Oh it's quite a different social landscape nowadays - in my experience at least, most normal people don't hold raging anti-trans views anymore, which certainly wasn't the case a decade ago and prior where you really couldn't trust that anyone you met in normal life wouldn't be schrodinger's bigot and had no choice but to protect yourself through complete silence and great caution.
I suppose this is a tradeoff of the positive change since and the more recent culture war that is trying to roll us back to the Bad Old Days - the number of reasonable people has increased significantly, but the number of highly radicalised holders of negative views toward trans people or transness in general has also increased. As a trans person minding your privacy and trying to remain safe while having a healthy, active sex life, you can now be fairly confident that most people you meet will at worst consider you to be a bit of an unusual curiosity.
The dangerous anti-trans culture warrior factor, however, is much more prominent now, and this is doubly relevant if your preferred partners are men since male violence against people they perceive to not be male remains disturbingly high, and that threat does not reduce if the victim is transgender.
In the bad old days, we lived under the shadow of Trans Panic defences and all bets were off. If you chose the wrong partner, they could choose to murder you for being trans and would probably get away with it.
Nowadays, that's less likely as transphobia is less socially acceptable and has increasingly retreated into the realm of dogwhistles and concern trolling demagogues. People who hold negative views toward us have gotten better at hiding them, and the reasonable expectation from everyday life is that most normal people no longer hold these kinds of views.
Because of this, I think it's probably safest if those who hold negative views toward trans people don't go stealth amongst the population; the risk of harm is way too high.