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ThatCyanCat · 19/06/2025 09:59

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 09:56

Well there was that partially sighted bloke who ran in the women's Paras....

Laurel Hubbard, the intact white man who competed in women's Olympics weightlifting, taking opportunities from native Maori women.

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 09:59

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 19/06/2025 09:57

It would have been perfectly clear if you had just said "women".

And would have used fewer words. For convenience.

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:00

ThatCyanCat · 19/06/2025 09:54

It doesn't matter what you look like, it doesn't matter what your friends and family look like. Caster is a man and that is fact. You are ten years behind the times on this one, even the TRAs mostly accept the fact on this and instead try to argue that there's no male athletic advantage but we should still keep female sports so men can be affirmed as women by competing in them. Keep up.

It matters what black women look like because gender testing is not standardised in athletics, but only done on looks. So once someone is deemed to look like a man, and is called out on it, they are tested. This leads to discrimination based on what the world deems a women looks like. Black women being the victim of may accussations of manliness (just go on twitter and look at comments on posts about Serena Williams and Michelle Obama to see)

Why do you think there's so much support for Caster from black women. Her sex is irrelevant to the wider discussion on inequality and racism within these systems.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 19/06/2025 10:02

LimeFinch · 19/06/2025 09:37

Indeed. If you're not part of the trans-hate-cult, you must be against the trans-hate-cult.

I'm certainly against the trans-hate-cult, assuming you mean the activists and allies who demonstrate their hatred of women's rights daily. On the other hand, people who identify as trans can be lovely people, albeit somewhat confused about sex and gender.

zanahoria · 19/06/2025 10:02

SquashedMallow · 19/06/2025 09:55

I'll be honest: I used to absolutely love Stephen Fry. Really admire him.

But he seems to have changed.

What I admired was the fact he was gay was the least identifiable thing about him. He didn't ever really bring his sexuality into things.

Now, he seems to have jumped on the modern bandwagon and I think it's to his detriment.

I've read all of Stephen Fry's autobiographies and the 'smarmy' and 'obnoxious ' way he comes across is hides very deep rooted insecurity and self hatred - and I do believe him there.

But I don't like what I see as a hostile and patronising attitude towards women. He made a comment once upon a time (it was on the lines of finding vaginas pointless and disgusting in a sexual capacity)

Gay men don't fancy women or female bodies - I get that. But there's no need to mock or belittle or air repulsion at the female form. He may as well have said "women are pointless and silly"

He's not the only gay man that gives of those vibes : Elton John gives me those vibes too. I think some gay men really sneer at female sexuality.

I think he just that old fashioned public school boy view of women.

If he had fallen out with man he would have likely said why, what that man had said that he found contentious but with a woman he just expresses moral disapproval.

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:02

Igneococcus · 19/06/2025 09:58

Which could be avoided by genetically testing sports people at the start
of their careers before or when they start to compete internationally. And we absolutely have the ability and sequencing capacity to do that.

I agree, but it's not. So my point stands and I'm not sure why others are refusing to see the discrimination and racism that suggests these discussions need to be more nuanced than they are. There are many victims of these systems, not just biological women

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 10:02

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:00

It matters what black women look like because gender testing is not standardised in athletics, but only done on looks. So once someone is deemed to look like a man, and is called out on it, they are tested. This leads to discrimination based on what the world deems a women looks like. Black women being the victim of may accussations of manliness (just go on twitter and look at comments on posts about Serena Williams and Michelle Obama to see)

Why do you think there's so much support for Caster from black women. Her sex is irrelevant to the wider discussion on inequality and racism within these systems.

Well given that the majority on here want sex testing for all in female sports, that pretty much undermines your whole argument.

CurlyKoalie · 19/06/2025 10:02

I have always thought of Stephen Fry as well read but not very intelligent.
Unfortunately it's a persistent relic of the British class system that a posh voice = a definite fact.
This is backed up by media organisations like the BBC
I hate the way that SF resorts to demeaning comments just because someone holds a different opinion to him or presents a better argument.
Hardly a glowing enforcement of "British values" in the 21st century.
A truly intelligent person would argue their case without resort to personal insults and accept (albeit reluctantly) that other people may have different perspectives.
Notice how the race activists have jumped in on this thread too. Being white and having an opinion doesn't make you racist or "privileged"
What on earth has happened to the idea of discussing things without dragging out every historical clique?

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 10:03

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 09:52

We know this now. After humiliating her publicly. She ws determined a girl at birth with the medical knowledge available to her community at the time because her testes were internal.

We don't know the same of white female athletes who are also DSD, because the tests are only done after the female athletes are accused. And the athletes are accused in a structure that sees white ideals of beauty as female beauty - so other races will more likely be deemed as not meeting those standards and then subjected to the testing.

