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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Labour Losing women

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ChristinaXYZ · 07/03/2024 20:20

Despite all the recent WPATH revelations and everythign else we now know Angela Eagle has just tweeted that the next Labour government will:

  • Legislate for a trans-inclusive conversion therapy ban
  • Make anti-LGBT+ hate crime an aggravated offence *Modernise Gender Recognition processes
  • Appoint an international LGBT+ envoy

https://twitter.com/angelaeagle/status/1765795128407388651

https://twitter.com/angelaeagle/status/1765795128407388651

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ArabellaScott · 08/03/2024 17:23

MrsOvertonsWindow · 08/03/2024 17:21

Mothers - the only group to get our experiences dismissed as "that old chestnut" by those with no knowledge or experience of pregnancy and childbirth. Whatever happened to affirmation?

Oh, I forgot, women and babies don't count

Aye. Women are uniquely dismissable. Its almost like people think our views count for less because we're female....

GailBlancheViola · 08/03/2024 17:23

ArabellaScott · 08/03/2024 17:22

What I find weird is people who say they're leftwing defending the commodification of women's bodies.

It's a puzzler for sure.

ForCoralFox · 08/03/2024 17:25

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 08/03/2024 17:20

Yes it is a positive thing for biological mums if other parents can equally care for the baby by say giving them a bottle of formula.
Breast feeding isn't the be all and end all.
I swear some posters on this board would love to keep women at home "where they belong" 🙄 as it's their duty as a mother bla bla, that's what some of it sounds like.
Feminism. Hmmm.

It's just like in the 70s. Huge overlap between certain feminists and the natural childbirth crew who insisted on a very narrow and restrictive vision of motherhood and family life. No formula, no caesareans, no pain relief, and no time for yourself because the baby must be attached to you 24/7.

Peskysquirrel · 08/03/2024 17:26

I think you two are having a different conversation from everyone else.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 08/03/2024 17:26

I also think that surrogacy should be regulated, but that it's a woman's choice,

Ooh don't mention the choice word on here, it's usually frowned upon.
We're to do as we're told, or we don't know any better. Bless our hearts

ArabellaScott · 08/03/2024 17:26

Truly, Gail. I'd have imagined the most right-wing freemarket uber capitalist thing in the world would be to advocate the selling of women's bodies. Maybe the left wing position is we should do it for free, I suppose. For the good of the party. For the men, not the femme.

ArabellaScott · 08/03/2024 17:27

ForCoralFox · 08/03/2024 17:25

It's just like in the 70s. Huge overlap between certain feminists and the natural childbirth crew who insisted on a very narrow and restrictive vision of motherhood and family life. No formula, no caesareans, no pain relief, and no time for yourself because the baby must be attached to you 24/7.

I've had two sections. And mixed fed. What the FUCK do you know about the choices mothers have to make? Or the tolls it takes on us? Absolutely fuck all, that's clear.

Floisme · 08/03/2024 17:29

Did someone really just explain to us how breast pumping works? On a parenting website? Grin

To be fair, I was totally clueless about the physical toll of giving birth, or how long the after effects can continue. Hell I didn't even realise you bled afterwards. So I guess I shouldn't be too hard on the gob smacking ignorance on display here. It's not exactly doing much to persuade me back to voting Labour though.

ForCoralFox · 08/03/2024 17:29

ArabellaScott · 08/03/2024 17:27

I've had two sections. And mixed fed. What the FUCK do you know about the choices mothers have to make? Or the tolls it takes on us? Absolutely fuck all, that's clear.

I wasn't talking about you personally. And I'd love to know how you know I haven't given birth. Womanly intuition?

Peskysquirrel · 08/03/2024 17:29

Well, have you?

teawamutu · 08/03/2024 17:32

ForCoralFox · 08/03/2024 17:25

It's just like in the 70s. Huge overlap between certain feminists and the natural childbirth crew who insisted on a very narrow and restrictive vision of motherhood and family life. No formula, no caesareans, no pain relief, and no time for yourself because the baby must be attached to you 24/7.

Neither of you are remotely right, so much so that I cannot believe you're posting in good faith.

A bottle of formula can be a life-saver for a breastfeeding mother who needs a break. This is NOT AT ALL the same thing as giving a man drugs to induce some sort of discharge, failing to do anything like proper testing, and then feeding it to a baby.

This is not in the baby's interests, and it is not regressive to say so.

I had medicalised births by necessity. I worked full time from early on. I breastfed because I read the literature and concluded it would be best if I could, and I was lucky enough to be able to although it was bloody hard at times.

None of that is the Puritan bullshit you're ascribing to me. Or I suspect anyone else on this thread.

ForCoralFox · 08/03/2024 17:32

Floisme · 08/03/2024 17:29

Did someone really just explain to us how breast pumping works? On a parenting website? Grin

To be fair, I was totally clueless about the physical toll of giving birth, or how long the after effects can continue. Hell I didn't even realise you bled afterwards. So I guess I shouldn't be too hard on the gob smacking ignorance on display here. It's not exactly doing much to persuade me back to voting Labour though.

