Nursery have asked if my 4 month old is non binary.

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Filling in paperwork for my son to start in the baby room in a few month’s time and the question is as follows:

Child Gender: Male / Female / Non binary

This is a form for children aged 3 months to 4 years.

I’ve asked my baby whether he feels comfortable in the sex he was born as but he declined to answer and then vomited on me…

Seriously though, should I challenge this? It seems absurd.

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The world’s gone mad, utterly ridiculous.

I know how your baby feels. I always want to vomit when I'm asked if I'm male, female or non-binary.

Please circle non binary and ask them how they intend to handle it. Do they have separate toilets? How will they explain away his willy to the other children when potty training or changing?

The world has quite clearly gone mad. I’m really not sure I’d want to use them quite honestly. No such nonsense is asked out ours (although there is space to add any additional info - say if your child has 2 heads or such like).

You could reply: "I don't know, they can't verbalise anything yet."

Its fucking ridiculous

Beyond ridiculous 😡

I'd pick a different nursery...

I would modify their stupid form and ask them what on Earth they think they are playing at.
Depending on their response, I probably wouldn't use them.
Possibly out them to the DM

Absurd. I'd choose a different nursery (if possible) and get in and set up, then tell them why they lost your business.

I recall seeing some analysis in the schools discussion which pointed to the fact that schools have to register things about children. One of those things (to put them on the school roll) is their sex.

I assume that can't be different for nurseries?

Oooooh this is a delicious idea! Should I?

Share a copy with the relevant regulator (Ofsted?) and send a copy to your MP and to Rishi Sunak and the Minister for Education just so they can't deny it is happening.

Absolutely you should!

I'd be making a firm statement that I expected my child to not be learning about or restricted by gender stereotypes!!

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Tell em he's cakegender and ask how they propose to affirm and support his identity.

Sorry, cake's identity.

Don't do that. It could imply that you are one of those parents who isn't "assigning" a gender until the child is able to "decide" themselves.

If it were me I'd just cross the whole question out and write "Sex: Male" underneath.

Or as PPs have said consider whether it's where I wanted to send my child to nursery. I would be concerned about what they intend to teach them.

My only reservation is it’s my oldest’s nursery, they’ve been truly wonderful over the last few years and I don’t want to publicly humiliate the entire nursery when I’m pretty sure the form has come about because of one useful idiot at management level.

It’s completely ridiculous though and I can’t let this one go - perhaps if it related to the parents, but BABIES?? Yes it’s a drop in the ocean but an ocean is made of drops isn’t it?

I’d send that to the Mail or the Telegraph and if you are planning on keeping your child there for a few years, I’d have a look at the books in the toddler room to make sure they aren’t pushing gender ideology- I Am Jazz etc

OFSTED would grade them as outstanding.

I know someone who transitioned their child at the age of 4, maybe they've got idiot parents like her

It wasn’t on the form for our eldest, DH is convinced it’s due to a woke parent complaining.

I bet a parent complained so they had to change the form.

I know of someone who didn't tell people, even family, the sex of their child, because it is shown that people do treat boy and girl babies differently and they didn't want that.

I wouldn't get that upset about the form. It's probably the same form for older children.

How did they manage that? Did they never change baby’s nappy in front of anyone, or have anyone to babysit?

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It will be very obvious which sex my child is when their nappy is changed

@ResisterRex Yes they need to know what sex a child is. And, except in rare cases, in the human race there are 2 sexes. Male and Female.