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Important article by Lionel Shriver

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FarriersGirl · 30/12/2024 07:42

Leading article in the Times today by Lionel Shriver. She has long been a critic of woke but really doesn't pull any punches. In particular she highlights the fact that far from being progressive the era of woke has been the opposite.

www.thetimes.com/comment/columnists/article/ditching-woke-brain-rot-transgender-pronouns-58g8dpxnp

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stronglatte · 30/12/2024 11:05

Agree with PP but she's torpedoed gender politics to a completely uncomfortable and hate filled realm. Also on that one topic she's piled an awful lot of hate of the other and the different - and easy and lazily odious stance

Brainworm · 30/12/2024 11:09

Brefugee · 30/12/2024 10:26

i think there is a massive difference between DEI (or EDI) policies that promote - rather than include - ideas about gender identity, and inclusive policies that seek to level the playing field to push back on racism and disability discrimination.

So while i can let out a small cheer on her clear language around gender identity, the idea that free speech allows us to use disgusting ableist language isn't something that i will ever be on board with any more than i am on board with the return of overt sexism and racism, and i will never stop pushing back against the covert versions of those two

I agree with this.

I much prefer narratives that are precise, clear and balanced. This morning I have been reading about Pinker and Dawkins' resignation from the Freedom from Religion Foundation (I think that's what it's called). They highlight the conceptual errors and how the moral and the empirical has been confused and conflated. They highlight how it is counterproductive to force people to choose between trans rights and scientific reality because those who favor scientific reality will be alienated from the cause of safeguarding trans rights.

Many people, like me, who oppose 'wokeism' if/when it refers to positions that are built on conceptual errors and confusing moral and empirical arguments. We are happy for moral arguments to be made, we want them to include empirical and scientific reasoning also.

Many oppose 'wokeism' because they believe in 'survival of the fittest' and meritocratic approach. Some oppose it because they are bigoted (which I tend to think stems from anxiety).

Sibilantseamstress · 30/12/2024 11:14

I also raised an eyebrow at retarded and filmed in Nigeria.

I also agree that she would be fascinating to meet and she is razor sharp.

I guess this is us going back to the days where you can disagree with some things a person says without rejecting everything and without completely vilifying the person. I.e. she is a great writer, and interesting thinker, and also rude and a bit mean. Read her stuff, but don’t swallow it whole, read it as critically. Same as with everything else we read.

bluetonguegiraffe · 30/12/2024 11:21

Mittens67 · 30/12/2024 08:40

I don’t like much of what she says but I agree that extremism in left wing politics caused an enormous back lash which in turn has led to the increase in right wing extremism and now threatens to undo all the good which the more moderate left had previously achieved.
The madness of trans activism was the straw which broke the camel’s back.

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Not read the article but agree with what you said here.

There was an article on the Financial Times after Trump's election victory, in which the author analysed various survey and polling data and concluded that people had not left the Democrats, so much as the Democrats had pushed them away.
Also analysis on radio 4 about french politics saying similar. French people are reacting against being told what they cannot say and that their thoughts are wrong.

The Left has become really authoritarian, does not listen to voters concerns, and voters are turning away from that.

Missproportionate · 30/12/2024 11:22

Pretty unhappy about the grouping of environmental concerns with all the other wokeness. This is a big unlike from me.

"Investors are suing the retailer Target for putting commitments to DEI, environmental, social and governance and Pride Month above the interests of shareholders."

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 11:49

Pinkissmart · 30/12/2024 10:33

Yeah, I stopped reading at her comments about the word ‘retarded’.
I also can’t stand when people sanctimoniously speak of ‘British values’, especially in the context of the BBC. Meaningless dog whistle.

The thing is, 'retard' and 'retarded' were still being used in the U.S until relatively recently; long after we stopped using them in Britain. Strictly speaking it means 'late development' or 'delayed development'.

Anyway - Shriver is a polemicist - her writing is meant to confront and spark argument and discusion. She highlights issues by taking them to extremes. Germain Greer used to do that too.

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 11:54

Missproportionate · 30/12/2024 11:22

Pretty unhappy about the grouping of environmental concerns with all the other wokeness. This is a big unlike from me.

"Investors are suing the retailer Target for putting commitments to DEI, environmental, social and governance and Pride Month above the interests of shareholders."

That's because environmental activism, such as throwing soup over works of art and glueing fingers to road surfaces, tends to be associated with an adherence to a predictable set of views and opinions. Environmental activism as a group identity. The Green party, and what it has become, sums this up perfectly

RoyalCorgi · 30/12/2024 11:57

I really dislike the way that a whole bunch of disparate issues are bundled together, so that if you oppose gender ideology you are somehow expected to be a climate change sceptic, opposed to racial inclusion policies and in favour of using language such as "retarded". They are not the same thing at all. Gender ideology is entirely irrational and anti-scientific - more akin to astrology than any sensible set of ideas. Whereas climate science is rooted in evidence, and racial inclusion and diversity policies are based on a desire for fairness - even if you disagree with those policies, they're not irrational in the way that gender ideology is.

