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TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:32

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:40

No I am saying that she is a woman by gender having been brought up in society as a girl and woman. That doesn't mean she should be entitled to compete against biological women, but socially she can identify as a woman.

I am saying she was entitled to quiet dignity in how her case was handled, rather than the public humiliation she endured.

I am saying that as a black woman I have more in common with Ms Semenya than I do with a lot of you on here. My lived experience will be more similar to hers - the race discrimination I face is real. I have been called the n word more times than I care to remember. The sex discrimination and sexual violence is real (and in my experience perpetuated by men not trans women).

Yes women's spaces need protecting but the level of noise given to the issue of protecting women's spaces from trans women is not proportionate to the impact of the issue on most women's daily lives. I have real issues to concern myself rather than joining the hysteria on here. I am here wondering what life will look like for us in a Reform led UK, wondering how to respond when my child has been called a racist slur at school. I'm here no longer jogging early morning or late night in my local area for fear of male violence.

White feminism feels very out of touch on this issue - the lived reality of many women requires immediate action now. But here you are trying to exclude Ms Semenya from the only gender she has known. How does that affect your life in any way?

'Gender' doesn't exist. Only sex exists. And HE was brought up male, is male, and ejaculated as a male and fathered children as a male.

Please stop calling HIM 'her'. You are being disrespectful and deceitful.

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:34

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:32

I’m saying that the targeting of her, the way her case was handled was hugely innapropriate and racist, yes. Even if the outcome was ultimately correct. This is something that needs to be addressed as black female athletes and other minorities are ultimately the ones that suffer from normalising that treatment and judgment of our bodies on eyesight first.

That’s why I’ve said repeatedly on this thread that I welcome standardised sex testing but until then the GC approach required greater awareness of racial sensitives and bias, and harm caused to black women as a result of the current approach to target individual DSD athletes.

There was nothing racist in the approach of HIS case. You are the one being racist here, because you think he looks like a male.

DiamondThrone · 19/06/2025 17:34

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:30

He would have had medical exams. And if he has a micropenis, like those with 5ARD do, and testes, he would have ejaculated during puberty.

He would have known.

Plus the fact that he has fathered children. I think that's a bit of a giveaway?

RedToothBrush · 19/06/2025 17:35

Can we get back on topic. We were just discussing Steven Fry's dubious appreciation of certain men throughout history.

I'd hate for that to be lost in the middle of a conversation about Caster who is male and has always been male.

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:36

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:46

When did I say that biological men/boys should compete against girls?

Then stop being racist because you think black people look masculine, and stop calling a male who was brought up as a male and who ejaculated and fathered children with his penis and his nuts 'she'.

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:37

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:27

Again, this is an example of your hateful racism. Semenya never experienced racism at all. The fact you think he did, shows you think he did because you think he looks male.

To say that Semenya experienced racism isn’t controversial.

Even ignoring the fact she identifies as a women, statistically we know that black men are given longer sentences for the same crime, black women are four times more likely to die in childbirth, black people are more likely to be stopped and searched by police, black patients are less likely to be given pain relief for the same conditions as their white counterparts. The public humiliation Semenya endured and handling of her case was rooted in racism, and there were many racist comments at the time. Just because it makes you uncomfortable doesn’t make it untrue.

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:38

PopeJoan2 · 19/06/2025 10:53

Perhaps read up on intersectionality?

Please read up on biological FACTS, not the MISOGYNIST invention of 'intersectionality'.

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:38

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:36

Then stop being racist because you think black people look masculine, and stop calling a male who was brought up as a male and who ejaculated and fathered children with his penis and his nuts 'she'.

When did I say black people look masculine? Those are your words.

viques · 19/06/2025 17:38

Daygloboo · 19/06/2025 16:18

What is the determiner. Is it chromosomes. I did read somewhere that some scientists have done research that suggests there are male and female brains producing distinct categories of experience. Im not a scientist so i have no idea how that would work. The research is in its infancy. Could it be that the trans people were right all along and that 100 years from now there wont even be an argument.

