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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Lost trust in the media

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SuperSleepyBaby · 17/02/2025 20:44

I feel the transgender issue has had a big effect on how i feel about the media.

Like the Guardian reporting on Wi-Spa. I used to like the Guardian but dont look at it anymore.

And every newspaper, TV channel using female pronouns for male rapists etc.

There’s an agenda being rammed down people’s throats.

It also makes me question other issues that are reported. I used to be more trusting.

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ArabellaScott · 19/02/2025 12:40

Ereshkigalangcleg · 19/02/2025 12:11

The entire song is basically "waaaaah I hate mummy".

Yes, but they swear a lot, so you can tell they're more grown up and serious.

Shortshriftandlethal · 19/02/2025 12:56

BeyondHumanKenDoll · 19/02/2025 12:17

There's a reason your kids
aren't returning your calls carol
It's because you're being transphobic on Facebook again
Just have a fucking day off

Oh look, ageism as well.

Younger people are taking, generally, a lot longer to reach those critical adult milestones of having a job, getting married or settling down, having children, than they once did, and are still living a self centred lifestyle for a lot longer. Travelling the world, partying, socialising etc. It is easy to have high ideals when those ideals have yet to be tested in the real world. I do think with age and experience comes more practical wisdom and generally a lot less naivety.

Young people always think they are the only ones ever to have rebelled or questioned things; or engaged in mad experimentation etc Each generation seems to have to learn the same lessons as the previous one, anew each time.

Justme56 · 19/02/2025 13:10

https://x.com/notfarleftatall/status/1892175453621747770?s=46&t=ZX_bLozRqm8etdGICMcAvA

It’s quite funny after reading the Lambrini Girls with their punk/rebel messaging that this was reposted on my timeline. The ‘modern trans movement’.

XXylophonic · 19/02/2025 13:15

CorruptedCauldron · 19/02/2025 12:10

Indeed - it’s not hard to find those lyrics. Interesting how their imagined terf is an upper class Oxford-educated M&S-loving mum called Carol.

I'm working class. Where do they get the idea Terfs are wealthy middle class women. Is it because of JKR? From what I've seen, many young TRA protesters appear to be university students/middle class. Not exactly deprived council estate residents living on benefits.

RethinkingLife · 19/02/2025 13:54

XXylophonic · 19/02/2025 13:15

I'm working class. Where do they get the idea Terfs are wealthy middle class women. Is it because of JKR? From what I've seen, many young TRA protesters appear to be university students/middle class. Not exactly deprived council estate residents living on benefits.

You’re describing almost the exact situation that Deptford’s People project experienced. Taken over by MC student activists to the detriment of local female WC population.

XXylophonic · 19/02/2025 14:05

RethinkingLife · 19/02/2025 13:54

You’re describing almost the exact situation that Deptford’s People project experienced. Taken over by MC student activists to the detriment of local female WC population.

Indeed. They have zero clue about WC womens needs/concerns/priorities

ArabellaScott · 19/02/2025 14:22

Younger women railing at older women is a very common sign of defensive internalised misogyny.

Having bought their way to success the Lambrini girls seem to be fuelled by self hatred:

'While Phoebe grew up in Brighton and went to a “bang average state school”, Lilly moved from Germany to Portugal to England, and attended private school. “It’s really important to be transparent about these things; I would never sit here and say I didn’t grow up privileged because I did,” she explains.

... Things have gone quickly for us because we had this money that we were able to put into the band when it was the right time to strike. And there are so many bands that don’t have that to dip into.”

...“Success is bought. We wouldn’t be doing this interview now if we didn’t have a press person that City Slang, our label, is paying for,” she says. “You need money behind you, or nepotism...

