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The Bluestocking Women’s Pub - Where Everybody Knows Your Username

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MarieDeGournay · 02/06/2025 17:01

Welcome to the Bluestocking Arms, the home of good company, excellent drinks and delicious cakes which magically have no irksome contents like gluten or sugar or calories or the kind of alcohol that causes problems - but you wouldn't knowSmile

Food and drink are served by a keen staff of gerbils, and other animals such as capybaras, quokkas, etc., also fulfil vital roles, while looking cute AF.

New Bluestockingers always welcome.

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FuzzyPuffling · 04/06/2025 09:44

Apparently it is National Cheese Day. ( Is that not everyday?)

Anyway, gerbils, pull.up the cheese board and let's get stuck in! ( Quiet corner for Swashy please)

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DeanElderberry · 04/06/2025 09:48

ErrolTheDragon · 04/06/2025 09:26

ah well, think some more and you may have some good luck.
(assuming I’ve got the ID right!).

We have a poster called LuckyHorseshoe?

Anyway, I see your National Cheese Day and raise you National Old Maid's Day (according to RTÉ). I think I'll designate it Local Old Maids Eating Cheese Day.

FuzzyPuffling · 04/06/2025 10:07

I need the laugh emoji.

DeanElderberry · 04/06/2025 10:09

Have some 🧀 instead. 😁

MyrtleLion · 04/06/2025 10:25

Dear Swashy, you are not interrupting us! Far from it. We hold you in our thoughts and our hearts and a space in whichever quiet or raucous corner of the Bluestocking that is appropriate for you.

My elder brother died of cancer in February 2024, and despite our DM being nearly 80, she still hurt tremendously. Motherhood doesn't switch off with age or distance, whether you can prepare for the death of a child, as my mother could, or not as in your case.

Your grief is real and tangible and if it diminishes the tiniest bit, even for a moment, by the Bluestocking, then that is something we have helped with.

You are always welcome here. 💐❤️

FuzzyPuffling · 04/06/2025 10:48

If I'm loving you instead of laughing you, it's because I can't laugh you so loving you it is.

inkymoose · 04/06/2025 14:26

FuzzyPuffling · 04/06/2025 09:44

Apparently it is National Cheese Day. ( Is that not everyday?)

Anyway, gerbils, pull.up the cheese board and let's get stuck in! ( Quiet corner for Swashy please)

🧀 😂

MarieDeGournay · 04/06/2025 15:16

Just to reassure you you are never disrupting the flow, Swash, here are a few lines for you that came into my head earlier :

You are part of the flow.
The tide carried you out
But the tide always returns
And you with it
Different on every return
edges gone
Shine dulled
Changed by every tide and tumbling wave
But always returning
with the same shape
the same strength
and now
with the resilience
of sea glass.

I was going to write 'I wish you the resilience/of sea glass' because you may not feel very resilient at the moment, and you can read it as a wish if that feels more right for you.Flowers

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inkymoose · 04/06/2025 15:18

Swash, dearest one. Thank you for getting in touch. It's exquisitely beautiful and painful to read your words, and to know at the same time there's so much love, kindness and compassion for you and your wonderful daughter here at the Bluestocking. As Fuzzy said, "You're one of us. We are real people, wanting only the best for you, also a real person!" and everyone responding to you, trying to offer friendship and trust and peace through this weird medium, this Bluestocking thread that's silly and light-hearted and imaginative, and all of it, all of it is real.

I've found that time between the death and the funeral to feel endless, unfinished, exhausting, too - even though it isn't endless and eventually it's gone. It reminds me of Limbo, a grey place with little light or hope, no context, no respite, merely an exhausted waiting.

I'm so pleased that you have lovely neighbours who are making thoughtful & kind contributions, they will outweigh the nasty neighbour, even though sometimes that doesn't seem possible.

I hope you have a peaceful birthday and feel loved today.

Sending you loving thoughts from over 'ere and delightful woodland walks and breathing in the aroma and sounds of the woods, and cake.

I haven't put your ship in these woodland pics, because they're real photos, taken by me (I am also very fond of woods). Ship will follow in another post ⚓️

The Bluestocking Women’s Pub - Where Everybody Knows Your Username
The Bluestocking Women’s Pub - Where Everybody Knows Your Username
The Bluestocking Women’s Pub - Where Everybody Knows Your Username
The Bluestocking Women’s Pub - Where Everybody Knows Your Username
ErrolTheDragon · 04/06/2025 15:46

Gorgeous photos, @inkymoose

FuzzyPuffling · 04/06/2025 15:49

Those are beautiful photos Inky.

lcakethereforeIam · 04/06/2025 16:23

Dandelions are such underrated flowers.

