Nursery have asked if my 4 month old is non binary.

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Filling in paperwork for my son to start in the baby room in a few month’s time and the question is as follows:

Child Gender: Male / Female / Non binary

This is a form for children aged 3 months to 4 years.

I’ve asked my baby whether he feels comfortable in the sex he was born as but he declined to answer and then vomited on me…

Seriously though, should I challenge this? It seems absurd.

My DS’s nursery asked whether he was male, female, or ‘other’ and also his for preferred pronouns!

I was so tempted to not send him there but it’s my only option. Fucking mental.

@loislovesstewie save me a seat & I'll bring the snacks!!

This. You get asked this once they are at school from the county council and I was always crossing out gender.

For the non-believers…

The world has gone mad.

I suppose if they didn’t answer then.. non-binary? Presumably you can update it if necessary. I think the vomiting was probably unrelated.

Since the form includes Due Date for not yet born children, there should also be an option for gender 'not yet known'. This could then be used for any child, born or yet to be born.

Had this on the form registering my baby at the GP, did make me laugh considering she was only a week old!

I hate this so much! I took my 10 year old to a holiday club recently, that had the same boxes. I ticked the correct sex box, then put a big X across the entire gender section. When I handed it back I said "I'm not filling that part in because it's pathetic and she's a child" The only way this madness will end is if the 99% of us who aren't crackers, speak out against it. I bet nearly every other parent at that nursery feels the same way as you.

I laughed but this is true!

What can we expect when the form is labeled ‘your child details’ instead of ‘child’s’? 🙄

If I received a letter like that, my child would almost certainly be sent to that school.

Circle non binary and write WTAF!! Next
To it

WTAF??

Great letter Fordian.

Maybe the Op could show this to the nursery manager to explain why “gender” is a retrograde idea for a registration form.

ARGH! The “assigned at birth” phrase annoys me no end! The medical professionals did not have a big think and ”decide”. They simply acknowledged biological reality!

I don’t think I could let that pas without comment!

I usually put other and say my child has no gender identity, sex is female and no pronoun badges etc to be worn. This is for young teens going on music camps etc. And insist the accomodation is single sex.

I would insist they remove that option otherwise I would be taking my child elsewhere.

Safeguarding issue to ask about a child’s sexuality or identity, surely?

Have they not read Piaget? How can the child have these feelings at that developmental stage?

assume they are idiots who know nothing about children and find a nursery who lets them be a dog or a Digger or a superhero

Just circle "male" and carry on living your life?

This.

I'm sick of posts of people getting their knickers in a twist over forms.

Presumably it's the one form for the whole nursery, including older children, who may have parents that support them in being non binary.

Do you get upset about every option on a form that doesn't apply to you? Or just answer it and carry on with your day?

Presumably it's the one form for the whole nursery, including older children, who may have parents that support them in being non binary.

The children are all male or female though, which is the only important consideration. And the OP said it was a form for children up to 4 years old.

What do you think is different about a child who claims to be non binary? And how does a parent "support them in being non binary"? They all have a sex. What's the point of pretending that they don't?

This is what I'd do

My guess is they'd do nothing, it's there on the form for the sake of wokeness

This is dangerous nonsense that teaches children they don’t have a sex, can altered their bodies if they’re not happy with them with lifelong consequences. There is no such thing as a benign, matters-not form in any instance in our current society. Social transition is an invasive act, that leads to a cascade of intervention. It should be challenged at every single step, in every single instance, in every single setting, no exception.

People like you allowing this insidious creep of ideology are partly to blame for why so many children are seeking to transition. “Doesn’t affect my life, so why should I care?” Everyone should care.

I had this at my child’s nursery and challenged it via an anonymous feedback survey, an option if you don’t feel comfortable. Haven’t seen any evidence it’s been taken on board though.