I reckon it will take quite a lot longer than 100 years of evolution for the binary nature of all mammals , the large and small gametes associated with female and male mammals that determine how sexual reproduction in mammals occurs, the skeletal difference in male and female human bodies, and the clearly identifiable chromosomal structure of the human genome that shows how our dna is inherited from our male and female parents to change our understanding of what makes a person either male or female.

But hey, who knows, maybe the suggestion that there are male and female brains - and of course assuming the male/ female brain thing overrides all the physiological stuff, and then trumps all that well documented evolutionary science - means we can happily abandon pronouns forever.

But let’s start with the easy stuff.

Sex in mammals is binary. Sex is fixed ,you can’t change it.

Gender is a social concept, gender is not sex, gender is not interchangeable with sex.

Helleofabore · 19/06/2025 17:39

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:22

Because black women experience misogyny in a different way to white women and that experience has the same root as Semenya’s experience of racism.

So, Semenya was subject to misogyny even though Semenya IS male and was rightfully identified as male by people using the visual cues of masculinisation?

But just by women noticing that Semenya is male, and discussing it using precise and accurate language, women are showing that they don’t care about racism as you accused me of earlier? Although YOU apparently can care about two things but in our discussion correcting misinformation, we cannot and are worthy of your accusations of racism.

And you won’t then give us the language that we CAN use so as not to be offensive to you.

Have I interpreted your posts correctly now?

Helleofabore · 19/06/2025 17:41

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:37

To say that Semenya experienced racism isn’t controversial.

Even ignoring the fact she identifies as a women, statistically we know that black men are given longer sentences for the same crime, black women are four times more likely to die in childbirth, black people are more likely to be stopped and searched by police, black patients are less likely to be given pain relief for the same conditions as their white counterparts. The public humiliation Semenya endured and handling of her case was rooted in racism, and there were many racist comments at the time. Just because it makes you uncomfortable doesn’t make it untrue.

How was the handling of Semenya’s case rooted in racism please?

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:41

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:37

To say that Semenya experienced racism isn’t controversial.

Even ignoring the fact she identifies as a women, statistically we know that black men are given longer sentences for the same crime, black women are four times more likely to die in childbirth, black people are more likely to be stopped and searched by police, black patients are less likely to be given pain relief for the same conditions as their white counterparts. The public humiliation Semenya endured and handling of her case was rooted in racism, and there were many racist comments at the time. Just because it makes you uncomfortable doesn’t make it untrue.

AGAIN, please stop saying 'her'. He is a male with a cock and balls who fathered children and married his wife in a country that hadn't had gay marriage. He identifies, numerous times in interviews, as a MAN. Please respect that.

The public humiliation Semenya endured and handling of her case was rooted in racism

WRONG! It was rooted in the fact he was demonstrably MALE. And that had nothing to do with his 'non-feminine looks'. If anything, he was protected and lauded, and got off far too easily.

Just because the facts that he was not held accountable makes you uncomfortable, does not make your hateful racism true.

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:42

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:38

When did I say black people look masculine? Those are your words.

Those are your words in your posts. You stated a few times you think he looked non-feminine and you linked looks to race.

At least own what you said.

ThatCyanCat · 19/06/2025 17:43

RedToothBrush · 19/06/2025 17:35

Can we get back on topic. We were just discussing Steven Fry's dubious appreciation of certain men throughout history.

I'd hate for that to be lost in the middle of a conversation about Caster who is male and has always been male.

I'd hate for that to be lost in the middle of a conversation about Caster

I'm sure Christmas knows that. Deflection, obfuscation, absurdity, projection, arrant nonsense.

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 17:43

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:37

To say that Semenya experienced racism isn’t controversial.

Even ignoring the fact she identifies as a women, statistically we know that black men are given longer sentences for the same crime, black women are four times more likely to die in childbirth, black people are more likely to be stopped and searched by police, black patients are less likely to be given pain relief for the same conditions as their white counterparts. The public humiliation Semenya endured and handling of her case was rooted in racism, and there were many racist comments at the time. Just because it makes you uncomfortable doesn’t make it untrue.

