I'm really scared by this prosecution guidance.
I'm a woman, and bi. I have PCOS, and as I've got older, I've got more hair on my face. I pluck it, but sometimes when it's growing back, I have visible black stubble coming back across my chin and cheeks. PCOS also means that I gain muscle more easily than many women.
I come from a tall family, so I'm tall for a woman, pretty average for a man.
I've always struggled with feeling like I'm not feminine enough, but I'm coming to terms with being me.
I had a high familial risk of breast cancer, and took the really difficult decision to have a double mastectomy and reconstruction. Mostly to make sure I am around to bring up my child. It means that I have scars and lack of sensation on my breasts - it's obvious that I have had surgery.
I dress pretty femme, but I guess it wouldn't be unreasonable for someone to think I was a trans woman. I'm never trying to look trans, never trying to trick anyone, but now i'm having to consider the risk that people could think that.
If I kissed someone in a club (a sexual act), couldn't they claim that I deceived them into thinking I was trans? Indeed, if things were to go further, and they saw my scars, couldn't they say that's also deception? Do I need to explain than my breast reconstruction was because of a familial risk of breast cancer, to avoid the assumption that this was trans surgery? Feels like quite a lot of personal medical history to disclose.
I know some trans people only want involvement with other trans people. Some people are particularly into trans women, like a fetish thing.
Couldn't this law be used against me? Even if they didnt actually think I was trans, they could make the allegation against me if stuff turned bad between us. Basically, do I have to declare that "I am a cis woman" before any sexual contact?
It seems pretty messed up that the law could mean that if I don't tell people "I'm a cis woman", I could be found guilty of rape by deception.
But someone could tell me they are single, when really they have a spouse and kids at home. I wouldn't consent to sex with them if I knew that. In fact, it makes me a party to adultery, and until 2022 I could have been named in divorce proceedings. But that's not rape by deception.
An undercover police officers can get into a sexual relationship with a women. She wouldn't consent if she knew he was a police officer. But that's not rape by deception, according to the courts.
It just feels like this hasn't been properly thought through at all.