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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Are toilets still allowed to be cleaned by members of the opposite sex?

510 replies

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:50

I see signs saying toilets may be cleaned by members of the opposite sex in a lot of places. Is this allowed after the supreme court ruling? If a male cleaner was in there it would be a mixed sex space.

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BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/05/2025 18:10

UpsideDownChairs · 27/05/2025 18:01

Ah, here's yet more threat - if we don't let the men in, then the little boys will have to go in the dangerous men's toilets.

If we let the men in, then what makes the ladies any safer?

Exactly how dangerous are men's toilets? My boys go in them alone now they're older - they did since they were 8 or 9, they are clearly more vulnerable than an adult, yet you're happy with them going in the mens, but not actual men?

My sons have used the gents since they were 8 or so. Basically since I was happy to let them be independent for 10 minutes or so. So far so good.

I genuinely don’t think men’s loos are dangerous in general (you can tell ‘cos I let my kids go in them). I still don’t want blokes (even ‘lovely’ ones, even ones in frocks) in close proximity to me when I’m partially dressed

stay out of the Ladies fellas. They’re not for you

UpsideDownChairs · 27/05/2025 18:16

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 16:59

I think you’ve missed the point of the EA2010. It does not just apply to workplaces. It also applies in the provision of services and schools. Unless you’re telling me I can discriminate against children because they have no protection under the act?

Children can't enter into contracts - as many people have said, they are not the service user in many cases, the adult accompanying them is.

I agree that most men's toilets are perfectly fine, and if they're not, then I don't let my kids in them. They would be as perfectly safe for a bloke dressed in a feminine manner as they would be for my 11 year old.

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 18:18

WhatNextCatsAsDoctors · 27/05/2025 17:52

I’ve read the responses and still don’t understand why this wouldn’t be an issue for you. You all talk about the discomfort a woman who has just had her period would feel if she came out of a stall with her hands covered in blood to see a man. The way her primal instincts would kick in and feel an intense, innate fear of seeing a man in a woman’s space. That’s one of the main talking points on this website.

Using your logic, would she think ‘wait, that’s a cleaner! How silly of me!’ or would she have that instinctive fear?

Just to clarify I reject the premise, but I think you should inspect the clear double standard happening here.

I would like to hear the answer to this too

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JulesJules · 27/05/2025 18:20

WallaceinAnderland · 27/05/2025 16:22

You'd be surprised. The lawyer Robin Moira White also made the same comment on Woman's Hour.

QED

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:21

It’s still a very small percentage of women that are trans though, and an even smaller number that are sex offenders. I’ve definitely seen more male toilet cleaners than trans women in toilets. So if trans women and men are just as likely as each other to be sex offenders why is one okay but not the other?

ProfesoraLou · 27/05/2025 18:23

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 17:51

Yeah but the toilet that they choose to use doesn’t influence that. Excluding trans women from ladies toilets doesn’t stop them from assaulting women, but it does make them more likely to be assaulted themselves.

allowing any kind of males into women's loos (except when women are warned that a male worker is doing there to do an essential job, such as cleaning) puts women at risk. All men are a potential risk. Whether they're pretending to be women or not. That's why we have single spaces.

Do you seriously think single sex spaces are just for affirming womanhood?

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/05/2025 18:25

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:21

It’s still a very small percentage of women that are trans though, and an even smaller number that are sex offenders. I’ve definitely seen more male toilet cleaners than trans women in toilets. So if trans women and men are just as likely as each other to be sex offenders why is one okay but not the other?

Because I want to be in charge of whether I have a man in close proximity to me when I’m partially dressed

I don’t consent to some bloke either deceiving or bullying his way into the ladies. It’s really not hard to understand

cleaner doing his job-probably fine
creepy chap who doesn’t understand consent-no thanks

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:30

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/05/2025 18:10

My sons have used the gents since they were 8 or so. Basically since I was happy to let them be independent for 10 minutes or so. So far so good.

I genuinely don’t think men’s loos are dangerous in general (you can tell ‘cos I let my kids go in them). I still don’t want blokes (even ‘lovely’ ones, even ones in frocks) in close proximity to me when I’m partially dressed

stay out of the Ladies fellas. They’re not for you

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But what about the experiences of the women who works as a toilet cleaner and has been flashed several times? A trans woman should have to go through that every single time they need to use a public toilet?
But that’s justified because us cis women couldn’t possibly share a toilet with a trans woman (who despite being more likely than the average woman to be a sex offender, is still very unlikely to be one) once or twice in our lifetime?
I was assaulted by a man on a busy tram. A door with the symbol of a woman on it isn’t going to stop anyone.

TheKeatingFive · 27/05/2025 18:32

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:30

But what about the experiences of the women who works as a toilet cleaner and has been flashed several times? A trans woman should have to go through that every single time they need to use a public toilet?
But that’s justified because us cis women couldn’t possibly share a toilet with a trans woman (who despite being more likely than the average woman to be a sex offender, is still very unlikely to be one) once or twice in our lifetime?
I was assaulted by a man on a busy tram. A door with the symbol of a woman on it isn’t going to stop anyone.

Women get assaulted so let's make it easier for them to get assaulted is a pretty awful take if you don't mind me saying so.

UpsideDownChairs · 27/05/2025 18:34

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:30

But what about the experiences of the women who works as a toilet cleaner and has been flashed several times? A trans woman should have to go through that every single time they need to use a public toilet?
But that’s justified because us cis women couldn’t possibly share a toilet with a trans woman (who despite being more likely than the average woman to be a sex offender, is still very unlikely to be one) once or twice in our lifetime?
I was assaulted by a man on a busy tram. A door with the symbol of a woman on it isn’t going to stop anyone.

