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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Trans bathroom access - the equality act is 13 years old so why is there such a challenge on it now?

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Snufflebabe05 · 06/10/2023 23:11

Really trying to understand views I’m hearing online, at work, in media.

Anyone who is transitioning, has transitioned, proposing to transition is legally allowed to use the bathroom which is aligned to the gender they see themselves as. No evidence needed, no proof of medical info etc. This has been the case since the Equality Act launched in 2010. Any business who doesn’t allow this is breaking the law. Unless there is a proportionate and reasonable reason (gym changing rooms can be an example). The majority of locations wouldn’t fall into the exemption though.

Toilets are aligned with a relevant Health and Safety legislation, where bathrooms are provided for men and women, so by gender.

So why is the uproar now? Why is it now that we are hearing about “women-only spaces”? Is is the media? What has changed?

Genuine, honest question as keen to understand.

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Boomboom22 · 07/10/2023 09:27

I don't understand why you think man and woman are gendered terms in the first place? They have never been used to mean anything other than sex, hence the terms tw and tm existing.

MockneyReject · 07/10/2023 09:42

Snufflebabe05 · 07/10/2023 06:17

(Tried and failed to quote RedToothbrush) This is a really useful post. Thank you.

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Yes, this.

Ilefttownonsaturday · 07/10/2023 09:42

https://sex-matters.org/

Consult Sex matters as they're legally trained and can offer you guidance. Lots of information on the website.

Sex Matters

We are campaigning to establish that sex matters in rules, laws, policies, language and culture.

https://sex-matters.org

lady69 · 07/10/2023 09:47

The op seems to want a ball. 🦭

WickedSerious · 07/10/2023 09:48

speenmum · 07/10/2023 08:38

Because one person online says that they are concerned because they think trans women are still men and then everyone else blindly repeats the same arguments! There are far bigger issues than this which people could focus on

That's because they are still men,nothing they do will ever change that.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 07/10/2023 09:59

Sex and gender are not the same thing. Of course a trans man is biologically a woman but that doesn't stop his gender from being male

Confused Gender is nothing but a collection of stereotypes. It's not an innate thing that everyone has. It's just someone's own perception of the extent to which their own collection of personality traits and aesthetic preferences align with an outdated set of sex-based stereotypes which should have long ago died out. It certainly is not something on which laws should be based, or for which there should be compelled recognition.

LulooLemon · 07/10/2023 10:07

" Gender is ... an outdated set of sex-based stereotypes which should have long ago died out. It certainly is not something on which laws should be based "

Well put @AllProperTeaIsTheft

Snufflebabe05 · 07/10/2023 10:13

lady69 · 07/10/2023 09:47

The op seems to want a ball. 🦭

I don’t understand what this means?

Similarly, the earlier post from someone asking “which side am I on”. I’m trying to understand the legal position, and the discussion on why this is challenged. Perhaps this is to form an opinion, I’m not sure yet. But ultimately it’s about trying to understand such a topical issue which is gathering so much media attention, and is being raised in the workplace.

I’ve spent hours researching and thought this forum would help me understand.

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speenmum · 07/10/2023 10:15

Ereshkigalangcleg · 07/10/2023 09:18

Realistically, when you meet someone for the first time, your assumption of their gender comes from their appearance (how they choose to present) instead of their anatomy.

I don't subscribe to the existence of "gender" as anything but a social construct based on sex stereotypes. Only a person's sex is relevant.

Do you need to see someone's cock to know for sure if they are a man in that case? Or do a full analysis of their chromosomes

speenmum · 07/10/2023 10:15

Helleofabore · 07/10/2023 09:14

Realistically, when you meet someone for the first time, your assumption of their gender comes from their appearance (how they choose to present) instead of their anatomy

Please don’t project your own shortcomings onto others. No, I seriously don’t assume from appearances.

Besides, didn’t you tell us we all wait for an omnipresent being to tell us what to think and wouldn’t she just be telling us the truth based on her omnipresent powers?

You really cannot have it both ways.

Obviously I didn't actually think there was an omnipotent being. I was referring in general to how information spreads online

IrresponsiblyCertainAboutSexualDimorphism · 07/10/2023 10:18

Apologies OP. Like others, I thought you weren’t posting in good faith, hence being snippy with you. Google sealioning. Your response to RTB has made me reconsider.