Shriver argues that certain black women, such as Claudine Gay, were hired because of their race and sex rather than their ability, which may be true, but the same is also true of thousands of white men who have done those kinds of jobs in the past. And indeed continue to do so - can anyone truly believe that someone as talentless and dishonest as Donald Trump would have come to power if he had been black or female?

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 12:01

RoyalCorgi · 30/12/2024 11:57

I really dislike the way that a whole bunch of disparate issues are bundled together, so that if you oppose gender ideology you are somehow expected to be a climate change sceptic, opposed to racial inclusion policies and in favour of using language such as "retarded". They are not the same thing at all. Gender ideology is entirely irrational and anti-scientific - more akin to astrology than any sensible set of ideas. Whereas climate science is rooted in evidence, and racial inclusion and diversity policies are based on a desire for fairness - even if you disagree with those policies, they're not irrational in the way that gender ideology is.

Shriver argues that certain black women, such as Claudine Gay, were hired because of their race and sex rather than their ability, which may be true, but the same is also true of thousands of white men who have done those kinds of jobs in the past. And indeed continue to do so - can anyone truly believe that someone as talentless and dishonest as Donald Trump would have come to power if he had been black or female?

Though a lot of people who 'identify as' climate activists tend to hold to it as an article of faith, rather than as a scientific proposition. Group identities are not founded in rationalism but on emotional solidarity.

Brainworm · 30/12/2024 12:09

"Shriver argues that certain black women, such as Claudine Gay, were hired because of their race and sex rather than their ability, which may be true, but the same is also true of thousands of white men who have done those kinds of jobs in the past. And indeed continue to do so - can anyone truly believe that someone as talentless and dishonest as Donald Trump would have come to power if he had been black or female?"

And that is the 'gotcha' that the authoritarian left use to death to dismiss and ridicule the 'anti woke'. They, wrongly, claim that people who label policies and practices as 'woke' are those who wish to hold on to their long stranding privileges.

The term 'woke' has not been helpful. There isn't a shared understanding of its meaning and it is used by 'both sides' to try and score points against each other.

FlowchartRequired · 30/12/2024 12:14

If there is one thing that the last few years has taught me, it is that we need diversity of thought.

The woke (for want of a better term) idea of progress regarding EDI, where everyone looks different but thinks exactly the same (and where those who deviate from the list of right-think are Nazis) is the exact opposite. The one area where diversity is not accepted at all is thought.

So, I think that for better, or in some cases for worse, we as a society need diversity of thought. We need freedom of speech so that people can articulate those thoughts.

Now, most of us agree that making a credible threat to someone's life or incitement to violence should be where a line is drawn. Once you cross that line, there should be Police involvement. However, everything before that line (including things that I would not say myself) should be allowed.

The authoritarian approach is worse. Much, much worse.

Summerhillsquare · 30/12/2024 12:16

AlbertCamusflage · 30/12/2024 08:23

God she is depressing. So much pound-per-word contrarian moaning. Whenever I read her columns I find it hard to believe that she wrote the magnificent We Need To Talk About Kevin.

She seems to specialise in being Too Affronted to sort out which is baby and which is bathwater. I don't particularly want gender critical thought to be lumped in with her gammony raging about anti-racist initiatives.

Beautifully put, thank you. She's wretched.

Newstartplease24 · 30/12/2024 12:18

I don’t know why the book we need to talk about kevin is treated with such reverence. It’s a fun, schlocky read if you like horror, but it’s a work of fiction based on an unsubstantiated belief that some individuals can be born evil. It gets referred to sometimes as if it’s a documentary. It’s just a sensational novel

Newbutoldfather · 30/12/2024 12:24

It is a very insensitive black and white article but it does make a few good points.

I am not sure why people think that ‘retarded’ is ablist when it literally means delayed. It is the same as saying a child has GDD.

And the problem with language is that however much we try and purify it, the new words will come to be used in an offensive context. My teen boys use ‘special’ or a bit of a ‘spec’ as an insult (from Special Needs, not wearing glasses, as I originally thought.

I think a lot of the issue of wokism is the obsession with inoffensive vocabulary as opposed to meaning and intent, almost like knowing the correct words gets you into the club. So ‘coloured’ is grossly offensive but ‘of colour’ is great, when they are synonymous!

As for her points on racism and affirmative action, that is a very complex issue which she overly simplifies, but I do think that it should only go on for so long and be based on actual privilege, not a perceived hierarchy of privilege.

