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Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:50

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:46

WRONG!!! I just check and they posted 3 posts on the first page alone and NEVER ONCE said they were black. I haven't even checked page 2 onwards.

You don't get to plant the seed that I am lying when YOU are! Check your facts before you mouth off and embarrass yourself.

Should I declare I’m black every time I post on mumsnet? maybe mums net should have some sort of label to identify so that white posters know they are not talking to their type 😳 genuinely have no idea what you are accusing me of

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:51

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:48

I said people accuse black people of looking masculine or having masculine features because of beauty standards rooted in white supremacy. At least read what I’m saying.

And I said we judge on SKELETAL MAKEUP and male SEX appearance such as skeletal makeup and male jawbones and male anatomy. Not on aesthetics such as 'beauty' standards. At least read what I said HOURS AGO!

spannasaurus · 19/06/2025 17:52

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:48

I said people accuse black people of looking masculine or having masculine features because of beauty standards rooted in white supremacy. At least read what I’m saying.

Semanya has masculine features because he is a man. This is nothing to do with any beauty standards.

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:52

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:50

Should I declare I’m black every time I post on mumsnet? maybe mums net should have some sort of label to identify so that white posters know they are not talking to their type 😳 genuinely have no idea what you are accusing me of

Ummm...... I was responding to someone who said you mentioned it in your first post.

At least try and use comprehension.

Helleofabore · 19/06/2025 17:52

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:43

I have never called any poster on here racist. I have said that white feminists give little to no consideration to the racial issues at play.

I have said many times the discourse needs to be around policies, standardised testing and sex legislation - not eyeballing people and targeting individuals for signs of masculinity based on looks which often leads to harm against minority women.

So you think saying that I don’t care about racism is not you saying I am racist? While in the midst of a discussion about ‘white’ feminism?

Do you begin to understand how people might miscontrue this and that you are now showing that you have double standards? And that you may have applied those to JK Rowling?

Now, again I ask you for about the fourth or fifth time, what words exactly can women use to have this discussion that doesn’t offend you?

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 17:53

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:46

All this because I agree with Steven Fry that JKR has become hardened over the years from what was originally a thoughtful, nuanced and courageous position.

The quoted comment is just one example of where I as a GC women do not align with JKRs views but there are many more aspects of her approach I disagree with

Are you saying you can't tell the difference between a man and a woman by using your eyes?

The only person who brought race into this is you.

The only person calling a black man a woman is you.

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:53

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:52

Ummm...... I was responding to someone who said you mentioned it in your first post.

At least try and use comprehension.

Who was responding to you saying that my blackness wasn’t convincing…

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:54

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:46

All this because I agree with Steven Fry that JKR has become hardened over the years from what was originally a thoughtful, nuanced and courageous position.

The quoted comment is just one example of where I as a GC women do not align with JKRs views but there are many more aspects of her approach I disagree with

JKR has become hardened over the years from what was originally a thoughtful, nuanced and courageous position.

And you blame her?!??? After YEARS of vile abuse, RAPE threats, and death threats? FFS, you really blame her?!???????

You are not GC. You never were. Stop the pretence. You must think we're stupid.

spannasaurus · 19/06/2025 17:54

Fry here talking about child prostitutes in victorian times and about how we still have child prostitutes in current times with the examples given being Rotherham and Manchester

https://x.com/Jonnywsbell/status/1935696754223264095

https://x.com/Jonnywsbell/status/1935696754223264095

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:54

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:53

Who was responding to you saying that my blackness wasn’t convincing…

Oh FFS, you really cannot read, can you? NO ONE said anything about your 'blackness not being convincing'.

TheKeatingFive · 19/06/2025 17:55

@Christmasmorale once again I ask.

Who on here or in GC circles more generally has said a black woman looks like a man?

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 17:55

I take it that today has been a WFH day @Christmasmorale ?

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 17:56

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:51

And I said we judge on SKELETAL MAKEUP and male SEX appearance such as skeletal makeup and male jawbones and male anatomy. Not on aesthetics such as 'beauty' standards. At least read what I said HOURS AGO!

Yes this.

God this is so tiresome... I feel like I've gone back in time 5 years with this same old crap being peddled over and over...

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:56

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 17:55

I take it that today has been a WFH day @Christmasmorale ?

yes I’ve had an I-hate-ADHD day 😭 it sucks 😔

Helleofabore · 19/06/2025 17:57

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:48

I said people accuse black people of looking masculine or having masculine features because of beauty standards rooted in white supremacy. At least read what I’m saying.

And no one has done that on this thread.

We have pointed out clearly that we are identifying correctly a masculinised body. We even posted information about how male body cues are different to female body cues. Did you read any of it?

It is not about beauty standards. It is not about looks.

If you need feminists to use language you don’t find offensive, the thread is open to you? Do you need another poster to ask you because I don’t speak in a way that is appropriate enough for you to respond ?

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:57

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 11:26

It is not a slam dunk. It's to say why I think JKR is not a hero. Why I strongly dislike her tweets and think she goes far beyond what is necessary for an otherwise worthwhile cause

Yesterday she tweeted this. Same women that tweeted a nasty post about female footballer Barbra Banda.

How is that not targeting individuals? What makes her tweets OK? and is it coincidence that the athletes targeted are all non-white women? Of course feminism and race are interlinked and it is not gaslighting to call people out on it, and to refuse to let JKR define discourse on the topic of women's spaces.

Barbra Banda is also male with 5ARD.

Do you think feminists should not call out males because they're black? Because that is exactly what you're saying.

