I'm saying that there's not a way for any man to transition and not harm women and children.
There seems to be an idea that the majority of men who transition do so without harming women and children, but are quiet about it. And we only hear from the abusive ones.
What does a non abusive transition look like? If a man wants to be seen as a woman, at the very least he's going to change his name, get female id, change his pronouns. He's not going to correct anyone who calls him 'she'. He's allowing everyone around him, including children to pretend or be conned that he is female. That all causes safeguarding problems.
Lots of trans identifying men have contribute to threads here claiming to follow a reasonable transition. But its all based on the idea that they are in control of how and when they are 'outed' and use womens spaces.
After all, why transition and then be completely honest about your sex?