And yet it does. Most men do not go in women's toilets, purely because it's not acceptable in society. Social rules are strong.

Your contention is that because some men flash people (largely women and girls though - do you have any reason to think they'll flash men the same amount?), we should let adult men into the women's (where previously there was no flashing at all due to the total lack of adult penis), and send small boys into the mens where they can also be flashed?

You think that grown men dressed somewhat unusually are more in-need of protection from flashing than women and children?

DarkForces · 27/05/2025 18:34

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:30

But what about the experiences of the women who works as a toilet cleaner and has been flashed several times? A trans woman should have to go through that every single time they need to use a public toilet?
But that’s justified because us cis women couldn’t possibly share a toilet with a trans woman (who despite being more likely than the average woman to be a sex offender, is still very unlikely to be one) once or twice in our lifetime?
I was assaulted by a man on a busy tram. A door with the symbol of a woman on it isn’t going to stop anyone.

More likely than your average man too given the number of trans women in jail for sexual assault

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:35

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/05/2025 18:25

Because I want to be in charge of whether I have a man in close proximity to me when I’m partially dressed

I don’t consent to some bloke either deceiving or bullying his way into the ladies. It’s really not hard to understand

cleaner doing his job-probably fine
creepy chap who doesn’t understand consent-no thanks

Why are trans women creepy but not men? If they’re just as likely to commit sex crimes as them?

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:37

UpsideDownChairs · 27/05/2025 18:34

And yet it does. Most men do not go in women's toilets, purely because it's not acceptable in society. Social rules are strong.

Your contention is that because some men flash people (largely women and girls though - do you have any reason to think they'll flash men the same amount?), we should let adult men into the women's (where previously there was no flashing at all due to the total lack of adult penis), and send small boys into the mens where they can also be flashed?

You think that grown men dressed somewhat unusually are more in-need of protection from flashing than women and children?

Trans women are 4x more likely to be SAd than cis women.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/05/2025 18:37

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:30

But what about the experiences of the women who works as a toilet cleaner and has been flashed several times? A trans woman should have to go through that every single time they need to use a public toilet?
But that’s justified because us cis women couldn’t possibly share a toilet with a trans woman (who despite being more likely than the average woman to be a sex offender, is still very unlikely to be one) once or twice in our lifetime?
I was assaulted by a man on a busy tram. A door with the symbol of a woman on it isn’t going to stop anyone.

Men with a gender identity are not just more likely to be sex offenders than women, they’re more likely to be sex offenders than other men too.

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/02/24/government-figures-70-per-cent-of-transgender-prisoners-are/

I’m not sure how else to word this. I expect to be in charge of whether I’m around men when I’m partially dressed. Men who can’t understand that are creepy

DarkForces · 27/05/2025 18:37

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:35

Why are trans women creepy but not men? If they’re just as likely to commit sex crimes as them?

I don't want men in the ladies except if it's to provide a service like cleaning or repair. Little boys are not men.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/05/2025 18:37

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:37

Trans women are 4x more likely to be SAd than cis women.

source please. UK numbers

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:38

TheKeatingFive · 27/05/2025 18:32

Women get assaulted so let's make it easier for them to get assaulted is a pretty awful take if you don't mind me saying so.

My point is that it doesn’t make it easier. And if that was actually your argument you would be against male cleaners too!
You’re not against SA you’re against trans people.

mugglewump · 27/05/2025 18:38

The High Court ruling was not about cleaners.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/05/2025 18:39

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:35

Why are trans women creepy but not men? If they’re just as likely to commit sex crimes as them?

Transwomen are men

moreover if they’re in the women’s bogs then they’re men who like to push women’s boundaries

and that is fucking creepy

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 18:42

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/05/2025 18:37

Men with a gender identity are not just more likely to be sex offenders than women, they’re more likely to be sex offenders than other men too.

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/02/24/government-figures-70-per-cent-of-transgender-prisoners-are/

I’m not sure how else to word this. I expect to be in charge of whether I’m around men when I’m partially dressed. Men who can’t understand that are creepy

How many of them started claiming a trans identify after committing their offence? Or how many of them actually have gender dysphoria?

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TheKeatingFive · 27/05/2025 18:43

Raspberryripple11 · 27/05/2025 18:38

My point is that it doesn’t make it easier. And if that was actually your argument you would be against male cleaners too!
You’re not against SA you’re against trans people.

Of course it makes it easier. Women are disempowered to say anything to predatory men in their spaces. If you can't see that, you're anti-women (well that's obvious anyway).

None of that has anything to do with cleaners, whose presence is clearly communicated and women consent to them being there as they enter.

Women do not consent to transwomen in their spaces, if those spaces are signalled as women only. Why do you think women's consent doesn't matter? 😵‍💫

viques · 27/05/2025 18:43

Just popping a random plumber in here before RubyLion gets worried about potentially dangerous leaks that cant be fixed because the only plumber available is the wrong sex. Also the person whose job it is to change over the sanitary bins. 😳

Waterbaby41 · 27/05/2025 18:44

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 15:50

I see signs saying toilets may be cleaned by members of the opposite sex in a lot of places. Is this allowed after the supreme court ruling? If a male cleaner was in there it would be a mixed sex space.

You are joking aren't you?

TheKeatingFive · 27/05/2025 18:44

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 18:42

How many of them started claiming a trans identify after committing their offence? Or how many of them actually have gender dysphoria?

Well that's an excellent question. But weren't we told men would never identify as trans for cynical or self interested purposes? 🤔

DarkForces · 27/05/2025 18:46

PoisedRubyLion · 27/05/2025 18:42

How many of them started claiming a trans identify after committing their offence? Or how many of them actually have gender dysphoria?

It's not like men would ever pretend to be women to assault women 🤔. Trans women are men.

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