Slothtoes · 04/06/2025 16:28

Reporting in after seeing this excellent thread title which made me laugh. Are you doing afternoon cream teas today at the pub?

Cheers everyone. And especially Jean Hatchet if you’re on here- you’re an amazing woman. JKR, you too. Here’s to all the inspirational women Flowers

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c2d5867e61go

A pair of hands are holding a piece of fabric covered in embroided names. The one being held prominently to the camera is "JK Rowling"

National Trust cover up tampered artwork in Derbyshire featuring JK Rowling

A campaigner removed stitching on an artwork which covered the Harry Potter author's name.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c2d5867e61go

FuzzyPuffling · 04/06/2025 16:34

Hello Slothtoes. I am sure the gerbils will sort you a cream tea right away. I suggest you put the jam and cream side by side to avoid any arguments...

Boiledbeetle · 04/06/2025 16:35

@Swashbuckled I thought I'd paint your ship for your birthday.

It's going well!

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Boiledbeetle · 04/06/2025 16:38

Slothtoes · 04/06/2025 16:28

Reporting in after seeing this excellent thread title which made me laugh. Are you doing afternoon cream teas today at the pub?

Cheers everyone. And especially Jean Hatchet if you’re on here- you’re an amazing woman. JKR, you too. Here’s to all the inspirational women Flowers

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c2d5867e61go

I'll just finish my sewing, Jean is planning on doing a version of the dress, then see if the gerbils can rustle something up.

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ifIwerenotanandroid · 04/06/2025 16:39

Dear Swashy, lovely to hear from you. I'm so glad you have such nice neighbours & lots of support. (And as to the bad neighbour - pffft!)

I've just been out to a NT property with a beautiful wide herbaceous border & some glorious woodland. I hope you enjoy your garden & forest as much as I enjoyed that. It does us good to be in nature, & I hope you'll find it restful & healing.

Take care of yourself on your special day. Much love.

Slothtoes · 04/06/2025 16:40

Oh gosh I am sorry I hadn’t RTFT. I am sorry for your loss, Swashbuckled Flowers I do apologise for just plopping on without looking first.

Thank you so much FuzzyPuffling

Slothtoes · 04/06/2025 16:42

Beautiful work Boiledbeetle

Boiledbeetle · 04/06/2025 16:42

Slothtoes · 04/06/2025 16:28

Reporting in after seeing this excellent thread title which made me laugh. Are you doing afternoon cream teas today at the pub?

Cheers everyone. And especially Jean Hatchet if you’re on here- you’re an amazing woman. JKR, you too. Here’s to all the inspirational women Flowers

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c2d5867e61go

Cream tea madam.

The gerbils seem to have been on a growth spurt!!

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FuzzyPuffling · 04/06/2025 16:44

Slothtoes · 04/06/2025 16:40

Oh gosh I am sorry I hadn’t RTFT. I am sorry for your loss, Swashbuckled Flowers I do apologise for just plopping on without looking first.

Thank you so much FuzzyPuffling

That's OK slothtoes. We're all standing with Swashy, but we're still a safe women's pub where all ( women) are welcome and certainly still have a gerbil workforce and cheese.

We all love Jean Hatchet too. I am revisiting the phrase " A hatchet job".

ifIwerenotanandroid · 04/06/2025 16:46

@Slothtoes Ah, your cream tea's arrived, I see!

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lcakethereforeIam · 04/06/2025 16:47

Is that a roe deer in the first photo? I might need some deer umbles to make a pie 🥧 if Imane Khelif turns out to be an XX female. Perhaps if an alternative reality collides with ours and shenanigans ensue. 🤔 I might get ready made pastry though.

MarieDeGournay · 04/06/2025 16:54

Welcome Slothtoes, but don't let me interrupt your cream tea I hope the giant gerbil didn't frighten you so much you lost your appetite!Smile

As Fuzzy said, don't feel bad about coming in to join in the fun and order a cream tea - you weren't to know about Swash, and besides, we are keeping the legendary Bluestocking lightheartedness going, while keeping her in our thoughts, it's not an either/orSmile

Oh I see Android has portrayed you as you are in the Bluestocking already.

Your fingers/toes must come in very handy when you get to the end of one of those narrow jars of olives and you're trying to get the last couple of olives out...

And do you need knitting needles?? Grin

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