You articulated this far more succinctly than I ever could - thank you
Doctor’s are just the gatekeepers to treatment. Most people that I have encountered who are going through adult diagnoses have researched, discussed and explored so widely that the assessment basically becomes the rubber stamp. After all our years (over 50 years in my case) suddenly things start to make sense and there is a little hope at least that I can make my remaining time on earth better.
I’ve struggled all my life - ADHD never entered my thoughts or diagnosis. I avoided treatment and discussing my issues for over 25 years because of a horrible experience with NHS and MH in my twenties. My adopted child had ADHD and as I learnt about it (very very thoroughly) to help me understand his needs that cogs began to turn.
it was only someone else that I was discussing child’s ADHD with suggesting that maybe I should look at it that for myself.
My referral has been accepted (in a county where 90% are rejected at this stage due to a crippling lack of resources) I am now in a, at least 3 year, waiting list. I’ve looked at Private but there is a lack of acceptance of care by NHS beyond that in this area.
i do want a ‘label’ as I want to understand what the f* is wrong with me and hopefully a framework that will help me to stop hating myself for not understanding why I could never cope with school, college, jobs, relationships, basic everyday stuff
The private route is not without it’s flaws, but the NHS is failing many of us with adult MH and neurodivergent issues and for some it’s their only choice - good luck to them.
the programme was myopic and didn’t give enough credence to the positives of an nhs alternative. I also felt the programme just reenforced people’s prejudices and ignorance about ADHD.
People with ADHD and parents of children really do have enough in their plates without this. Within half an hour of the BBC story going on I was forwarded it by my mother as validation of her views - ADHD (she would get in sooo well with some of the vipers in this nest….)