many moons ago many girls went through Tom Boy phases and nothing was made of it
I was one of them.
Age 11 I begged my mum to let me have my waist length hair cut into very short chin length angled bob. I only wore trousers and Doc Marten Boots. I refused to play things like hairdressers and beauty style with the girls on our street, instead favouring cricket and tag with the boys.
By 16 I'd done a U turn (still had short hair, still do now age 43!).
These days I'd probably have been given puberty blockers, told I must want to be a boy and encouraged to change my name and pronouns.
How did it all get so bloody messed up??