Ultimately, she is neither a scientist nor a philosopher and she is quite bigoted in much of her thinking, but she does act as a counterweight to some of the liberal left people who would love to cancel people like her but can’t…

TheStarfire · 30/12/2024 12:25

Newstartplease24 · 30/12/2024 12:18

I don’t know why the book we need to talk about kevin is treated with such reverence. It’s a fun, schlocky read if you like horror, but it’s a work of fiction based on an unsubstantiated belief that some individuals can be born evil. It gets referred to sometimes as if it’s a documentary. It’s just a sensational novel

Totally agree. I also remember seeing her talk about the book and she wrote it from such an ungenerous place (imo). I can't remember exactly, but I remember thinking that.

It is annoying that women's rights now seem to get lumped in with racism, ableism and fat phobia all of a sudden.

Brainworm · 30/12/2024 12:26

“Shriver is a polemicist - her writing is meant to confront and spark argument and discusion. She highlights issues by taking them to extremes.”

Back when there was more widespread uniformity of thought about societal issues, polemicists promoted new and different ideas and challenged the status quo. They encouraged critical thinking and prevented complacency by presenting alternative viewpoints.

We now have a context of highly polarised views and polemic writing just serves to further intensify and divide. The provocative style simply appeals to one side whilst alienating the other - it perpetuates conflict and does nothing to bring about better understanding or positive change.

MrsSkylerWhite · 30/12/2024 12:27

She’s a very unpleasant person. Don’t bother reading her articles these days.

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 12:29

TheStarfire · 30/12/2024 12:25

Totally agree. I also remember seeing her talk about the book and she wrote it from such an ungenerous place (imo). I can't remember exactly, but I remember thinking that.

It is annoying that women's rights now seem to get lumped in with racism, ableism and fat phobia all of a sudden.

Fat phobia?

TheStarfire · 30/12/2024 12:30

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 12:29

Fat phobia?

Yes

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 12:30

Brainworm · 30/12/2024 12:26

“Shriver is a polemicist - her writing is meant to confront and spark argument and discusion. She highlights issues by taking them to extremes.”

Back when there was more widespread uniformity of thought about societal issues, polemicists promoted new and different ideas and challenged the status quo. They encouraged critical thinking and prevented complacency by presenting alternative viewpoints.

We now have a context of highly polarised views and polemic writing just serves to further intensify and divide. The provocative style simply appeals to one side whilst alienating the other - it perpetuates conflict and does nothing to bring about better understanding or positive change.

Good point!

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 12:31

TheStarfire · 30/12/2024 12:30

Yes

I'm uncertain what fat phobia is supposed to mean, and why it may be linked with racism and 'ableism'.

Being seriously overweight is a real health issue and a societal one too. Being obese is not an identity, surely?

TheStarfire · 30/12/2024 12:36

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 12:31

I'm uncertain what fat phobia is supposed to mean, and why it may be linked with racism and 'ableism'.

Being seriously overweight is a real health issue and a societal one too. Being obese is not an identity, surely?

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Oh you don't know what it means 🥺? Oh no - maybe you can use this thing called Google and find out for yourself instead of posting faux ignorant comments on here.

Won't respond to you again

Shortshriftandlethal · 30/12/2024 12:39

TheStarfire · 30/12/2024 12:36

Oh you don't know what it means 🥺? Oh no - maybe you can use this thing called Google and find out for yourself instead of posting faux ignorant comments on here.

Won't respond to you again

I'm not sure why you are being so hostile?

Fat 'phobia' makes no sense to me....A phobia is a fear. Are you suggesting that commenting on obesity is an affront to identity? Does noticing that many people are now obese count as fat phobia? Do you think obesity is something to celebrate?

It seems to me that making an identity out of every conceivable personal characteristic simply creates mental fragility.

Abhannmor · 30/12/2024 12:47

AlbertCamusflage · 30/12/2024 08:23

God she is depressing. So much pound-per-word contrarian moaning. Whenever I read her columns I find it hard to believe that she wrote the magnificent We Need To Talk About Kevin.

She seems to specialise in being Too Affronted to sort out which is baby and which is bathwater. I don't particularly want gender critical thought to be lumped in with her gammony raging about anti-racist initiatives.

💯. A dangerous person to have on your side. I know I'm probably a bit biased because of her anti Irish comments. Apparently we are ' a scummy potato residue' who are trying to impede Brexit. So I googled her and her dad was a Protestant minister in North Carolina. Whether this explains or excuses her bigotry I don't know. Maybe she's just a racist crank off her own bat.

ScholesPanda · 30/12/2024 12:57

She seems to have a particular disdain for black women, much more likely to have been over promoted than black men on account of their sex apparently.

Good to know we can go back to using retarded as well. And I won't turn on the television and forget which country I'm in on account of the skin colour of the actors any more. What a time to be alive!