I’m beginning to wonder about women putting ourselves last in comparison to the needs of others politically as well as personally.
We feel that our children need good schools, our parents and families need a good NHS, we feel that infrastructure will help partners and spouses (and us) get and keep employment more easily. So we feel that discussing our needs as a class is putting ourselves above the needs of those who matter to us. We feel we have to concentrate on getting their needs sorted before we can take the time to campaign for the things we need.
But I also think we need to follow the advice given on airlines: we need to put on our oxygen mask first to make sure that we’re able to help our dependents. So, politically, if we keep putting everybody else’s needs first ours will never be taken seriously by political parties because we don’t take them seriously.
We need to ensure that women keep everything that previous generations of women fought for that allow us to equally and safely participate in society and/or employment; removing the stress relating to those daily aspects of life will leave us much more mental and physical energy to put into our lives and thus into the lives of those that matter to us. We can’t be running around feeling ragged and stressed, and having our needs ignored by larger society/public institutions, and expect to be productive happy people and citizens.
We tell each other that it’s a good idea to articulate our needs on a personal level in relationships, so we should also tell each other than it’s just as vital to articulate our needs on a societal and political level. Fixing the issues that concern women would benefit women AND wider society would benefit from that.
Politicians see politics as being about practicalities so women should see politics that way too - what have they done for us lately? What can we hold them to? When is the relationship no longer working? When is it time to move on and use our support to win their support?
There are so many smart, thoughtful, talented, funny, kind, blunt, tactful, supportive, and creative women on this board and we don’t always agree on how to achieve things but we agree that women are worth listening to. I want politicians and institutions to realise as well that women are worth listening to.