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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Today it's Amnesty Internation on Woman's Hour to discuss the Supreme Court judgment

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nauticant · 16/05/2025 10:21

With Anita Rani. I am not expecting much in the way of challenges.

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JasmineAllen · 16/05/2025 14:36

Anyway, to get back to the original thread.

As I didn't manage to listen to WH, were there any questions at the end pertaining to AI's performance? Maybe someone pointing out he wasn't making any sense?

Or is that too much to hope for?

ItsCoolForCats · 16/05/2025 14:37

jenfw · 16/05/2025 13:45

But are they though? Do you have any stats on this? It's a non issue in my opinion. If men want to attack, they will - and the kind that do this, from my experience, aren't going to go to the trouble (or humiliation) of wearing a dress. This discourse is completely distracting from things that are an actual and ubiquitous threat, ie the incels, the Andrew Tate followers. I've seen horrendous things said about women on Facebook. Threats of violence, r*pe, disgustingly misogynistic comments. I've reported a tonne. None have ever been taken down. I've seen and heard boys my son's age (11), saying the most awful things about girls. My friend's daughter, who is 14, had a private Snapchat video of her (which she sent to a straight boy) passed around the whole of the high school. The real, credible, ubiquitous verifiable threat to women and girls is straight men who are not educated / taught to respect women and girls, usually down to historical, cyclical family attitudes / toxic masculinity. In addition to organisations being institutionally misogynist. Jesus, a serving police officer ended the life of an innocent woman walking home. Something is wrong when an organization that is supposed to represent the pinnacle of morality and law causes harm to women. It's 'not a few men wearing a dress' that is a threat to women and girls. It's the macro structure of society and how it embeds misogyny that is the real problem.

You think men like Cameron Downing being able to self ID into a women's rape crisis centre is a 'non issue'?

Can you really, genuinely not understand why rape survivors might want to law to be clear that if a service is advertised as single sex, it really means single sex?

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/07/17/predator-cameron-downing-trans-inclusive-rape-crisis-centre/

LesserCelandine · 16/05/2025 14:38

This thread is very nostalgic - all the tired old gotchas.

KnottyAuty · 16/05/2025 14:39

ThatsNotMyTeen · 16/05/2025 10:37

No one is saying trans people should be discriminated against you doughnut just that they are not the opposite sex so shouldn’t be in their spaces

Even clearer - trans people with GRCs aren’t entitled to be in women’s single sex spaces.

… The self-ID case was lost a couple of years ago saying the same….

trans people are entitled to privacy & dignity - just not at other people’s expense

EsmeQuibbles · 16/05/2025 14:42

LesserCelandine · 16/05/2025 14:38

This thread is very nostalgic - all the tired old gotchas.

Almost as if someone didn't want us to discuss Amnesty International and Women's Hour, and how appalling their (AI) spokesperson was today.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 16/05/2025 14:50

jenfw · 16/05/2025 12:56

Wrong. I've been on the gay scene for nearly 30 years. Met loads of trans people in clubs, etc. Never once felt threatened. Me and all of my female friends though have all experience things - r*pe, childhood sa, dv, gaslighting, misogyny, upskirting, having drinks spiked - none of which were perpetrated by trans but STRAIGHT men.

My experience chimes with @Toseland
Validation and intimidation has ALWAYS been the agenda; even in the early days many of these men were straight up fetishists. It was very clear.

GiveMeSpanakopita · 16/05/2025 14:52

@jenfw it may interest you to know then that of the UK male population currently imprisoned for rape and sexual assault, a far higher % of those men identify as transwomen than exist in the general male population.

Men who fall under Stonewall's definition of the 'trans umbrella' are also disproportionately represented in known male serial killers than in the gen pop.

Strawberriesforever · 16/05/2025 14:52

jenfw · 16/05/2025 14:17

As someone who has been sa'd for a sustained period in childhood and also r*ped and now volunteer for a women's sa charity, yes I do. That charity has also set up another arm calle 'trans without abuse', which has received massive support. You can support both. In addition, I don't think you can know anyone about someone by looking at a font on a screen. What has come across through is the utter venom in you responses (as you feel strongly about the issue), so I'm out as these sort of interactions achieve nothing. Have a good day

So the women’s sexual abuse charity you work with has set up a third space geared to the needs of trans people? Wonderful! We might need those for prisons, domestic violence shelters, changing rooms and toilets too. And categories in competitive sports.

BundleBoogie · 16/05/2025 14:54

jenfw · 16/05/2025 14:21

They are provided and there is no threat of them being withdraw. In addition, most of the 25 women that come to the support group have no problem with trans men as the issue has been discussed. Everyone who attended has experience dv from their partners, who were all straight, male presenting men.

