Trans sibling in law

[Primrose86]

DH's sibling has just come out as a man. She is 26 and autistic, lives at home with mum, spends life on the Internet, got kicked out of school at 16 etc etc She has plans to go overseas and transition in germany where apparently you can get surgeries on the public health system while living with her grandpa. Her mum is fully supportive of this.

How should I react to all this. Should I start referring to him as my brother in law? What usually happens after people come out. I assume they progress to hormones and surgery but honestly based on what I read, Germany is quite resistant to health tourists who never paid in even if they are citizens. Are people really happy identifying as another gender when they wouldn't look like the other gender?

Yes it was RG. Uhhh... I wore umm... blue. Pink doesn't suit me!

True. It was more or less 20 years ago that I was buying dolls for my DC (18 if we're being fussy.)
But I'm not sure what that has to do with their gender ID?

Can’t believe you deserted me practising 😳

Would you like an honorary degree from MN? I think I'm qualified to award you one. I have a MN mug and everything.

Ooooooooo yes please red

Sorry. Please forgive me. You can have an imaginary degree too. Or an honorary one. Both are valid.

Imaginary degrees are degrees.

Just be nice.

Im getting an honorary one practising so you are absolutely forgiven

its taken me three goes to spell ‘honorary’ so maybe I shouldn’t get one 😶

Is that a two way thing?..

I needed autocarrot to get it right! And I'm usually good at spelling!

Sometimes i feel that some user names are ‘say what you see’

do you have a kitten dogcatkitten

I am shit at spelling…even autocorrect goes ‘ what the fuck was that supposed to be!?!’

You have a 1st in Mnetting Rufus. Congratulations.

You are in good company. My spelling is atrocious and I always miss out complete words.

I have obviously put a filter on…don’t wan5 my true image out there

Want…fuck my life

How do you make that choice though?

By entirely abstaining from sex, which is pretty good? Or by taking ALL the responsibility for contraception within a sexual relationship? By altering your hormones / cycle to avoid it? Ensuring, somehow, that you are never raped, which is impossible to ensure because you cannot control other people? By undergoing painful and traumatic procedures to terminate an accidental pregnancy that goes against your "choice"?

On the other hand, ask a man to make a "choice" about how to avoid being a father, especially in the accidental pregnancy scenario. Their choice is to...just not be one.

Yes we have choices around reproduction and our lives and careers. But we still have to take the action to ensure we are able to stick to those choices, where men wouldn't. And that is entirely down to our biology.

Ooo yellow. Is that non binary?

yellow..?

Dammit i was aiming for gold 😀

Congratulations rufus I'm so proud of all the hard work you've done to achieve this.

Thank you so much practising its been a long time coming, i now know that the square root of an isosceles triangle is something or other, and that shaking stevens wrote a story about a cigar….think it was a hamlet cigar so now i feel quite educated

I am off to celebrate by having a peanut whiskey with baileys

so chemistry

You might find it distasteful (though she’s certainly not boring), but she’s making the point that that scenario does involve a form of consent. It isn’t the same as being overpowered and raped at knifepoint in a dark alley, is it?

You’re the one who doesn’t want women to be regarded as victims. You may not agree with her (and I’m not sure I do either); but her whole thing is a form of feminism which also doesn’t pretend women have no agency either (which I’d have thought you’d approve of?)

It's amazing what you can learn at the university of MN.

Show off 😂