SternJoyousBee · 19/06/2025 17:59

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:46

All this because I agree with Steven Fry that JKR has become hardened over the years from what was originally a thoughtful, nuanced and courageous position.

The quoted comment is just one example of where I as a GC women do not align with JKRs views but there are many more aspects of her approach I disagree with

Do you think being sent violent threats on a daily basis could possibly explain the “hardened” approach?

and why the hell shouldn’t she she take a hardline approach? Why are women always expected to #bekind ?

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 18:01

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 11:38

Caster is a woman because she was raised as such. Even JKR would agree with me that a woman is not defined by looks. Black women come in all forms, and there are black women who do look like Ms Semenya.

Looks should be taken out of the picture and standardised sex testing implemented, which we agree on. But until then, the eyesight test will allow people's racial biases to play out and disprortionately harm non-white athletes.

Caster is a male because he was raised as male from all accounts and all photos.

A woman is an adult human female. A male with a cock and nutsack who fathers children with his own sperm is not a woman.

(I've been absent for a few hours so am catching up with prior posts)

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 18:03

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:56

yes I’ve had an I-hate-ADHD day 😭 it sucks 😔

Instead you’ve spent the day in a spat and saying things like I said people accuse black people of looking masculine or having masculine features because of beauty standards rooted in white supremacy. which is a concern that I have never even heard about in any discussion around race let alone someone actually say that they think that

who are these “people”? @Christmasmorale

Helleofabore · 19/06/2025 18:03

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:57

Barbra Banda is also male with 5ARD.

Do you think feminists should not call out males because they're black? Because that is exactly what you're saying.

That is the messaging that I am getting here.

And the lack of providing us with the acceptable language is signalling to me that there is NO WAY any feminist can discuss this without being racist. All because someone cannot accept that correctly identifying a male body has nothing to do with beauty standards. But also because beauty standards were referred to by racist people in the past that means no one can discuss male body cues without offending others.

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 18:03

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 11:44

This is not proven. She was assigned female at birth and raised as a women. She has higher testosterone levels than the threshold, and refused to take drugs to suppress her natural hormonal balance. That's as far as we know. Her medical tests should be played out in private.

The wider argument about sex and sport should be done publicly without reference to individuals. I am all for standardised sex testing so that witch hunts against minority individuals are avoided in future. There should be no place for that in sport or society.

That is my point about JKR attacking and making the discourse about individuals - it causes real harm and has racist undertones. The discussion can be had about what policies could avoid the situation in the first place.

No one is 'assigned' a sex at birth.

It is not physically possible for a woman to have even 10 percent the level of testosterone that a male has. If Banda has high testosterone, it's because he's a MALE.

Blinkagain · 19/06/2025 18:04

She was assigned female at birth

by whom?

ThatCyanCat · 19/06/2025 18:04

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:46

All this because I agree with Steven Fry that JKR has become hardened over the years from what was originally a thoughtful, nuanced and courageous position.

The quoted comment is just one example of where I as a GC women do not align with JKRs views but there are many more aspects of her approach I disagree with

You think a man who was socialised as a woman is a woman so nobody with any brains will listen to anything you have to say about being GC. It's the complete antithesis to the premise of GC.

But go on, then, O Nuanced One. What has JKR said since 2020 that contradicts the position you claim to admire, even though you can't possibly share it if you think wearing dresses as a kid makes Semenya a woman? How has her position changed?

Daygloboo · 19/06/2025 18:07

FlirtsWithRhinos · 19/06/2025 17:26

Well, no.

Even if it were true, the argument would still have to be "I have a ladybrain and that makes my male body actually the same as your female one in a deeper than physical sex way", and that is still a big (I would say indefendable) claim.

The reason we have female only supports is because people with female bodies were marginalised or at risk. Having some sort of ladybrain structure in a male body doesn't put one into the catgeory of people with female bodies.

Saying a "womanlike" brain structure if found in a male mind means that man is actually a physical female is like saying if a cyclist drives a car then the car is actually a bike and it's fine to use it in cycle lanes, race in cycle races and so on 😂 The issue is not the the cyclist isn't a cyclist, it's that the car is not a bike.

So end of the day, even if it were true, it still wouldn't justify what trans women want from women.

It's just another manipulation, an attempt to imply that if you don't accept TW as women you are somehow base, unable to perceive beyond a simplistic physical object to a deeper realm of mind. Emperors new clothes. Confusing mud being thrown around to justify a demand that if was made in simple language - "I am a man but I feel like I think women must feel so I want you to pretend I am one just like you" no one would consider reasonable for a hot second.

At best it might mean a little more sympathy to why the demands get made (although as I said on another post, the "womanhood" expressed by some trans women is very hard to reconcile with my experience of being female and sometimes downright offensive, so the idea that it's stemming from some sort of genuine mental commonality with female people is - unconvincing).

What it might do if actually real is bring about a more subtle understanding of personality. Maybe we'd start to see BrainFeel as something meaningful and maybe have services/supports tailored to that. But that would be something aside from sex, not a replacement for sex or a reason that physical sex, that has been a significant factor in how we humans treat each other and see ourselves, is suddenly magically not going to be noticed.

That's very interesting. Thanks.

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 18:09

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 12:26

FFS my first post said she makes very valid points, but her way of doing so is often inflammatory and targets individuals. That is what I disagree with!! That some of the criticism of her is very justified.

She has never targeted anyone that hasn't targeted her. So you are attacking the VICTIM for defending herself.

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