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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Starmer: Almost no-one is talking about trans issues

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SidewaysOtter · 03/04/2023 12:13

To quote from the rolling news section of this morning's Times:

"Almost no Britons are “talking about trans issues,” Sir Keir Starmer has said as he questioned why such issues are a focus of political debate.

The Labour leader sought to win over gender critical campaigners and MPs at the weekend, telling The Sunday Times there would be “no rolling back” of women’s rights if the party formed a government.

Speaking to LBC this morning he repeated his position that “for the vast majority — let’s say 99.9 per cent — biology matters” in defining a woman. He said that Labour was trying to agree a “common sense, respectable and tolerant position”, but that it was “not prepared to ignore” the small number of people who identify as a different gender to the one they were born in.

He insisted it was a marginal issue for many voters, however. “As we go around the country campaigning, I talk to thousands and thousands and thousands of people. They want to talk to me about the cost of living crisis, about the fact they can’t pay their bills, they want to know what they’re going to do about their council tax,” he said.

“Almost nobody is talking about trans issues. I do sometimes just wonder why on earth we spend so much of our time discussing something which isn’t a feature of the dinner table or the kitchen table or the café table or the bar.”

Funny, because I think there's quite a lot of people talking about "trans issues". Whether it's the treatment of Posie Parker and the 72-year-old woman who were violently assaulted last weekend, male-bodied people in women's sports/changing rooms/hospital wards/prisons, the medicalisation/mutilation of young adults, or the vilification of those who speak The Terrible Heresy that you cannot change your biological sex. And yes, we're talking about it at the dinner table, the café bar or wherever.

"No rolling back of women's rights" doesn't mean shit if you count men as women, Mr Starmer. And you can wang on about "respect and tolerance" all you like but we know what you really mean by that is wanting us to be quiet and stop being awkward. That isn't going to happen.

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MrsOvertonsWindow · 10/02/2024 19:58

Those trying to defend the indefensible are all over the shop as there are no ethical coherent arguments for why women's rights to privacy, safety from males should be breached. No acceptable arguments why children should be subject to trans ideology in schools. No coherent explanation as to why labour are incapable of stopping transactivists bullying women out of the party. Hence Starmer's "nobody's talking about this" claim rather than finding the courage to address the mess labour are in.

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 19:59

It really would help the conversation if you could list 'women's' spaces which you feel should be mixed sex by allowing TW in and explain why you think TW but not other males should be let in.

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:00

And please don't hide behind 'I've explained it on other threads' because you really haven't.

RedToothBrush · 10/02/2024 20:21

Or a lesbian booking a venue for women only lesbian speed dating?

In those cases there’s (arguably) no threat to women’s safety/dignity but they’d like to not have any men, the biological kind or the kind holding a GRC.

So you really think that a male attending a lesbian dating session isn't a problem and doesn't pose a threat? Really?

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:23

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 19:59

It really would help the conversation if you could list 'women's' spaces which you feel should be mixed sex by allowing TW in and explain why you think TW but not other males should be let in.

no? so we just have a GC Terf lecturing others on the idea that book clubs should include males even if they purport to be for women and because you belive that, you're morally superior to others?

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:23

OK. I'm getting my flameproof coat on

Personally I dgaf about TW using womens toilets at work. Everyone knows who they are, they are unlikely to be pervs and if they do anything out of order they are putting themselves in a position to be sacked.

Less comfortable about public toilets due to the anonymous nature, but i also think they are risky anyway as impossible to police. So im ok with TW in the ladies, nit happy but alright.

Shop fitting rooms, don't care if TW use womens ones. I wouldnt want a TW to do a bra fitting for me, id want to reserve the right to say "no thanks"

Dont care about TW joining feminist networks at work. They can knock themselves out.

Happy to use preferred pronouns except for sex offenders.

MarshaBradyo · 10/02/2024 20:24

The amount of posts..

And I still have no idea which spaces they think males should be in

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:24

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:23

no? so we just have a GC Terf lecturing others on the idea that book clubs should include males even if they purport to be for women and because you belive that, you're morally superior to others?

Rude. I don't believe I'm "morally superior" to others. You are projecting.

