There's so much here that I'll have to split up to answer and, honestly, given that, even with notifications reduced as far as I can (without just blocking them all) I have 30+ (most of which is crap trolling), don't be fussed if I don't get back after.
"Honestly Bee, the only issues any of us have with what trans rights activists are demanding are the degree to which physical treatments with very severe side effects are being used to allieviate mental distress, and the conflation of sex and gender such that female people's sex-based rights and language are for some reason getting mixed up with gender validation"
This is just not true:
(a) many GC activists are explicitly eliminationist in their words
(b) most GCs in my experience use ancient homophobic tropes and laughably bad pseudoscience to imply that trans women are a sexual threat whilst gleefully ignoring that the vast majority of us take medications that are used as chemical castration agents (i.e. testosterone blockers). This is a common tactic used by hate groups throughout history (Irish people in the US, Black people, gay men and lesbians etc etc) during moral panics.
(c) many GC activists have espoused that trans people should have fundamental rights removed - a notable one was JK Rowling when she, in an opinion piece in the Times (or Telegraph, I never remember) stated that trans people should not have the presumption of innocence, which is pretty disgusting and shameful. GCs have been VERY active in trying to stop 'trans-inclusive' events happening and have time after time have (badly) attempted to try and separate trans people from our LGB siblings (carelessly not understanding queer culture at all).
etc etc
Trans people have been using cross-sex hormones for most of a century and the evidence for any harm is scant and usually related to synthetics, which barely any trans people use anyway. It's notable that I never hear GC activists express concern about the use of synthetics with younger cisgender women (where they are still used a LOT) via BC. Neither did I hear GC activists talk about the vaginal mesh scandal and rarely the issues with poor hormonal care for women going thru menopause.
When I talk to my friends who are feminists, I feel educated by them about these and many issues, when I talk with GCs, it's crickets.
It's just concern trolling and for a 'movement' that states that it's based in feminism it sure is against bodily autonomy.
Trans people have been medically transitioning for most of a century, we're hardly a secret and the 'norm' is to accept that trans people move to their acquired sex. You can see such 'woke' publications such as the Sun and Daily Star in decades past seamlessly respecting trans people's names, pronouns and gender. Nobody (including trans people) said that trans men were exactly like men or that trans women were exactly like women, but that they were close enough and that was fine.
It is 'gender critical' (I wish it critiqued gender) ideology that is new, based on the unscientific and reductionistic mantra of 'sex is immutable' and contradicting most biologists' understanding of 'sex'. Obviously GC ideology comes from TERFism, but is pretty unrecognisable now from that.
I say this as I don't believe that GC ideology is anything more than a fancy label for a moral panic - TERFism was a thing..a very strange thing that most sane ppl would recoil in horror from, but GCism is just a mask for the lizard brain disgust that you and many people have about queer people...I know it well, I've seen it my whole life.
GCs show rarely show concern for women except when it comes to trans people - in my (queer) community there was far more talk and celebration over the recent decriminalisation of abortion amendment(s) than in all the GC spaces I know. Hell, you only have to look at these forums where the anti-trans forum is constantly abuzz whilst the feminism chat forum is, well, pretty dead..and even when something does appear, it often turns into 'about the trans'.
Furthermore, with the recent removal of protections from trans people (don't gaslight me, even Cunningham acknowledged it) - there was literally no mention of the effects on cisgender women in GC spaces - something that many (non GC) woman have expressed concerns about.
This is why we call you 'anti-trans' activists - just like the women in years past who would spread panic about predatory lesbians in changing rooms, it's never about protecting women, womanhood or 'sex-based rights', it's about that seething hate of difference.
Obviously trans people are a demographic and there are dodgy trans people like any group..hell I argue with other trans people all the time and I'm not averse to telling people off. Are there things that we could do better as a (very heterogeneous) community? Sure, but y'know it's kinda hard when you're being constantly demonised in the media to an insane level, when the mental health crisis is so bad that every day I expect to hear about more terrible misery or, gods forbid, another completed suicide, when your healthcare is in shambles and your rights are being removed.
Anyway, that's enough for now, sorry if that is offensive to you. Have a lovely afternoon.