“If we hadn’t had that £6k to put into the EP, if Lilly wasn’t in this band, I wouldn’t be in a band that was doing well because I don’t have the means. You can be the most talented cunt. You can be the most engaging musician who is doing something quote-unquote important. You can be all those things and still be fucking slept on because in order to be a successful musician you have to give every single bit of the essence of your being; all of your time needs to go into this thing. And unless mummy and daddy are paying your fucking rent, you can’t do that.”'

https://diymag.com/cover-feature/lambrini-girls-who-let-the-dogs-out-class-of-2025

I hope they grow up a bit soon, for their sakes. It's all a bit desperate and depressing.

EdithStourton · 19/02/2025 14:51

Justme56 · 19/02/2025 13:10

https://x.com/notfarleftatall/status/1892175453621747770?s=46&t=ZX_bLozRqm8etdGICMcAvA

It’s quite funny after reading the Lambrini Girls with their punk/rebel messaging that this was reposted on my timeline. The ‘modern trans movement’.

Gosh, they were smug and clueless!

Grammarnut · 19/02/2025 14:52

Ph3 · 17/02/2025 21:19

Not sure if you came here for an argument or what but if you must know I was trying to edit it couldn’t then got called away by my 9 year old so took a bit to get back. Hope that satisfies your curiosity… didn’t realise couldn’t make mistakes here or that there was a comment police on this site.

edited to say: won’t be engaging any further as this is not my vibe obviously the snarky and unnecessary comments.
managed to edit this time ☺️

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Sorry you are not engaging Ph3. I didn't think the emoji was snarky, I thought you were making the comment that all this junk in our newspapers is unbelievable - a reasonable comment and one I agree with.
For some reason MN is particularly snarky about some povs, too. 🙄

Heggettypeg · 19/02/2025 15:22

Justme56 · 19/02/2025 13:10

https://x.com/notfarleftatall/status/1892175453621747770?s=46&t=ZX_bLozRqm8etdGICMcAvA

It’s quite funny after reading the Lambrini Girls with their punk/rebel messaging that this was reposted on my timeline. The ‘modern trans movement’.

And does it not occur to them that an enemy power with warlike territorial ambitions might be far more transphobic than anything they would ever experience in England? Blithering idiots.

Waitwhat23 · 19/02/2025 21:43

Now up to the part in the Harry Potter books when Cornelius Fudge has to admit to the Wizarding community that Voldemort has in fact returned and that Harry and Dumbledore were right all along.

There's definite parallels to the current desperate backpedalling by Scottish politicians and Scottish newspapers regarding the GRR bill and Peggie ET.

TempestTost · 20/02/2025 01:56

NotYourCisterinAus · 18/02/2025 03:46

It's not just happening in the UK. I lost my trust in the ABC (Australia) when it started talking about pregnant men and trying to tell me that a hulking six-footer with a prominent adam's apple and big hands belonged in a women's football team.

The same with the CBC here in Canada. They are really awful.

I first saw it with the trans issues, mainly they deal with it through strategic non-reporting which seems to be how left wing media make sure they give the narrative they want. Not fake facts but suppression of facts.

But soon enough I noticed it really egregiously around some indigenous issues, and then it was horrible around COVID. Some of their reporting around climate issues is also very shoddy.

These were three areas where I knew them to be suppressing or irresponsibly reporting, but I just think now, why would I believe anything they say?

I also think - it should be no surprise these are areas where many conservatives push back greatly, and sometimes have wacko theories. Because there is no real engagement it encourages the development of that kind of thing.

And it's not just media but academia, and the medical sector. I have no trust in their intellectual or social integrity of those people.

TempestTost · 20/02/2025 02:13

PriOn1 · 18/02/2025 11:52

Being on Twitter has been an eye-opener for me. Admittedly it also gives a very skewed perspective, depending on who you follow, but I was amazed UK people relying on the BBC were so shocked when Trump was voted in as all the US news I was getting on Twitter suggested there was no chance of Kamala Harris getting in.