I've no desire to persuade anyone to vote Labour. I'm a very reluctant supporter of the current Labour Party and their victory is a foregone conclusion, so I don't see the point in trying to persuade anyone. A Labour government is coming, and with it I suspect some positive changes for the rights of transgender people. That's the reality.

teawamutu · 08/03/2024 17:33

Peskysquirrel · 08/03/2024 17:26

I think you two are having a different conversation from everyone else.

<coffcoff>splaining.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 08/03/2024 17:33

I have. Given birth that is. More than once.
Am I allowed an opinion?

sanluca · 08/03/2024 17:36

In a lesbian couple, where only one is the biological mother, is the other lesser I'm some way?

In a certain way yes, in other ways no. Both mothers will be the parent, both will have the bond with the child, but only one will be the mother, will have carried and nurtured the child in a way the other won't have and nothing can undo that. I am also not sure if lesser is the right word, multi faceted maybe? That extra dimension you are denying exists but 99,9% of mothers who gave birth will say is there, as will the children in question.

I always wonder why people are so adamant to deny this exists, when there is so much research to show it does. Usually these people have ulterior motives, like being adoptive mother, mother through surrogacy, men.

Peskysquirrel · 08/03/2024 17:36

Peskysquirrel · 08/03/2024 17:29

Well, have you?

That's a no, then.

lifeturnsonadime · 08/03/2024 17:41

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 08/03/2024 17:33

I have. Given birth that is. More than once.
Am I allowed an opinion?

Have you given birth to a child who now identifies as trans by any chance?

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 08/03/2024 17:43

lifeturnsonadime · 08/03/2024 17:41

Have you given birth to a child who now identifies as trans by any chance?

😂
Lol, no.
Neither of them are trans.

WaterWeasel · 08/03/2024 17:45

sanluca · 08/03/2024 16:13

It is a very common trope told in the patriarchy that motherhood, being pregnant, giving birth, is 'nothing special', Coralfox, but I disagree

There is nothing special or mystical about biological motherhood that makes it more important than other forms of parenthood. Fathers and non biological mothers (adoptive or in same sex relationships) are equally important, and should be treated equally.

Your statement diminishes the experience, impact and effect being a biological mother has on both mother and child. True patriarchy and fits neatly into the left wing ideas that bonds, birth and biology are not important.

Fatherhood and adoptive mothers are not equal to being the biological mother. That doesn't mean they aren't important or good, but it doesn't compare to being the biological mother. Maternity leave is not parental leave and is not just for raising the child the first months/year.

Think about: would you really say that if a mother loses a child in the last weeks of pregnancy or during birth, they shouldn't have maternity leave? Or that a mother who gives their child up for adoption or surrogacy, should be back working within a day? But adoptive parents and fathers should have the right to a year off?

Adoptive parents should have leave for the benefit of the child. Fathers should receive leave for the benefit of their bond with their child. But mothers should come first as they need recovery on top of bonding with their child.

I completely agree with you and come at this from the perspective of an adopted person.

lifeturnsonadime · 08/03/2024 17:47

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 08/03/2024 17:43

😂
Lol, no.
Neither of them are trans.

That's interesting because it often explains mothers who turn a blind eye to the harms done to trans identifying children.

I don't know any women who have all the facts in front of them who agree with Labour's approach on this but each to their own and all that.

maltravers · 08/03/2024 18:00

MrsOvertonsWindow · 08/03/2024 17:21

Mothers - the only group to get our experiences dismissed as "that old chestnut" by those with no knowledge or experience of pregnancy and childbirth. Whatever happened to affirmation?

Oh, I forgot, women and babies don't count

It may be “lived experience “ but it’s not the right sort so can safely be ignored.

JanesLittleGirl · 08/03/2024 18:10

ForCoralFox · 08/03/2024 16:46

It had nothing to do with seeing women as resources. In a lesbian couple, where only one is the biological mother, is the other lesser I'm some way?

Well, only one of them will just have given birth after 9 months of pregnancy so while there is no lesser, they have hugely different needs.

ForCoralFox · 08/03/2024 18:17

JanesLittleGirl · 08/03/2024 18:10

Well, only one of them will just have given birth after 9 months of pregnancy so while there is no lesser, they have hugely different needs.

But that doesn't mean that one should go back to work while the other stays home alone, or that one should spend more time caring for the baby.

WickedSerious · 08/03/2024 18:22

ForCoralFox · 08/03/2024 17:20

I don't think that surrogacy is 'selling babies' and I do think the 'secretions' as you so dismissively call them, should be tested.

I also think that surrogacy should be regulated, but that it's a woman's choice, like sex work, and gives hope to many people. I don't see why trans women shouldn't breastfeed if they can produce milk that is safe and nutritious. I don't know if they can, or will be able to in the future, but I don't see what's wrong with it in theory. Wanting to nurture your child is not a fetish.

Okay,you don't like 'secretions'.

How about 'effluent from moobs'?

JanesLittleGirl · 08/03/2024 18:23

Will Labour be promising a free owl for every household like they did in 2014? I know that it was a joke but helped me to vote Labour in 2015.

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