I think you’ll find they are absolutely not provided in some areas. In Sussex there is an upcoming court case precisely because a Rape Crisis service is refusing to provide a single sex counselling session for female victims. They provide male only, trans only and mixed sex sessions that include men who identify as women (no dresses required).

This is typical of many centres throughout the UK.

JustBitetheKnotsOff · 16/05/2025 14:54

Ah. Jen I think you are so indignant because you believe that transgender ideology has NOT already removed single-sex services and facilities from women. But in many places, it has -- my son's sixth form college, for instance, and my daughter's university loos, and as you've heard on this thread, the changing rooms used by the Darlington and the Fife nurses, and the Brighton rape survivors' group.

If you disagree with all of this -- you are saying the same things as Datun.

Incidentally, I've been lurking around FWR for years and I don't ever recall seeing Datun swear. So, well, I guess that's an achievement.

BundleBoogie · 16/05/2025 14:56

EsmeQuibbles · 16/05/2025 14:42

Almost as if someone didn't want us to discuss Amnesty International and Women's Hour, and how appalling their (AI) spokesperson was today.

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Bizarrely it’s still not available for download. Maybe the BBC have realised how bad AI came across and someone’s kicking up a fuss?

SummerSunAndFun · 16/05/2025 14:57

Does anyone know why I can't watch it on catch up yet please?

jenfw · 16/05/2025 14:59

Strawberriesforever · 16/05/2025 14:52

So the women’s sexual abuse charity you work with has set up a third space geared to the needs of trans people? Wonderful! We might need those for prisons, domestic violence shelters, changing rooms and toilets too. And categories in competitive sports.

Yes, as the CEO of the charity, which has been going for over 40 years, is a lesbian. She wants protection for everyone at risk of violence. They also provide rehabilitation for offenders, who are 99.9 per cent straight men.

jenfw · 16/05/2025 15:02

BundleBoogie · 16/05/2025 14:54

I think you’ll find they are absolutely not provided in some areas. In Sussex there is an upcoming court case precisely because a Rape Crisis service is refusing to provide a single sex counselling session for female victims. They provide male only, trans only and mixed sex sessions that include men who identify as women (no dresses required).

This is typical of many centres throughout the UK.

I'm not sure where you are but the counties around me (I'm landlocked), have all maintained women only spaces, including dv centres. There have been a sprinkling of support for trans people.

ThatCyanCat · 16/05/2025 15:06

jenfw · 16/05/2025 15:02

I'm not sure where you are but the counties around me (I'm landlocked), have all maintained women only spaces, including dv centres. There have been a sprinkling of support for trans people.

If you are following this issue closely enough to be participating in these discussions then you ought to be well aware of several high profile cases in which single sex spaces have been destroyed - illegally, it is now confirmed - and that it's happening in many other places too. (You'd also know "intersex" is outdated, offensive bunkum and if you're in favour of single sex plus third spaces, it's hard to see why you thought DSDs were relevant at all.)

However, if you're truly in favour of good provisions of single plus mixed sex facilities, then great, the terfs are behind you. The TRAs are not, though, so the best use of your resources is to persuade them.

MassiveWordSalad · 16/05/2025 15:06

How do you define ‘lesbian’ @jenfw ?

Trans rights activists think that the term lesbian includes trans-identifying males, the vast majority of whom have not had reassignment surgery on their genitals and expect that lesbian women accept their ‘lady dick’. Lesbian dating apps have been flooded with such men and lesbians have been told they are ‘sexual racists’ because they are only attracted to female bodies. How is this ok?

spannasaurus · 16/05/2025 15:06

jenfw · 16/05/2025 15:02

I'm not sure where you are but the counties around me (I'm landlocked), have all maintained women only spaces, including dv centres. There have been a sprinkling of support for trans people.

Edinburgh rape crisis centre didn't maintain single sex spaces and had a male ceo who said that women using their services would be challenged on their prejudices* and should reframe their trauma. They wouldn't even confirm to women using their services that they would only be seen by a woman

*that prejudice being that they don't believe TWAW

Waitingfordoggo · 16/05/2025 15:08

jenfw · 16/05/2025 13:45

But are they though? Do you have any stats on this? It's a non issue in my opinion. If men want to attack, they will - and the kind that do this, from my experience, aren't going to go to the trouble (or humiliation) of wearing a dress. This discourse is completely distracting from things that are an actual and ubiquitous threat, ie the incels, the Andrew Tate followers. I've seen horrendous things said about women on Facebook. Threats of violence, r*pe, disgustingly misogynistic comments. I've reported a tonne. None have ever been taken down. I've seen and heard boys my son's age (11), saying the most awful things about girls. My friend's daughter, who is 14, had a private Snapchat video of her (which she sent to a straight boy) passed around the whole of the high school. The real, credible, ubiquitous verifiable threat to women and girls is straight men who are not educated / taught to respect women and girls, usually down to historical, cyclical family attitudes / toxic masculinity. In addition to organisations being institutionally misogynist. Jesus, a serving police officer ended the life of an innocent woman walking home. Something is wrong when an organization that is supposed to represent the pinnacle of morality and law causes harm to women. It's 'not a few men wearing a dress' that is a threat to women and girls. It's the macro structure of society and how it embeds misogyny that is the real problem.

