My DD hates that I’m a TERF!

[TheLizardQueen]

My teenage DD says she is embarrassed of my GC views. I’ve tried to educate her on women’s spaces, women’s sports etc but she doesn’t agree with me and says I embarrass her with my views and not to expect her to want to spend time with me when she leaves home. I’m gutted but she will not change my mind. I’ve told her that my views are that a person cannot change sex but she has some trans friends and thinks that I hate trans people. I absolutely do not hate trans people but I do not think that TWAW and as such shouldn’t be welcome in women’s only spaces. Please help me navigate this. I fear that she will hate me because of my views but I cannot accept her views but I don’t want her to be embarrassed of me either 😕

Thought (prayed) you were grey rocking us?

Most young people identifying as trans these days are girls and young women who are same sex attracted, or neurodivergent, or survivors of abuse, or a combination of those things.

It's not hard to see why they want to opt out of womanhood, but affirming them in their belief that taking testosterone and cutting their breasts off will fix their problems is just evil.

But there was an urgent need to save whales, so although I see what you mean, it's not quite analogous.

Funnily enough, my 3 year old called "daddy" yesterday and that was my new name. 🤷‍♀️😂

I personally feel bullied by those who persist on enforcing lies and harmful ideology upon me.

So does that make you the father now and not the mother?

@TheLizardQueen I fear that she will hate me because of my views but I cannot accept her views but I don’t want her to be embarrassed of me either 😕

Have you told her this OP? Maybe it would be helpful to have a conversation directly with her about how both of you can navigate situations where your views differ.

we are talking about facts, not opinion.

Some opinions however, do not deserve respect; flat-earthers for example.

Gender is regressive bullshit. Sex is our material reality and is immutable.

Why is that wrong? To pick one aspect of your statement:
Studies suggest ND people are more introspective and therefore more in tune with their feelings.

I believe that there are, and always have been, more trans people that thought previously and it is just that society is more open to people expressing themselves as who they are and so they're doing that.

utter pish. Is there a shift system working this week on MN. So much hyperbolic bullshit being spouted.

The Jeffrey March tactic of encouraging children to cut off their families is what is hateful and totally dodgy.

My kind, loving (autistic) 17 ds is also dismayed by my Terfism, I think this is a good thing. I think it is worrying that their generation believe that every good person has to think and feel exactly the same about every subject and anyone who veers even slightly away from this mindset must be unspeakably evil. I tell him that our different sex, generation, cultural reference and life experiences mean it is inevitable we will sometimes have different viewpoints. I think his confusion and discomfort that someone he loves and respects is embracing an unthinkable position and yet somehow managing not to also be torturing small children and kittens is forcing him to question this rigid cult thinking a little. We mostly don't discuss our differing opinions on this, but I make sure he knows my views and I don't actively try to change his, even though this is a very important subject to me. Learning to respect and accept other people's views kind of cuts both ways. I am optimistic that this might be a first step to him not blindly accepting the 'approved list of good person viewpoints' and thinking more for himself.

That's the issue right there. People are born different. Science proves this

Proves what?
Born different how?
Since when has science proven males are born female?
Stop spouting crap and explain yourself like a grown up ffs.

I'd tell her to arm wrestle all her friends. Some things must be shown, not told, including reality.

You sound like an excellent parent. 🩷

Completely and utterly wrong…. Do you practice being wrong? You are soo good at it.

I'm assuming you mean me?
It's easy to research (and I'm not a scientist).
You don't have to be so aggressive though, but I appreciate you may be passionate about your views.

That's why I asked. You've answered. Let's leave it at that. I get the sense you don't wish a civil discussion. That's ok! ☺️

Goodnight! ☺️

But you quoted science so what's the science?

Its not aggression it's fed up with child8sh mantra.

I would love a civil discussion but you constantly ignore the truth and facts to spout hyperbole.

Facts and reality matter. Why should we dismiss reality and promote gender?

Studies suggest ND people are more introspective and therefore more in tune with their feelings.

I have seen this more than once in the TRA literature that some of the NHS Health and Care trusts are signposting to confused children and young people.

This is a TRA attempt to try to hand wave away the high percentage of neurodivergent children that present with confusion about 'gender'. They are obviously worried that it might cause more health professionals to question 'gender affirmation'.

Sex being our material reality is not a view. It’s literally reality.

Gotta put that kid to bed, right?😘

I imagine that’s why it’s suddenly bedtime @BuckaDuck