All this because JKR tweets that she can tell the difference between a man and a woman by using her eyes? 😬

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:43

Helleofabore · 19/06/2025 17:39

So, Semenya was subject to misogyny even though Semenya IS male and was rightfully identified as male by people using the visual cues of masculinisation?

But just by women noticing that Semenya is male, and discussing it using precise and accurate language, women are showing that they don’t care about racism as you accused me of earlier? Although YOU apparently can care about two things but in our discussion correcting misinformation, we cannot and are worthy of your accusations of racism.

And you won’t then give us the language that we CAN use so as not to be offensive to you.

Have I interpreted your posts correctly now?

I have never called any poster on here racist. I have said that white feminists give little to no consideration to the racial issues at play.

I have said many times the discourse needs to be around policies, standardised testing and sex legislation - not eyeballing people and targeting individuals for signs of masculinity based on looks which often leads to harm against minority women.

TheKeatingFive · 19/06/2025 17:46

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:43

I have never called any poster on here racist. I have said that white feminists give little to no consideration to the racial issues at play.

I have said many times the discourse needs to be around policies, standardised testing and sex legislation - not eyeballing people and targeting individuals for signs of masculinity based on looks which often leads to harm against minority women.

What white feminist on here or anywhere else do you think targeted these men based on looks?

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:46

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 17:43

All this because JKR tweets that she can tell the difference between a man and a woman by using her eyes? 😬

All this because I agree with Steven Fry that JKR has become hardened over the years from what was originally a thoughtful, nuanced and courageous position.

The quoted comment is just one example of where I as a GC women do not align with JKRs views but there are many more aspects of her approach I disagree with

spannasaurus · 19/06/2025 17:46

What does cause harm to minority women is losing out on medals due to men competing against them.

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:46

PopeJoan2 · 19/06/2025 10:56

Nope, @christmasmorale said they were black from the moment they started posting. You don’t get to plant the seed that they may be lying in order to continue your attack on them or as a crude way of gaining advantage.

WRONG!!! I just check and they posted 3 posts on the first page alone and NEVER ONCE said they were black. I haven't even checked page 2 onwards.

You don't get to plant the seed that I am lying when YOU are! Check your facts before you mouth off and embarrass yourself.

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:48

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:42

Those are your words in your posts. You stated a few times you think he looked non-feminine and you linked looks to race.

At least own what you said.

I said people accuse black people of looking masculine or having masculine features because of beauty standards rooted in white supremacy. At least read what I’m saying.

TheKeatingFive · 19/06/2025 17:48

Can we just be clear that JKR made zero comments about Khelif until after he had failed two sex eligibility tests.

illinivich · 19/06/2025 17:48

The first thing TRA said when maya Forstater won her case was 'women have the right to hold GC opinions, but not the right to express them'.

Its the same argument Fry holds, JKR has the right to hold an opinion, but not the right to express them in a way fry disapproves of.

Is it about men expecting women to be mothers and make sure everybody is happy before we think of our own needs?

TheKeatingFive · 19/06/2025 17:49

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 17:48

I said people accuse black people of looking masculine or having masculine features because of beauty standards rooted in white supremacy. At least read what I’m saying.

Who had done this?

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 17:49

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 11:12

I work a lot closer to the situation than you would believe. And African sport has bigger issues than Caster Semenya taking a spot (if you believe unsubstantiated claims that this was done purposefully with knowledge of her DSD status). Underfunding, coach abuse and trafficking is a bigger issue,

As a black woman I will always stand with the victim of public racism and humiliation on a international scale- you would be hard pressed to find a black woman who doesn't think that Caster was treated awfully. This does not mean that I think she should compete in a category she was discovered not to belong to. I can care about both issues.

You only care for the black female athletes in a intellectual way to make your point against another black victim. The fact you still insist on misgendering Ms Semenya tells me all I need to know. You will not ever understand the plight of black people or women and it is not my job to educate you.

HE. The fact that you continue to mis-sex a male who admits he is male, identifies as a male, and fathered a child with his cock and balls shows how disingenuous you are.

The racism, is on you. And Semenya had such an easy time with it with people going kid gloves on him so it makes your disgusting accusations even more hypocritical and galling.

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