Yes, we’ve all seen women being threatened with rape and death online, often from TRAs funnily enough. As you appear to be part of that community, you should probably address that if you want to support women.

KnottyAuty · 16/05/2025 15:08

jenfw · 16/05/2025 14:17

As someone who has been sa'd for a sustained period in childhood and also r*ped and now volunteer for a women's sa charity, yes I do. That charity has also set up another arm calle 'trans without abuse', which has received massive support. You can support both. In addition, I don't think you can know anyone about someone by looking at a font on a screen. What has come across through is the utter venom in you responses (as you feel strongly about the issue), so I'm out as these sort of interactions achieve nothing. Have a good day

Tone comes across in writing. Often received quite differently to how we thought we were expressing ourselves. Unfortunately you made a number of snarky remarks up thread. You can’t reasonably complain now you’re receiving some back. To say “I’ve not read your comment but…. “ then (paraphrasing) accuse that person of not listening to your arguments is completely double standards. This is supposed to be a thread about a conversation on Woman’s Hour and you arrived saying it was a waste of time (we should be concerned about Andrew Tate) but your wasting our time not talking about the thread topic. In the politest way possible- why not leave this thread and find one on Andrew Tate as I’d like to get back to Amnesty and you’re not contributing much to that. Have a good day!

EsmeQuibbles · 16/05/2025 15:09

BundleBoogie · 16/05/2025 14:56

Bizarrely it’s still not available for download. Maybe the BBC have realised how bad AI came across and someone’s kicking up a fuss?

That bloke was the CEO of Amnesty wasn't he? He earns a hell of a salary on the back of donations. I'm glad I stopped mine and sent them elsewhere.
He used to work for War Child UK.( Which had a bribery scandal way back, don't know if he was there then.)
He was blooming appalling today. What bullshit he talked.
He had clearly not even read the Judgement despite AI having made submissions to the SC. Full of his own importance and iffy staments that don't stand up to scrutiny.

jenfw · 16/05/2025 15:09

ThatCyanCat · 16/05/2025 15:06

If you are following this issue closely enough to be participating in these discussions then you ought to be well aware of several high profile cases in which single sex spaces have been destroyed - illegally, it is now confirmed - and that it's happening in many other places too. (You'd also know "intersex" is outdated, offensive bunkum and if you're in favour of single sex plus third spaces, it's hard to see why you thought DSDs were relevant at all.)

However, if you're truly in favour of good provisions of single plus mixed sex facilities, then great, the terfs are behind you. The TRAs are not, though, so the best use of your resources is to persuade them.

I certainly don't think women only spaces should be taken away. But having been on the gay scene for such a long time and around trans people, I recognize their need for protection, too. I don't like to wish harm on anyone (at least those who have not done anything to warrant it).

LesserCelandine · 16/05/2025 15:10

EsmeQuibbles · 16/05/2025 15:09

That bloke was the CEO of Amnesty wasn't he? He earns a hell of a salary on the back of donations. I'm glad I stopped mine and sent them elsewhere.
He used to work for War Child UK.( Which had a bribery scandal way back, don't know if he was there then.)
He was blooming appalling today. What bullshit he talked.
He had clearly not even read the Judgement despite AI having made submissions to the SC. Full of his own importance and iffy staments that don't stand up to scrutiny.

Sadly so many of these CEOs circulate round charities leaving a trail of destruction in their wake.

Haulage · 16/05/2025 15:11

Full of his own importance and iffy staments that don't stand up to scrutiny.

There's an awful lot of it about.

EsmeQuibbles · 16/05/2025 15:13

Sadly so many of these CEOs circulate round charities leaving a trail of destruction in their wake.

Don't they just? Then onto the next charity. Leaving the rest of us to reframe our trauma.

jenfw · 16/05/2025 15:14

Waitingfordoggo · 16/05/2025 15:08

Yes, we’ve all seen women being threatened with rape and death online, often from TRAs funnily enough. As you appear to be part of that community, you should probably address that if you want to support women.

I believe in women only spaces AND gender neutral spaces, which would provide support for everyone who needs it.