"I want to present myself in the way that feels most authentic — how I envision myself — but as much as I try, society is still going to look at me a certain way. That feels super invalidating,"
I envision myself as a 6 foot, willowy brunette, without freckles, 20 years younger, and can I be musical while we're at it. If society sees me as a dumpy 5 foot 5 woman who is pushing 50, then that's "super invalidating".
Jeezo.