Well you and I are never going to agree.
And that's OK.
For me, I know that human's can't change sex.
I know that women (by that I mean those of us born female) need single sex spaces for safety and dignity.
That's not transphobic, it's putting females first. Women who centre males in their feminism, are not in my opinion, feminists.
Then there is a thin line to men's right's activism if what you really support is putting the wishes of these males above the real needs of vulnerable women.
Because ultimately trans women can be safe without accessing women's single sex spaces, but no suggestion of that nature is ever good enough.