I'm not sure if you're purposely missing the point. The hysteria on this topic exists within racist structures and then affects other races in a way it does not affect white people. The hysteria vilifies and affects individuals, some of whom find out they are not biologically women at the same time as the world. How is this right or humane?

Caster was raised as a boy. That's been confirmed.

And again with the 'hysteria' slur. You couldn't make it more obvious you have a deep hatred of women if you so desperately tried.

tobee · 19/06/2025 10:03

SquashedMallow · 19/06/2025 09:55

I'll be honest: I used to absolutely love Stephen Fry. Really admire him.

But he seems to have changed.

What I admired was the fact he was gay was the least identifiable thing about him. He didn't ever really bring his sexuality into things.

Now, he seems to have jumped on the modern bandwagon and I think it's to his detriment.

I've read all of Stephen Fry's autobiographies and the 'smarmy' and 'obnoxious ' way he comes across is hides very deep rooted insecurity and self hatred - and I do believe him there.

But I don't like what I see as a hostile and patronising attitude towards women. He made a comment once upon a time (it was on the lines of finding vaginas pointless and disgusting in a sexual capacity)

Gay men don't fancy women or female bodies - I get that. But there's no need to mock or belittle or air repulsion at the female form. He may as well have said "women are pointless and silly"

He's not the only gay man that gives of those vibes : Elton John gives me those vibes too. I think some gay men really sneer at female sexuality.

Excellent post.

IIRC the thing about "vaginas being disgusting" was linked to having first come across one leaving his mother's womb. Which is jaw droppingly shocking.

Cabbageheads · 19/06/2025 10:04

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 09:52

We know this now. After humiliating her publicly. She ws determined a girl at birth with the medical knowledge available to her community at the time because her testes were internal.

We don't know the same of white female athletes who are also DSD, because the tests are only done after the female athletes are accused. And the athletes are accused in a structure that sees white ideals of beauty as female beauty - so other races will more likely be deemed as not meeting those standards and then subjected to the testing.

I'm not sure if you're purposely missing the point. The hysteria on this topic exists within racist structures and then affects other races in a way it does not affect white people. The hysteria vilifies and affects individuals, some of whom find out they are not biologically women at the same time as the world. How is this right or humane?

But by the time Semenya started racing in the female category, having been through puberty and had not a single sign of female puberty - no breast development, no periods - Semenya would have known he was male, yes? He did not discover this on the day it hit the press. Semenya was selected to race in the female category BECAUSE he is male. A female athlete could have been chosen. Instead, a decision was made to put forward a male athlete instead. This idea that no-one had a clue, that it wasn't deliberate, that the only reason anyone complained is because of Semenya's race, is a pathetic attempt to use an accusation of racism to shame people so that they'll be too afraid to point out that it is cheating.

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:05

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 10:02

Well given that the majority on here want sex testing for all in female sports, that pretty much undermines your whole argument.

We do want sex testing. But we're talking about discourse on the topic in the present, not in a fantasy situation that doesn't yet exist.

It's like saying your argument is undermined because we all want biological women's spaces to be protected. Completely illogical.

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 10:05

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 10:02

Well given that the majority on here want sex testing for all in female sports, that pretty much undermines your whole argument.

Also you're the only one here arguing that a black man is in fact a woman. Let that sink in...

TooSquaretobehip · 19/06/2025 10:05

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:00

It matters what black women look like because gender testing is not standardised in athletics, but only done on looks. So once someone is deemed to look like a man, and is called out on it, they are tested. This leads to discrimination based on what the world deems a women looks like. Black women being the victim of may accussations of manliness (just go on twitter and look at comments on posts about Serena Williams and Michelle Obama to see)

Why do you think there's so much support for Caster from black women. Her sex is irrelevant to the wider discussion on inequality and racism within these systems.

It's not based on looks such as 'masculine vs feminine' looks. It's based on skeletal structure and male tells. This has been explained to you.

We know that some black women often support people from their own race instinctively. It doesn't say anything other than that.

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:06

Cabbageheads · 19/06/2025 10:04

But by the time Semenya started racing in the female category, having been through puberty and had not a single sign of female puberty - no breast development, no periods - Semenya would have known he was male, yes? He did not discover this on the day it hit the press. Semenya was selected to race in the female category BECAUSE he is male. A female athlete could have been chosen. Instead, a decision was made to put forward a male athlete instead. This idea that no-one had a clue, that it wasn't deliberate, that the only reason anyone complained is because of Semenya's race, is a pathetic attempt to use an accusation of racism to shame people so that they'll be too afraid to point out that it is cheating.

Some women who do sports at elite level and don't have periods until they stop.

SnoopyPajamas · 19/06/2025 10:06

Stephen Fry is a bit stuck, I think. He's built his career on his intelligence. He's Mr QI. And yet he fell for an ideology someone with no education at all could see through. As KJK said, "I'm not a vet but I know what a dog is". Everyday people without his education could see the emperor had no clothes.

