The point is if you decide to stay, which many of us do, you have to understand when you are crossing a line by continually raising the same question and know at that point in time keeping your own counsel is the pragmatic option.
That's the difference between most of us and those who persist and bring substantial failings to public attention. (And then end up in protracted litigation, compromise or lose their careers, or end up needing to emigrate, and can even find themselves losing friends and family.)
[Kierkegaard's] contribution to ethics was to reveal our ethical evasions, that is, the ways in which we pull the wool over our own eyes by talking ourselves out of inconvenient moral truths. In a note to himself, Kierkegaard scribbles:
- "Aesthetically … admiration is the highest … Then along comes the ethical and says: as a matter of fact, wanting to imitate is decisive; admiration has no place or is an evasion."
Admiration that does not lead to action is one of the moral off-ramps Kierkegaard tries to dissuade us from taking…
Writing under the pseudonym Johannes Climacus, Kierkegaard drew an equivalence between the universal and the ethical, and in so doing hammered out an important distinction:
- "That one person can swim the channel, and a second person knows 24 languages, and a third person walks on his hands etc – one can admire that si placet [if you please]. But if the person presented is supposed to be great with regard to the universal because of his virtue, his faith, his nobility, his faithfulness, his perseverance, etc, then admiration is a deceptive relation …"
What is great with regard to the universal must therefore not be presented as an object for admiration, but as a requirement. Admiration for Kierkegaard is a carpet path to the easy chair. He reminds us: ‘there is an infinite difference between an admirer and an imitator, because an imitator is, or at least strives to be what he admires.’
https://psyche.co/ideas/why-kierkegaard-believed-its-lazy-to-admire-our-moral-heroes
I recognise the admirer | imitator split in my life. I'm an imitator in some roles in my life and admirer in others. I'm not at ease with myself but that's my compromise.