It's not crass; it's highly pertinent.
Yes, there is a lot of gaslighting and abusive rhetoric in genderist arguments and strategy. Sometimes overtly - 'punch a terf' - and sometimes more subtly.
How else could one describe criticising women for 'weaponising their trauma'? Or for suggesting rape victims needed 're education'?
The abuse is baked in; dismissing women's voices and agency is a feature, not a bug. The whole movement is an aggressive grab of women's rights, it can't be anything other than abusive.