I do believe Fry has caught up to that at last. Hence the Triggernometry appearance and all the faffing about, implying being kind is more important than being right. He knows he'll look a fool if he continues to blindly parrot the TWAW party line. But his ego won't allow him to take the final step of humbling himself. He can't say, "I'm sorry, I was wrong and I was stupid". That'd be unthinkable to him. Complete ego death. Unfortunately for him, most of us (women in particular) are so sick of his shit, that humility is his only real shot at forgiveness.

If memory serves, Fry also personally funded a young women's double mastectomy. He has to believe trans and trans surgeries are in some way justified, because it brings up really uncomfortable moral questions if he doesn't.

Igneococcus · 19/06/2025 10:06

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:02

I agree, but it's not. So my point stands and I'm not sure why others are refusing to see the discrimination and racism that suggests these discussions need to be more nuanced than they are. There are many victims of these systems, not just biological women

There used to be testing at the Olympics at least which was abolished against the wishes of the majority of female athletes. You need to take your ire to the people (men mostly) who made that decision.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 19/06/2025 10:07

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:02

I agree, but it's not. So my point stands and I'm not sure why others are refusing to see the discrimination and racism that suggests these discussions need to be more nuanced than they are. There are many victims of these systems, not just biological women

Your point doesn’t stand, it’s a complete non sequitur.

ThatCyanCat · 19/06/2025 10:07

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:00

It matters what black women look like because gender testing is not standardised in athletics, but only done on looks. So once someone is deemed to look like a man, and is called out on it, they are tested. This leads to discrimination based on what the world deems a women looks like. Black women being the victim of may accussations of manliness (just go on twitter and look at comments on posts about Serena Williams and Michelle Obama to see)

Why do you think there's so much support for Caster from black women. Her sex is irrelevant to the wider discussion on inequality and racism within these systems.

It matters what black women look like because gender testing is not standardised in athletics, but only done on looks.

You have got to be taking the piss now, surely. Time was when athletes were indeed tested for their sex, it's a simple one off cheek swab. It was scrapped after pressure from activists wanting men in women's sports, against the wishes of a large majority of female athletes. And it can be reintroduced just as easily, and women's rights activists including Sharron Davies, who took a sex test when she was competing in her youth, have been calling for this for YEARS.

Did you seriously not know this? I'm not sure you can be for real with the stuff you're coming out with.

2021x · 19/06/2025 10:08

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 09:56

Well there was that partially sighted bloke who ran in the women's Paras....

They were included under the Trans rules.
They didn’t say they were female, just that they have the right to compete as women, because they had transitioned.

Caster, Imane and Ling said that they were female which was incorrect. If they had been born situations that had good health resources they would have been brought up as boys.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 19/06/2025 10:08

LimeFinch · 19/06/2025 09:41

MN actually and actively bans words that don't align with a narrow ideology. Is that really true?

"Cis" does align with a narrow ideology. Nothing on MN is completely banned, the moderators try to take context into account, and in any case posts are not deleted if no-one has reported them.

Flossflower · 19/06/2025 10:09

I once read/heard SF described as a stupid person’s idea of an intelligent person and that seemed to fit him.
I dislike the man a lot.

BettyBooper · 19/06/2025 10:09

2021x · 19/06/2025 10:08

They were included under the Trans rules.
They didn’t say they were female, just that they have the right to compete as women, because they had transitioned.

Caster, Imane and Ling said that they were female which was incorrect. If they had been born situations that had good health resources they would have been brought up as boys.

Yeah I know, it was tongue in cheek 😜

Cabbageheads · 19/06/2025 10:09

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:06

Some women who do sports at elite level and don't have periods until they stop.

That's due to low body fat, not because they're male.

hawheresthebmareviewnow · 19/06/2025 10:11

Christmasmorale · 19/06/2025 10:00

It matters what black women look like because gender testing is not standardised in athletics, but only done on looks. So once someone is deemed to look like a man, and is called out on it, they are tested. This leads to discrimination based on what the world deems a women looks like. Black women being the victim of may accussations of manliness (just go on twitter and look at comments on posts about Serena Williams and Michelle Obama to see)

Why do you think there's so much support for Caster from black women. Her sex is irrelevant to the wider discussion on inequality and racism within these systems.

Off topic of Stephan Fry but isn’t that why mandatory testing is a good thing?
Anyway I suspect that there are fewer white intersex athletes because they are usually in countries with better healthcare and picked up and diagnosed earlier and so don’t go on to compete. However in a lot of countries sport is a way out of poverty, so there is an incentive to not test. I think all of the intersex athletes are from developing countries. First world have a lot PCOS affected individuals or in the past drug use which was called out at the time.

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