Thank you for attempting to answer these questions. Your answers show the ridiculousness of the opposition to the concept of ROGD.
Answer: You get very good at hiding things if the consequences of being found are horrific abuse.
So children as young as 3 or 4 are successfully hiding their distress about their gender? Children who scream if their sandwiches are cut into triangles instead of squares are fearful of disclosing their distress about a cross sex identify because of potential abuse? And parents don’t notice it because they’re abusive? Do you realise how nonsensical this sounds?
Answer: Like I said, you get very good at hiding things when the consequences of not hiding are so terrible. There's nothing to be ashamed of if you didn't realise something was going on with your child. That said, Lisa Littman specifically recruited parents who were trying to do conversion therapy on their children. I think it's pretty obvious why parents who don't want their child to be trans would be in denial about their child being trans.
Can you please point to your source that Lisa Littman ”recruited parents who were trying to do conversion therapy”? So all parents are stupid as well as abusive? They’re too stupid to notice their child is distressed about a cross sex identity but clever enough to know that if they spot it, woe betide that child if the are!
Answer: Abuse doesn't stop just because you become an adult.
So children who are living with abusive stupid parents in abusive households have no issue “coming out” as trans, but adults who are decades older and living independently are too fearful of doing so? Really?
Answer: Everybody has access to a certain amount of the gender spectrum. Trying to live in a body that falls outside the appropriate part of the gender spectrum causes dysphoria. Genderfluid people are simply lucky enough to have access to more of the gender specrtrum than others. As for detransitioners, they are simply victims of conversion therapy and other transphobic abuse...
I would echo the question above, how does one access the gender spectrum? How can a body fall outside of 106 of the 107 genders? How does a body fall inside the gender spectrum? I am still not clear how something can be both fixed and fluid.
I agree that detransitioners are victims of conversion therapy, but probably not in the way you think. You seem to be suggesting that detransitioners don’t know their own minds, and have changed their gender identity as a result of external factors? Do you believe it’s possible, therefore, for vulnerable people to have their gender identity influenced by external factors in both directions?
Answer: Most of the gendered features of the human body develop during puberty. If you have trouble understanding why a trans girl would be significantly more distressed when she starts growing a beard, or why a trans boy would be significantly more distressed when he starts growing breasts I really don't know what to say to you.
You're saying they had some distress (very well hidden obvs) but then they got more distressed. There are many people who are sure they had no distress prior to starting puberty. Are they lying or delusional? If a trans person is adamant they had no distress before puberty and it developed at the onset of secondary sexual characteristics, does that mean they aren’t really trans?
Answer: I'm sure this will surprise you, but trasgender people don't typically come to mumsnet to announce their transition to the assembled transphobes. The reduction in transphobia in the last ten years has, in fact, seen very large numbers of people of all ages and genders come out and start transitioning. You just haven't noticed because you live in a transphobic echo chamber...
So older adults are simultaneously living under a constant cloud of abuse and not coming out till later as a result but equally feeling more comfortable coming out now because of a reduction in society’s transphobia. Ok.
You say echo chamber, but you forget that everyone who posts here walks around in normal live interacting with people in all parts of our society: work, schools, social settings and so on. Yet I don’t know a single female over 30 who has decided to transition, but I know multiple teenage girls who are doing so. If 30+ year old adult females are transitioning at the same rate - very large numbers you say - as teenage girls I should come across them at the same rate it society. But I don’t. Why is that? It can’t be because of society’s transphobia because you say that’s better and that’s why they’re coming out more. Can you explain this? And it can’t be lack of visibility or because of lack of attention on my part because I know a few adult males who have decided to transition lately. But no females. Don’t you think it’s strange?