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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

KJK

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Notaflippinclue · 04/11/2023 22:14

Why the fuck has MUMSNET cancelled her

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Boiledbeetle · 07/11/2023 18:33

Never have i felt such an urge to flounce!

Cooked lettuce!!!

What the fuck is wrong with you people

(Wonders if cooked lettuce tastes nicer than raw lettuce)

ArthurbellaScott · 07/11/2023 18:48
Sesame Street Cookie GIF by Sésamo

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ApocalipstickNow · 07/11/2023 18:55

Well I’ve made soup tonight so something good has come from all this (for me, at least.)

JanesLittleGirl · 07/11/2023 18:56

ArthurbellaScott · 07/11/2023 18:18

I hope you're not casting asparagus on my fried lettuce recipe.

Edited

Lettuce be clear. Lettuce is not food. Lettuce is what food eats.

BonfireLady · 07/11/2023 18:57

There has been some really useful info shared on abuse and abusers. Thank you.

Also thank you for the acknowledgements about the difficult path that parents who are caught up in this are treading. This board has been an absolute lifeline on this front, being able to explore the whole (massive) subject relating to gender identity belief.

There are so many people that come here who are at various different stages of peaking. There are also several posters - not just me - who have said that they find that debating on threads helps with gathering thoughts and understanding different aspects of why things have come to be the way that they are. In the time that I've been on this board, several debate-style threads have come and gone.

If you want to debate these men, maybe find another space to do it, not critise women for not wanting to do it here.

I'm not sure how the impression was created that I've criticised women for not wanting to do debate. I don't feel critical of anyone who doesn't want to do this. Perhaps this was an unintended consequence of me saying that IMO debate is better than no debate. I certainly don't expect any magic societal change to happen off the back of a TRA coming on to MN but I do think that the debates that have happened on here (mostly without any TRA in them at all, or with a plop and run post at most) have helped to unfold lots of different aspects of the impact of gender identity in society. The Be Kind movement is still in full swing in the public discourse and these threads are really helpful as a start point for many people. That's not just my opinion, I've seen it stated on these types of threads.

Anyway, lots of food for thought on abuse and abusers. I've had a read of some of it already and will read more later.

MavisMcMinty · 07/11/2023 19:15

As a palate cleanser, @BonfireLady , have a read of the thread BoiledBeetle linked to on the previous page. An alternative way of dealing with the me-me-me-ness of our TRA visitors and very much funnier than debating/appeasing them.

TinselAngel · 07/11/2023 19:17

Which thread did Alf finally flounce on? (Was it this one I might have missed the middle of it?)

MavisMcMinty · 07/11/2023 19:20

AlphaTransWoman · 05/11/2023 23:21

@BonfireLady
Yes, I got to the end of it. Thank you.

I think, however, that it is time for AlphaTransWoman to undertake the traditional "flounce" and end her visit to Mumsnet. Unless anyone particularly wants her to stick around for longer.

But I've got an awful lot out of the visit. Mostly the realisation that, despite my silly outburst about debating KJK, I'm really not ready to be an effective advocate for the transgender community because I'm still very messed up and confused about my own thinking. I hope someone better comes along to represent us and open up better lines of communication.

Having said that, I do think we've made some progress on things like single-sex spaces. I know this is still a sore point, but I think we've narrowed the gap a little on how to deal with that problem.

Meanwhile, I'll go away and ponder things. I think I need some therapy to try and disentangle some of the wires that have got crossed, or at least to be more aware of where the irrationalities are. Talking about these things here has been a useful starting point.

On the flip side, I do hope this has been of some benefit to you in understanding how at least some types of trans women think about the gender debate. I've tried not to be just another hostile TRA by being honest about my feelings, but maybe that wasn't always the constructive thing to do. Apologies if I've said things that have annoyed you, or even seemed offensive at times, but I do hope the overall benefit of raising understanding was worth it.

Thanks again,

Alpha😀

(PS - not sure why I picked such a daft name. I think I was trying to be ironic or something like that)

Here you go @TinselAngel .