I had a discussion on LinkedIn with a gender critical poster recently, who commented on a post saying that most journalists would consider themselves to be trying to undermine the powers that be (or something similar). Her comment was that that description made them sound like activists whereas journalists surely should be reporting facts so that the populus could judge and make up their own minds.

I do get the impression that journalism has changed and that, in the past there was more effort to report important news, whether it agreed with your agenda and politics or not, whereas nowadays, the main activity is driving the agenda you want. It’s certainly much more blatant and I’m not convinced it’s simply that we’re more aware now.

Then again, sometimes I think I’m just imagining some past golden age when there was more expectation of “decency” than there is now. It may be that people were always just as corrupt, but it was just better hidden.

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No, I don't think you are wrong, there has been a huge change in journalism.

I was at university with a lot of budding journalists, all doing a degree in journalism - something that didn't exist in my grandfather's time. These were middle class kids who were determined to be activists, Few were interested in hard news, most wanted to do features and opinion type stuff.

This is quite different from the older type of person who became a journalist, many of who were wc and had never been to university. Most had other careers before journalism.

BeyondHumanKenDoll · 20/02/2025 07:01

In the old days regional press used to recruit from their local communities and no degree was necessary. So you had working class journalists from all over the country entering the system. The best got recruited onto the national papers so you had working class journalists entering the national system too. They were recruited on experience, ie ability to deliver a good story.

Nowadays I believe the main pipeline into the national press is through their own traineeship programmes which favour university graduates and those who meet their own 'vision' of how their journalists should think.

Also the slow demise of traditional journalism means more job insecurity so people are less inclined to rock the boat with opinions deemed to not fit.

SuperSleepyBaby · 20/02/2025 22:20

And when media outlets go on about ‘misinformation’ now - i just think ‘but you pretend men are women’.

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Grammarnut · 20/02/2025 22:29

SuperSleepyBaby · 20/02/2025 22:20

And when media outlets go on about ‘misinformation’ now - i just think ‘but you pretend men are women’.

I also think they mean by 'misinformation' stuff they don't agree with. Censorship, and they do not even hide it.

MarieDeGournay · 20/02/2025 22:47

I don't know if there was ever a Golden Age when journalists reported nothing but the facts.

I grew up knowing which newspaper supported which political party, in fact you could know which way a family voted by whether they were an Irish Press or and Irish Independent family, and in the evening an Evening Press or an Evening Herald family. In the past you could probably even make a good guess at their religion, if they read the Irish Times.

You knew the editorial slant, and made allowances for it; and not all stories were susceptible to editorial slant anyway.

Now that there is access to not only a whole range of news outlets, but also to authoritative, referenced research papers online, it's possible to arrive at a reasonably acceptable version of things. It's also possible to identify individual journalists who, over the years, you have assessed as being reliable.

For instance, a PP mentioned being unhappy with media coverage of climate change - fortunately, there is lots of research published online, you can check the credentials of the authors, you can crosscheck opposing views and their sources, and make your own mind up.

So we are not totally dependent on the media, or worse still Social Media, if we want to form our own opinions on contentious subjects. I still use the 'MSM' to supply me with the topics, but I rely on myself for the opinions.

TempestTost · 21/02/2025 02:02

There was always slant, but I do think there was a qualitative difference in terms of commitment to journalistic ethics. There was a belief that you had to report the facts as honestly as you could without trying to slant the story. Did that always happen, no, but it was very much considered the ideal and something to strive for.

Many of the best journalists were essentially cynics, or counter-cultural types, who questioned everything, even if they had party allegiances. If you look at some of the great 20th century writers, a lot of them started as journalists, Hemmingway, Graham Greene, Joan Didion, George Orwell. Even where they were associated with the left, they didn't tend to be tribalistic.

