Some people asking about blood tests - my best guess is that private clinics are more likely to prescribe testosterone (which IS licensed for low libido but which may GPs do not feel comfortable prescribing) and it is important to make sure a patient has adequate oestrogen levels otherwise the testosterone is just converted to oestrogen anyway. Therefore blood tests important. Or, alternatively, you believe a woman is not absorbing oestrogen well enough transdermally, so want to give her unlicensed doses, maybe you want to check oestrogen. Since GPs are generally not giving unlicensed doses of oestrogen and less likely to prescribe testosterone, BTs are not so helpful. Particularly in a pre-menopausal woman whose levels will be fluctuating anyway.
Sorry I'm on my phone and can't scroll back easily - someone asked what symptoms HRT doesn't help - it is more that symptoms are being ascribed to menopause more and more and often there are other things going on - like a bit of age-related joint pain, or stress from being carer to three generations and still working, or real pathologies that are being missed. HRT may help if they are really menopausal symptoms - but if it doesn't, it may be that the net needs casting wider.
HRT is not licensed for osteoporosis prevention outside of premature menopause, I believe? although it can be used around meno age. There's a good BMS leaflet on it. I don't really know why - probably because trials haven't been done in older women? Main thing is to have plenty of dietary calcium and Vit D and lots of weight bearing exercise, and if you have major risk factors (teenage anorexia or malnutrition, long smoking or heavy drinking history, steroid use, some rheum diseases, strong family history...) bring that to a conversation with your doctor.
You sound like you have been on quite journey @WarriorN and yes beans (and LizOR) are great!