Page 6 of this thread.

TinselAngel · 07/11/2023 19:21

Should there be a link Mavis?

TinselAngel · 07/11/2023 19:21

Oh you mean this thread we're on?

MavisMcMinty · 07/11/2023 19:22

Yes, edited to say that, sorry.

TinselAngel · 07/11/2023 19:22

Oh god now I see you've quoted the post! I've had a long day.

TinselAngel · 07/11/2023 19:24

I like the bit where he talks about himself in the third person thereby leaving things open for a name change.

MavisMcMinty · 07/11/2023 19:27

Just wanted to say I lurk on your thread, Tinsel, having found it a few months ago for the Vaishnavi Sundar links. Never felt able to post without having personal experience. Obviously Alf thought he had the experience to join in.

MavisMcMinty · 07/11/2023 19:29

I think the third person bollocks was simply to get a few more “shes” and “hers” in before they left. Harder to draw attention to one’s womanliness with I/me/mine.

TinselAngel · 07/11/2023 19:30

MavisMcMinty · 07/11/2023 19:27

Just wanted to say I lurk on your thread, Tinsel, having found it a few months ago for the Vaishnavi Sundar links. Never felt able to post without having personal experience. Obviously Alf thought he had the experience to join in.

They can't bear there being somewhere just for us that they can't influence.

Catsanfan · 07/11/2023 19:30

This one but i suspect he will be back. By the way, lettuce without a shit ton of mayo is wrong in every way

TinselAngel · 07/11/2023 19:31

Catsanfan · 07/11/2023 19:30

This one but i suspect he will be back. By the way, lettuce without a shit ton of mayo is wrong in every way

I often wonder if all the Malaga Airport FWR ploppers are one person who keeps name changing.

Floisme · 07/11/2023 19:34

There are also several posters - not just me - who have said that they find that debating on threads helps with gathering thoughts and understanding different aspects of why things have come to be the way that they are. In the time that I've been on this board, several debate-style threads have come and gone.

Bonfire agree that a real debate, where both sides engage with each other and with the arguments being presented, can be very helpful. But the thing is, I read a large number of Alpha's posts and not once can I remember seeing any attempt to do that.

Catsanfan · 07/11/2023 19:34

TinselAngel · 07/11/2023 19:31

I often wonder if all the Malaga Airport FWR ploppers are one person who keeps name changing.

Yeah, that's a fair point.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 07/11/2023 19:35

I think the third person bollocks was simply to get a few more “shes” and “hers” in before they left. Harder to draw attention to one’s womanliness with I/me/mine.

Yes, exactly this.

BonfireLady · 07/11/2023 19:43

MavisMcMinty · 07/11/2023 19:15

As a palate cleanser, @BonfireLady , have a read of the thread BoiledBeetle linked to on the previous page. An alternative way of dealing with the me-me-me-ness of our TRA visitors and very much funnier than debating/appeasing them.

A palette cleanser sounds perfect. I will indeed.

As much as I do tend towards "reasonable and balanced" when I'm posting on here (because I find it helps me to get my thoughts out and take in what others are saying), I have a weak spot for all things funny. I'm still mindful that some people really do have distress from gender dysphoria but there are some situations where a good dose of humour is exactly what's needed.

That was quite the emotional ride but I do understand that it comes from a good and supportive place, where women lift up other women. Thankfully this time around (when things get difficult) I didn't even cry once 😬👍

DialSquare · 07/11/2023 19:49

I missed that thread on Saturday. I definitely get the impression that Alpha enjoyed being told to fuck on here. Which is why I think he'll be back.

Boiledbeetle · 07/11/2023 19:54

DialSquare · 07/11/2023 19:49

I missed that thread on Saturday. I definitely get the impression that Alpha enjoyed being told to fuck on here. Which is why I think he'll be back.

With a less blokey name no doubt Betamax maybe?

DialSquare · 07/11/2023 19:57

Don't give him any ideas! And Ive just realised that I missed an "off" from my post!