents of rape and sexual assault. It doesn't.

You can ban trans women from using female toilets - it will have zero impact on reducing rape and sexual assault.

Of course it does, because trans women are capable of committing rape.

Allowing people who can commit rape into a space they are supposed to be excluded from is obviously going to increase the risk of rape.

BeLemonNow · 24/07/2025 18:01

Tandora · 24/07/2025 17:55

Yes what of it?

This is not evidence that allowing trans women to use female toilets increases incidents of rape and sexual assault. It doesn't.

You can ban trans women from using female toilets - it will have zero impact on reducing rape and sexual assault.

PS on a purely logical basis it doesn't matter what proportion of transwomen are sexual predators, some are, so letting them into a cis women spaces increases the risk of sexual assault purely by numbers.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/07/2025 18:01

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/07/2025 17:53

Well, quite obviously allowing trans women into female spaces increases the risk of rape, because trans women can commit rape and women cannot. This is not actually up for debate.

So if your daughter was raped in a women only space, and she said to you, "I know you really believe that trans women are women and that sharing our spaces with them doesn't increase the risk of rape or sexual assault, and I believed that too until I was actually raped by a trans woman in a women only space, but now I don't believe that anymore because I know I wouldn't have been raped in that space if only other female people had been in it."

What would you say in response?

Bumping this.

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 18:02

Tandora · 24/07/2025 18:00

Because of social convention, norms/ ideas about privacy/ dignity.

Edited

But why do we have those social conventions?

Tandora · 24/07/2025 18:02

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 18:00

How does a doctor decide what contraception to suggest?

Based on what reproductive anatomy the person had, which they would deduce based on their perception of the person's sex.

BackToLurk · 24/07/2025 18:03

Tandora · 24/07/2025 18:00

Because of social convention, norms/ ideas about privacy/ dignity.

Edited

Any idea what the roots of those conventions and ideas may be? I’m still unclear about whether you believe trans women are male or female

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 18:04

Tandora · 24/07/2025 18:02

Based on what reproductive anatomy the person had, which they would deduce based on their perception of the person's sex.

But how does the doctor know? How do they know what sex it is that they are perceiving?

Tandora · 24/07/2025 18:05

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 18:02

But why do we have those social conventions?

It has historical roots in patriarchal structures where men asserted control over women's sexual and reproductive behaviour/ capacities.

Tandora · 24/07/2025 18:06

crazysnakess · 24/07/2025 18:04

But how does the doctor know? How do they know what sex it is that they are perceiving?

I answered that above. Sometimes they may be wrong of course which would involve a conversation between the doctor and the patient.

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