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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

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Can MNHQ set up a new discussion category called Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)

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PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 14:59

MN, will you please create a talk group/category of Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)?

MN appears to currently have only 2 feminism categories:
Feminism: chat
Feminism: sex & gender discussions

But the Feminism: sex & gender category on MN is predominantly GC, with its emphasis on trans exclusion ideology. Feminists who do not subscribe to those beliefs are often unwelcome and treated with derision and hostility in discussions. Certainly not always as some GC posters do enjoy open, intellectual discussions but often enough that engagement can be toxic & intimidating all around.

It is almost impossible for non-GC feminists to find inclusive/non-GC feminist discussions, and we have to wade through unpleasant (for us) GC threads while attempting to do so.

GC feminism dominates on UK parenting sites in particular. However, inclusive/non-GC feminism is extremely popular around the world (especially in places like the US, NZ, and AU) and in the UK among younger feminists and those who do not see trans rights as a threat to women & girls’ safety. Many UK feminists are non-GC but may feel silenced on MN.

The addition of another category will help open up and improve MN discussions while reducing the toxicity and hostility that many feminists on both sides experience in discussions.

So I propose the following feminism discussion categories:
Feminism: chat (general)
Feminism: sex & gender discussions (GC)
Feminism: sex & gender discussion (inclusive, non-GC)

@MNHQ

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Queenofscones · 04/04/2023 18:09

I occasionally go over the Feminism Chat to see what I might me missing and end up reporting several of the threads because they are very clearly about Sex and Gender and should be in here!

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:09

OP I do not agree with your views, but I agree the feminist board is highly toxic to anyone who does not agree with the dominant viewpoint. The only woman accepted are those who are gender critical, very supportive of Posie Parker and who think the trans issue is the most important issue facing women.

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:09

And seriously, thank you OP for raising this. Sorry for deluge of comments you're getting. Sex and gender in the context of feminism has sooooo many more facets than the GC angle that need discussion.

Happylittlechicken · 04/04/2023 18:10

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:06

And completely agree with poster above that there needs to be much more robust discussion about the CG overlaps with far right groups - like PA in UK and Proud Boys in US - and anti-feminist/anti-abortion groups, especially amongst the hordes of GC men on twitter. There's definitely a threat to women's bodily autonomy looming and it isn't from trans people!

Oooh go on. Can we have a thread about that? You start. It’ll be good

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 18:10

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:09

And seriously, thank you OP for raising this. Sorry for deluge of comments you're getting. Sex and gender in the context of feminism has sooooo many more facets than the GC angle that need discussion.

if I did an interpretive dance to represent 'be the change you want to see' would that help?

EmotionalSupportHyena · 04/04/2023 18:10

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:06

And completely agree with poster above that there needs to be much more robust discussion about the CG overlaps with far right groups - like PA in UK and Proud Boys in US - and anti-feminist/anti-abortion groups, especially amongst the hordes of GC men on twitter. There's definitely a threat to women's bodily autonomy looming and it isn't from trans people!

Would a robust discussion about this topic be possible on a board where No GC opinion is permitted?

I’d imagine you could have a pretty feeble discussion, but not a ‘robust’ one?

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:11

TheShellBeach · 04/04/2023 18:00

OP, I promise not to derail any threads you care to start on Feminism Chat.
Happy now?

😂

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AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:11

@Happylittlechicken Why that snidy comment?

EmotionalSupportHyena · 04/04/2023 18:12

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 18:10

if I did an interpretive dance to represent 'be the change you want to see' would that help?

Dance Dancing GIF by What We Do in the Shadows

Would it look like this?

RoseslnTheHospital · 04/04/2023 18:12

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:06

And completely agree with poster above that there needs to be much more robust discussion about the CG overlaps with far right groups - like PA in UK and Proud Boys in US - and anti-feminist/anti-abortion groups, especially amongst the hordes of GC men on twitter. There's definitely a threat to women's bodily autonomy looming and it isn't from trans people!

What "GC" men are you talking about? I see plenty of men who are socially conservative and/or religious who recognise the existence of biological sex but who are also in support of gender. As in they hold that there are gendered roles for women and men, and that only women and men should have those gendered roles.

Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 18:12

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:06

And completely agree with poster above that there needs to be much more robust discussion about the CG overlaps with far right groups - like PA in UK and Proud Boys in US - and anti-feminist/anti-abortion groups, especially amongst the hordes of GC men on twitter. There's definitely a threat to women's bodily autonomy looming and it isn't from trans people!

OK. Start that thread. However, can the OP who starts it not use misinformation and misrepresentations to make their point please. Can it be factual, and can the OP check those facts from original sources rather than simply flinging around labels that they are repeating from else where?

That might end up a good discussion.

