My DD hates that I’m a TERF!

[TheLizardQueen]

My teenage DD says she is embarrassed of my GC views. I’ve tried to educate her on women’s spaces, women’s sports etc but she doesn’t agree with me and says I embarrass her with my views and not to expect her to want to spend time with me when she leaves home. I’m gutted but she will not change my mind. I’ve told her that my views are that a person cannot change sex but she has some trans friends and thinks that I hate trans people. I absolutely do not hate trans people but I do not think that TWAW and as such shouldn’t be welcome in women’s only spaces. Please help me navigate this. I fear that she will hate me because of my views but I cannot accept her views but I don’t want her to be embarrassed of me either 😕

Mocking is an appropriate response to childish insults that attempt to shame women for wanting to uphold their legal rights.

Hang on, their replies were in response to your comment -

It sounds like you are a bigot and she isn't. 🤷‍♀️

And you're calling them bullies?

Their replies were pretty mild, considering. A DFOD would have been far more direct.

And you're not exactly a shining example for your cause either. Demanding everyone follows your fact free, reality free ideology lest they are branded a bigot makes you look deranged, tbh.

'When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years.'

Haven't read that in years!😂😂

Very apt user name

Yes OP, open your mind and pretend humans can change sex and encourage your daughter to prioritise bullshit stereotypes

My teenager is exactly the same I am a transphobic, terfy, bigot. Hey ho. I’ve tried to use it as an opportunity to explain why it’s really important thst you know the facts of an arguement, rather than just repeating sound bytes you’ve picked up on Reddit.

It has been relatively interesting. He’s now of the opinion that one cannot change sex but it’s really important to respect a trans persons belief and the rest of us should wheest.

I think being able to have a respectful, reasoned conversation with someone of a different viewpoint is a really important life skill.

Keep telling yourself that...🙄 But, it's not what you're doing at all.

DFOD

Really? Demanded, you say? Good God, get a grip.

No, you get a grip.

Facts and reality are not bigoted.

Yes. Demanded.

Tap, tap. Is this mic on?

Another reaponse showing an inability and unwillingness to let others have different opinions. And they're different so you mock them. 🤦‍♀️

What’s a “mum”? How do you tell which you are? Are you sure you’re not actually a dad?

We aren't the ones ending friendships and going no contact with family members for having a different opinion. That would be the "be kind" lot.

Mine was too, when she was 13. I told her it's fine to disagree, as long as there was sensible debate. I encouraged her to think about it, and that I would think about her side too. She's 15 now and agrees with me

I won't argue. You seem to be employing DARVO tactics so grey rock it is. 🥱

That'll save the relationship 🙄

I think this is a great approach and I use it with my kids and other adults who are full on genderists.
You choose to believe in a particular religion/ god / gender / whatever and I don’t share that view but that’s fine - we can respect each others right to hold different opinions and diversity of thought is a valuable thing. I don’t compromise on facts tho - tell me sex is a spectrum and I will tell you it’s bollocks!

Oh my God, you're ridiculous 😆

You keep on, keeping on. It's all very helpful.

Really? Did you read Screamingabdabz's post at 21:48? And you wonder why transkids cut off their families?

OH I wouldn't discuss it. Teenagers are such drama llamas. She's entitled to her opinion. Keep yours on the down low.

Will do. Good night to you.

They cut off their real families because they've been manipulated by their new and not at all dodgy rainbow families on the internet.

Good night, grey rock!

That's the issue right there. People are born different. Science proves this. If a person's loved ones can't accept and support them and their bodily autonomy, then why wouldn't they seek support elsewhere?
Your language, "dodgy rainbow families" is just hateful.