I want to meet other GC women in person

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I've joined LWS
I've joined the WRN
I'm active in GC FB groups

But I've never been to any meet ups - possibly because I'm not in a city and the small towns near me don't seem to have any GC activity that I know of.

I'm not an activist but I would just like to hang out with other sex realists. How does one do this?!!

Do any of you meet people in real life?

I'm in a hobby group where it's the opposite.

One person (who's quite loud and, shall we say, contrary) has expressed GC views very clearly on several occasions. I carelessly said "yes" on those occasions, then panicked a bit because all the other hobby group members (less then 10 of us) said nothing. Remained silent 😟

I was very disappointed because I felt like it was more likely people would be GC.

The hobby group demographic is very similar in age etc and some are my friends who I'm still worried about talking to on this issue. 😬

@elbowhammer PMs are still disabled. I'm also in the SW.

Thinking out loud here

keep this thread moving, and then with enough geographic information split into geographic groups, and build up trust in user names. Maybe ask a seasoned GC person who is good at spotting TRAs in each group to move things forward.

In my experience these geographic threads would need to embed for a year or two.

There are other places on this board who have successional threads that are as far as we know TRA free as of no interest to them. and sometimes we communicate in riddles and symbolism. But have built up trust.

Sort of like the cake posts? Only been on here for 15m (was formerly BusyMummy but had a flounce), but have been getting to know which are the established, safe GC posters in that time. Not quite worked out who might be down south, though. Believe some posters are on Ovarit? And other forums?

@CautiousLurker01 hiya you see i know you from the peggie board!!!

yep codes are codes you just have to work them out. I have made a twat of myself on my own journey here but you have to stick at it and dust yourself off if you get a slapping, from the elders.

Who once they know you are genuine, will support you PM you and dust you off, if so required.

Having said all of that i am an older woman i think young GC women also need peer support and that is why i am hanging on in here to see what can be done for Op and all.

BTW i am no where else on SM feel no need…

I managed to find a few in my town. Through friends of friends etc. We have formed a small group. Meet every 4-6 weeks for sanity & laughs. Wonderful way to meet new women & form friendships.
I recommend it.

Would some of you who were directed to a defunct East Mids group be able to get to Birmingham? There are two active GC groups, with some overlap, there, one of which is a WRN group.

Yes i could

Agree. Once the subject is out in open, most people happy to voice their GC opinion.

There are two women in my extended social circle who have trans DC - both gay sons who are no identifying as women - but other then them, I don’t know a single person who think TWAW, not one.

There are WRN groups in Birmingham and Coventry/Warwickshire. Not sure what the issue was in East Midlands, but it should be possible to apply for/get a transfer of membership of whichever WRN group is nearest geographically.

I have the same problem.

I also keep changing my username as I repeatedly over share on the disability or autism or abuse threads. Keep telling myself I will stop but then can't.

I know there are riddles and codes and they go over my head I wish I knew how to learn

I could pm my old user names to prove I'm not a TRA. I'm terrible with recognition of names though so would need a very prolific long term poster to tell me they are safe 😂. I'm in Boiledbeetle book. I'm long rambly and have poor spelling and punctuation in my comments so easy to check the names I give are me 😂

I don't have much opportunity to make friends irl as have high need autistic child I care for full time. Also autistic myself so often people don't like me as I'm different. Had a good group of friends then one child comes out nb, the group disintegrated and i got excluded from new meet up plans because I didn't gush praise and rainbows at their bravery.

I think suffragette colours is effective in signalling you are GC. Does not have to be so obvious as a scarf or pin. If clock you in violet top, green cardigan and a white bag and if you were a person i saw regularly id compliment how well the colours go together. I have lots of feminist slogan T-shirts that get compliments regularly when I'm out, it's usually not a situation I can make a friend as im a carer and wrapped up with that but im sure if I could stop for a chat they would be GC- why else comment as I wear t shirt when not making an effort and definitely do not look good haha

I was delighted to see a woman in a Save Women's Sports tshirt at the Cross country last year. I shouted "I like your tshirt" and she shouted back "thanks" but was hurrying along. I've wondered if she's local a few times because I'd love someone GC to go for a run with. That would be very cathartic indeed.

There is quite a strong contingent in Nottingham, LWS is back on 28th March so go along to that if you are East Mids.

Understand PMs should reopen next week so we’ll be able to start reconnecting there again.

I joined a group in SE, initially they were friendly, but they had already morphed into a clique, one was really passive aggressive, they mostly talked about their personal problems and all knew each other from earlier times, I stuck it out for a while but noticed new women joining only lasted one or two sessions. Id love to find a fun group who are really open to having new women join. Better luck to you , Im sure there are good ones out there.

And it usually leads on to a pub, so plenty of chance to chat after.

Long time FWR lurker/occasional poster here. Oh I so feel you OP. I’m in west Wales, young kids so not easy to travel far for meet ups or events. I’m at the point of thinking there’s no point in me being friends with anyone who’s not GC … so just making friends at all is hard. We’ve only been here a couple of years so I’m still getting to know people. I work remotely in a totally captured industry so cannot discuss at work at all.

I’ll admit part of me loves the hobby group subterfuge idea - knitting in code for the Revolution! I’m in awe of so many on these boards and learned so much from them.

I'm in East Anglia. I have quite a few GC friends - it's good to be able to speak freely.

One friend I thought might be on the beee kiiind bandwagon turned out to be eminently sane. She's younger than me and much more trendy, but nope, thinks for herself.

This week one of the managers video called me and opened up about her, recently formed, GC views. She’s very down to earth and not very political. She took the details of the Repeal the GRA petition. It felt good.

Also this week, a young clinician, who had previously been helpfully active in challenging team misogyny, started adding her pronouns (she/her). Utterly baffling.

Both of them acting in ways I wouldn’t have expected, having known each of them for some years. Really affects the trust dial.

I was a member of what I thought was a feminist GC group that met monthly but I have had to leave as a TiM was invited to a recent event (unbelievably shocking imo!) so now I’m homeless again.

I have a ticket to Filia in October so am looking forward to that if anyone else is going? All my friends and family are GC but none are able or want to come so I know what you mean!

Get up to LEEDS! There is an awesome women only centre, run by wonderful GC women, if you can manage FiLia they will be there. I don’t know a single person who believes in this rubbish. Literally the women in the hairdressers to my DHs oncologist. OP do you mean you would like to join an activist group or just meet people with similar views? I guarantee you know loads of people with similar views as you, if you meet people in real life spouting shite about shenis’s just laugh and walk away. I have only met one irl, a man with a tif daughter, who described himself as queer but basically just wanted to cheat on his wife… as usual he knew who had the right biology to try to cheat with.

My eldest DD holds TWAW views and has walked out of a room rather than listen to my GC opinion and have a grown up discussion. That hurts.

My WRN has a very active whatsapp and meetups.
Look for localish wrn fb and twitter, there's a vigil for Afghanistan coming up, there's one a month. You might find one close.

Good point. The best way to track vigils is to follow WRN Afghanistan on Twitter.

I was queuing up at the till in Waitose 2 days ago and 2 women infront of me were "putting the world to right" with the female scanner/till operative. They apologised to me & I mentioned John Lewis policies. They knew "little bits" but by the end of our 5 min conversation their eyes had been opened and they walked off with 2 of my WRN leaflets that go everywhere with me :)