I find your total confidence that you know my family and friends better than I do bizarre. We debate, and sometimes argue, over lots of issues, but generally all my family and friends are very liberal, tolerant and kind. I know those words are not popular on this particular forum.
You must be aware that gender critical feminism is very much a minority view. There are many people who are intolerant of, or prejudiced against trans people, but they tend to be generally socially conservative. Most people on the left and most liberals are pro trans rights. Those who straddle the divide are rare, so it's not surprising that I don't know any. I know some people who are trans phobic, but they certainly aren't feminists, nor are they friends, just acquaintances. They are all men too.