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:27

TheirEminence · 10/02/2024 19:57

AdamRyan

*100% trans exclusionary - someone who feels no people in opposite sex spaces under any circumstances.
E.g.
No women in men's golf clubs.
No men in womens book groups.
No women in men's networking events

Everything operating as for the benefit of one sex is completely and totally barred to the opposite sex.

In which case trans men are women and trans women are men, just differently presenting.*

This is very clear, thank you, and it would be my position, yes. What are you going to do about it?

Nothing! I just don't know how that squares with "supporting trans women". For some reason noone seems to want to answer it.

At least I'm putting my opinion out there.

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:29

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:23

OK. I'm getting my flameproof coat on

Personally I dgaf about TW using womens toilets at work. Everyone knows who they are, they are unlikely to be pervs and if they do anything out of order they are putting themselves in a position to be sacked.

Less comfortable about public toilets due to the anonymous nature, but i also think they are risky anyway as impossible to police. So im ok with TW in the ladies, nit happy but alright.

Shop fitting rooms, don't care if TW use womens ones. I wouldnt want a TW to do a bra fitting for me, id want to reserve the right to say "no thanks"

Dont care about TW joining feminist networks at work. They can knock themselves out.

Happy to use preferred pronouns except for sex offenders.

OK. this is a start. so men are unlikely to be pervs. most men aren't. TW seem to be perva at about the same rate as other males. So yes, most aren't. But some are. So why not have open changing rooms because most men aren't pervs?

some women now can't use the ladies because it's now socially acceptable for some to have TW in there, e.g. EI writes about intimating teens in the ladies and does not get roundly condemned. So you might be OK with TW in the ladies but are you OK with some women being increasingly excluded from society because there might be a male in them?

What the rationale for single sex changing rooms if you then let some of the opposite sex in?

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:31

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:24

Rude. I don't believe I'm "morally superior" to others. You are projecting.

Your posta, e.g. having a go at others for being '100% trans exclusionary' very much come across as moral superiority.

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:31

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:27

Nothing! I just don't know how that squares with "supporting trans women". For some reason noone seems to want to answer it.

At least I'm putting my opinion out there.

I'll answer it. What's the actual question?

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:35

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:29

OK. this is a start. so men are unlikely to be pervs. most men aren't. TW seem to be perva at about the same rate as other males. So yes, most aren't. But some are. So why not have open changing rooms because most men aren't pervs?

some women now can't use the ladies because it's now socially acceptable for some to have TW in there, e.g. EI writes about intimating teens in the ladies and does not get roundly condemned. So you might be OK with TW in the ladies but are you OK with some women being increasingly excluded from society because there might be a male in them?

What the rationale for single sex changing rooms if you then let some of the opposite sex in?

The "rationale" as you put it is that some people have severe dysphoria and want to transition. Not many. Only about 5000 people have a GRC. But I am happy for those people to have some access to sex based spaces.
I'm totally against self ID and would not be happy with TW in other single sex spaces.

Maybe now you can answer my question about what "supporting transgender people" means if you believe they can only be treated as their birth sex?

MarshaBradyo · 10/02/2024 20:36

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:35

The "rationale" as you put it is that some people have severe dysphoria and want to transition. Not many. Only about 5000 people have a GRC. But I am happy for those people to have some access to sex based spaces.
I'm totally against self ID and would not be happy with TW in other single sex spaces.

Maybe now you can answer my question about what "supporting transgender people" means if you believe they can only be treated as their birth sex?

How can you tell who has a GRC?

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:38

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:35

The "rationale" as you put it is that some people have severe dysphoria and want to transition. Not many. Only about 5000 people have a GRC. But I am happy for those people to have some access to sex based spaces.
I'm totally against self ID and would not be happy with TW in other single sex spaces.

Maybe now you can answer my question about what "supporting transgender people" means if you believe they can only be treated as their birth sex?

That's a poor rationale because it completely fails to address the reasons why single sex spaces were set up in the first place and the impact this has on women. It's male centric, anti equality and unjustifiable. I already answered that question and will find the post to repost because you seem to be struggling to follow the thread.

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:38

Oh for goodness sake.
Why ask questions if the answer is never good enough?
All these options need changes to be made, I've already said I would make the GRC declaration.
You can't keep all males out of women's spaces at the moment either!