Good luck in your workplace discussions - I hope you (or your colleagues) manage to secure penis-free female facilities.

popebishop · 07/10/2023 10:20

speenmum · 07/10/2023 10:15

Do you need to see someone's cock to know for sure if they are a man in that case? Or do a full analysis of their chromosomes

Why do you keep equating male bodies with being men? Do you not believe a man can be male or female? You seem to fundamentally think that male means man and female means woman yet you are trying to argue with us?

literalviolence · 07/10/2023 10:21

speenmum · 07/10/2023 10:15

Do you need to see someone's cock to know for sure if they are a man in that case? Or do a full analysis of their chromosomes

No. You can tell from their secondary sexual characteristics. There is much evidence to show the accuracy of that.

MichelleScarn · 07/10/2023 10:21

speenmum · 07/10/2023 10:15

Do you need to see someone's cock to know for sure if they are a man in that case? Or do a full analysis of their chromosomes

Not really, however if they were in front of me without any added accoutrements of hair extensions/wigs/make up/eyelashes and everyone in plain leggings and a tshirt it'd be quite easy to tell someone's sex, it's usually all that stuff there that's the gendering things.

Skyellaskerry · 07/10/2023 10:22

Some excellent and thoughtful posts on this thread.

A problem also seems to be where work policies wrongly refer to gender rather than sex being the protected characteristic. At one time the two words were generally used interchangeably, and they haven’t caught up, are stonewalled, or employees don’t feel able to point it out.

Helleofabore · 07/10/2023 10:24

speenmum · 07/10/2023 10:15

Obviously I didn't actually think there was an omnipotent being. I was referring in general to how information spreads online

So you were infantilising women or maybe just again projecting your own experience of repeating one person’s opinion as being your own or what?

Because you really seem to very determined to spread your prejudiced view about feminists on threads today. I can only assume that your opinion has been derived from the same process that you accuse feminists of.

IrresponsiblyCertainAboutSexualDimorphism · 07/10/2023 10:24

speenmum · 07/10/2023 10:15

Do you need to see someone's cock to know for sure if they are a man in that case? Or do a full analysis of their chromosomes

In the vast majority of cases it is trivially obvious from secondary sex characteristics whether an adult is male (i.e. having passed through male puberty) or female. Why are you pretending otherwise? Butch lesbians really don’t look male.

literalviolence · 07/10/2023 10:28

Boomboom22 · 07/10/2023 09:27

I don't understand why you think man and woman are gendered terms in the first place? They have never been used to mean anything other than sex, hence the terms tw and tm existing.

this is a vital point. there's no such things as trans if man just means someone who feels like a man. There would also never have been a reason to just put urinals in the men's.

MyEyesMyThighs · 07/10/2023 10:32

I think perhaps you need to go back a step from sex/gender and think about what discrimination means in the EA.

A man who develops a gender identity and intends to transition, so meeting requirements for protection, must not be treated lesser than a man without a gender identity/plan to transition.

It does not use women as the reference category when looking at discrimination. Stonewall just wants you to think it does by exploiting the places gender was used in place of sex.

A woman who develops a GI, still has women's rights, such as maternity leave and access to female spaces, they don't lose these with an intention to transition, neither does a man gain them. They relate to your sex.

ThreeLeggedPug · 07/10/2023 10:34

Snufflebabe05 · 07/10/2023 07:02

Ok. But not everyone agrees that this is the case? As in, many believe that gender and sex are seperate? Is that where the issue is?

I.E - Sex is Male and Female, Gender is Man and Woman?

It’s a minority that believe sex and gender are two different things. Most people don’t but into gender ideology.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 07/10/2023 10:38

Time for these again - no amount of surgery or hormones change your skeletal structure so yes, you can tell

Trans bathroom access - the equality act is 13 years old so why is there such a challenge on it now?
Trans bathroom access - the equality act is 13 years old so why is there such a challenge on it now?
RethinkingLife · 07/10/2023 10:45

titchy · 06/10/2023 23:51

Ah bless, OP has misunderstood the EA. Lots of new posters seem to it appears....

And, somehow, unable to use a search engine to look at it for themselves and formulate clarifying questions.

It's baffling.

RebelliousCow · 07/10/2023 10:52

speenmum · 07/10/2023 08:38

Because one person online says that they are concerned because they think trans women are still men and then everyone else blindly repeats the same arguments! There are far bigger issues than this which people could focus on

Transwomen are men. You have to be male to be a transwoman, by definition.

I don't think there are that many issues which are quite as fundamental ( or of more importance) than the issue of women's rights, child safeguarding and being ale to correctly name reality without suppression.

ThreeLeggedPug · 07/10/2023 10:57

MargotBamborough · 07/10/2023 08:42

Funny how nobody ever tells trans people to just use the correct toilets like everyone else because there are bigger things to worry about than whether a public toilet matches their identity or not.

a lot of women are too frightened to ask a self ID trans women to leave a loo.

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