Hepwo · 04/04/2023 18:12

lechiffre55 · 04/04/2023 15:35

There always the place where they farm kiwis. I'm sure you'll have a great time there.

The burn ❤️‍🔥

TheShellBeach · 04/04/2023 18:13

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:09

OP I do not agree with your views, but I agree the feminist board is highly toxic to anyone who does not agree with the dominant viewpoint. The only woman accepted are those who are gender critical, very supportive of Posie Parker and who think the trans issue is the most important issue facing women.

Currently, the trans issue IS the most important issue facing women.

Happylittlechicken · 04/04/2023 18:13

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:11

@Happylittlechicken Why that snidy comment?

It wasn’t snide. I was saying, if that’s what you want to discuss, start a thread. I’m sure you’ll get a good debate on it. Why did you think I was being snarky?

PinkyU · 04/04/2023 18:13

The irony of a woman saying “I’m looking for a safe space to speak” and being ripped to shreds 🙄

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 18:13

EmotionalSupportHyena · 04/04/2023 18:12

Would it look like this?

DS1 actually did interpretive dance in school this term. I was delgihted. this far he has declined to perform his dance for me. apparently it was about racism

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:14

@TheShellBeach Plenty of women disagree.

EmotionalSupportHyena · 04/04/2023 18:14

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:11

@Happylittlechicken Why that snidy comment?

Because we already average around 2 threads a day on this topic on the S&G board (and if you were to post one elsewhere, it would likely be shunted over here by mods within the first hour).

RoseslnTheHospital · 04/04/2023 18:14

onegirlandherdog · 04/04/2023 18:09

And seriously, thank you OP for raising this. Sorry for deluge of comments you're getting. Sex and gender in the context of feminism has sooooo many more facets than the GC angle that need discussion.

Why are you sorry for the OPs thread getting lots of replies? Isn't that half the point of starting a discussion thread?

Signalbox · 04/04/2023 18:15

Waitwhat23 · 04/04/2023 18:07

This whole thread is just giving me flashbacks to the threads about the main board splitting.

There were so, so many posters who came on to say that all they desired was a space to talk about feminism without GC views. They were given that space - the Feminism:Chat board. They made it clear that those with GC views were not welcome to post on that particular thread, in very clear terms. I saw several posters with known GC views being told to 'piss off back to your own board'.

And all those threads and subjects they were so desperate to talk about? Never materialised. The many posters desperate for such a space apparently never felt the need to actually use the space.

I can completely understand the OP, as a new poster, not knowing the history of the split or thinking that the name of the board (I.e. chat) might not fit the needs of what she is looking for, might not know this, hence setting up this thread.

What I don't understand is the subsequent posts from other posters who have (presumably) read the thread, decrying the lack of such a space.

There is one.

Yes me too wit the flashbacks. Didn’t some people suggest at the time that FWR stayed as it was and a second board was set up for the lib fems to allow inclusion of penis havers. Perhaps just change the S&G board back to FWR and rename chat for the lib fems.

Happylittlechicken · 04/04/2023 18:15

PinkyU · 04/04/2023 18:13

The irony of a woman saying “I’m looking for a safe space to speak” and being ripped to shreds 🙄

err.how is this place not safe? What do you think is going to happen? Or do you mean, the irony of someone wanting an inclusive board but wanting some people excluded? Or someone wanting a board that only discusses what they want to discuss and only people with the right opinions will be able to post?

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 04/04/2023 18:16

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:14

@TheShellBeach Plenty of women disagree.

it's kind of implicit that unless someone says 'this is a fact and here's the proof' the stuff they type here is their opinion.

you have an opinion, so does the other poster. I really don't see the problem here

PlanetLuna · 04/04/2023 18:18

AskMeMore · 04/04/2023 18:09

OP I do not agree with your views, but I agree the feminist board is highly toxic to anyone who does not agree with the dominant viewpoint. The only woman accepted are those who are gender critical, very supportive of Posie Parker and who think the trans issue is the most important issue facing women.

Thanks for that, @AskMeMore.

I’m confident there are many who don’t agree with me who would engage constructively and in good faith on a board that is tolerant and supportive of non-GC points of view.

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Helleofabore · 04/04/2023 18:19

I find the suggestion that MN is not a safe space to be rather concerning. Here people have the opportunity to voice their opinions, and to have discussion within the talk guidelines. They are not doxxed. There is no threats of any kind allowed. And if you don't like the discussion, you can hide the thread.

I really wonder at people who want a 'safe space' on a commercial website forum to discuss things or who want the people who post on that website to be welcoming and agreeable.

How do people who expect this deal with real life issues?

RoseslnTheHospital · 04/04/2023 18:19

When you say "feminism board" which one do you mean? Chat or S&G?