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:40

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 16:47

what do you mean 'no'? no you won't answer my questions? no you don't think males should be in women's sports? no you can't think of any female space which you think should let males in?

In terms of support, if I saw a TW being harassed and they looked in need of help, I'd want to intervene (if it were safe for me), or call the police. Same as if I saw others being harassed on account of their characteristics. Can you give us specific examples of how you support women. I mean actual women not TW.

Here you go @AdamRyan reposted because you seem to have missed this.

MarshaBradyo · 10/02/2024 20:42

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:38

Oh for goodness sake.
Why ask questions if the answer is never good enough?
All these options need changes to be made, I've already said I would make the GRC declaration.
You can't keep all males out of women's spaces at the moment either!

I've already said I would make the GRC declaration.

No idea what you mean. What’s this?

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:43

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:38

Oh for goodness sake.
Why ask questions if the answer is never good enough?
All these options need changes to be made, I've already said I would make the GRC declaration.
You can't keep all males out of women's spaces at the moment either!

Thats what conversation is @AdamRyan why are you so threatened by it. I'm asking you to explain your rationale. Why the refusal to do so. I'm genuinely listening and always up for changing my mind but not ont he basis of the banal 'be kind' (to males and fuck women) why you've outlined here. If there is a coherent rationale, I'd like to hear it.

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:44

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:40

Here you go @AdamRyan reposted because you seem to have missed this.

No I saw that, but I wouldn't count that as "supporting trans people" because it basically just is being a decent human and not an arsehole. It's the very lowest level of support someone could expect.

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:44

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:38

Oh for goodness sake.
Why ask questions if the answer is never good enough?
All these options need changes to be made, I've already said I would make the GRC declaration.
You can't keep all males out of women's spaces at the moment either!

You also can't prevent all rapes but that doesn't mean we roll over and say let's make it legal then.

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:45

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:44

No I saw that, but I wouldn't count that as "supporting trans people" because it basically just is being a decent human and not an arsehole. It's the very lowest level of support someone could expect.

Your version of supporting TW hurts women so you don't even meet that threshold.

MarshaBradyo · 10/02/2024 20:46

MarshaBradyo · 10/02/2024 19:40

So you do want to exclude

You’re all over the shop

Unless it means excluding biological men with a GRC ie trans women (= legal woman) from biological women only spaces. Then, yes, I would exclude them from those spaces to uphold the safety, dignity and privacy of the biological sex class woman.

This seems to contradict this

I've already said I would make the GRC declaration.

Can someone make sense of it?

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 10/02/2024 20:46

Froodwithatowel · 10/02/2024 16:29

Support them to do what?

What does 'support' mean?

Am I in favour of people who identify as TQ having the same legal rights and entitlements as everyone else? Absolutely. Am I in favour of people who identify as TQ not experiencing prejudice or discrimination in ways that breach the law, in the same way I'm in favour of no group of people experiencing prejudice and discrimination in ways that breach the law - and I'm adding that rider because 'prejudice' and 'discrimination' are used as words very freely to mean all sorts of things beyond their original purpose.

Have I spent years organising and running an LGBT group which has met all kinds of needs including an immediate listening ear, advice, sign posting to resources, somewhere for the lonely to go at difficult times like Christmas, yes I bloody have. A number of whom identify as TQ.

Do I think that means women's rights and child safeguarding should be sacrificed? No, I don't.

Do I think that the only moral answer I will settle for is answers that work for everyone? Yes I do.

And that would be because I support everyone as opposed to having picked a team. And for that lack of bias and not subordinating other interests to the TQ political ones, I would be burned as a witch and called names.

I don't support that.

Edited

Quoting this because AdamRyan keeps saying no-one has explained how they would support Trans people.

AdamRyan · 10/02/2024 20:46

literalviolence · 10/02/2024 20:43

Thats what conversation is @AdamRyan why are you so threatened by it. I'm asking you to explain your rationale. Why the refusal to do so. I'm genuinely listening and always up for changing my mind but not ont he basis of the banal 'be kind' (to males and fuck women) why you've outlined here. If there is a coherent rationale, I'd like to hear it.

I'm not trying to change you mind, I'm expressing my opinion in response to repeated requests from you and others that I do so.
As usual, all that happens then is personal attacks and further questioning. Boring.
I am allowed to have my own opinions on this.