DBSFstupid · 21/02/2025 04:18

Adamante · 19/02/2025 12:35

There’s a very leftist political ideology/project that has been hanging around in the fringes since the Second World War, but which really took off for the UK at around the time of the Blair government. Blair sent all the kids to uni, remember that relentless push to send 50% of all school leavers to uni? And Paxman asked him straight out to explain the symbolic figure of 50%, because he knew why. So they all got indoctrinated as was the plan, and now they’re all out there disseminating the results and many of them work in media. That’s the base of it. However then the Tories got in and they also had a fair few members who had been taught The Right Way To Think at uni, and also generally saw that those ideas/values were popular and would be a way to stay in power for a really long time - Boris was by far the worst imvho. So they stopped being conservative and embraced the same political stance and in fact went even further and so here we are. The media are fully on board because they were all indoctrinated early on. All the working class journos died out and the middle class graduates remain in charge and all hold the same general political views around how society should look, apart from a few outliers, who usually get sacked or “go freelance”. Therefore every single thing they publish is influenced by pushing the agenda rather than telling the truth.

You cannot believe one thing they write, it’s all at the least slanted/biased, at the most completely ignored but you’ll be shamed, sneered at and called a conspiracy theorist for saying so. And we can also see the results of Blair’s indoctrination project right here on MN every day, which as a platform has a very high proportion of middle class women, of the right age, who went through uni as a result of Blair’s big push.

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Spot on.

Herewegoagain29 · 21/02/2025 08:25

SuperSleepyBaby · 20/02/2025 22:20

And when media outlets go on about ‘misinformation’ now - i just think ‘but you pretend men are women’.

I had the same feeling, the realisation that we are being bombarded with constant articles about trans kids, trans celebraties, state funded trans parades, trans storylines, trans education in schools and workplaces and language policing.

The media have been the propaganda arm of the state, either enthusiastically joining in or meekly following the language policing, so much for a free press, no different to North Korea.

MarieDeGournay · 21/02/2025 10:10

no different to North Korea.
Well maybe just a tiny bit different, Herewegoagain29, if you apply some of the level-headed unbiased critical analysis we expect of journalists.

LittleMyLittle · 21/02/2025 12:21

I have retired family members who spend a good portion of their day reading the news. One of them, who I think is pretty pro-Palestine, did acknowledge he thought the BBC had a pro-Palestine bias. But he also takes what the BBC has to say about Trump at face value, which means he cannot understand (or perhaps doesn't want to understand) the American voters' perspective. Nor can he understand why the Russians "love Putin so much". This is from a man who would have been on the receiving end of this same lack of empathy when he voted for Brexit.

Being able to understand someone else's views (even if you don't share them, or find them abhorrent) is a seriously important skill to develop. These days I find that looking at a variety of opinions across social media is a good way of figuring out a more nuanced issue - or even one that seems to have a blatantly "correct" side. Unfortunately it can be very difficult to tell whether an opinion is grounded in truth or a lie, as there's misinformation all over the place and fact checkers cannot always be trusted to be impartial.

Apollo441 · 21/02/2025 13:34

I am surprised to see this published in the Guardian as it pretty much descibes their mindset.
https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2025/feb/19/leftwing-activists-less-likely-work-political-rivals-other-uk-groups-study

maltravers · 21/02/2025 18:00

Apollo441 · 21/02/2025 13:34

I am surprised to see this published in the Guardian as it pretty much descibes their mindset.
https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2025/feb/19/leftwing-activists-less-likely-work-political-rivals-other-uk-groups-study

I agree, but maybe it will encourage readers to see that shutting out the opinion of others is a demonstration of intolerance, not purity.

WarriorN · 22/02/2025 10:19

Being able to understand someone else's views (even if you don't share them, or find them abhorrent) is a seriously important skill to develop. These days I find that looking at a variety of opinions across social media is a good way of figuring out a more nuanced issue - or even one that seems to have a blatantly "correct" side. Unfortunately it can be very difficult to tell whether an opinion is grounded in truth or a lie, as there's misinformation all over the place and fact checkers cannot always be trusted to be impartial.

Great post