Autistic teen told to call male TA “Mx” & not “Sir” or “Mr *name*

[BethDuttonsTwin]

This happened to dd this morning at school. She then came out of school at told me she no longer wants one to one help in her lessons - her EHCP says 25 hours a week. It’s too difficult to remember what to call him and she’s embarrassed she will get it wrong in front of the other students.

What now? I want to make a formal complaint. Am raging tbh. Can someone tell me who I need to be contacting please? The school are totally woke and rainbow soaked. Thank you.

Everything she said!

YES. I am WITH you

Absolutely agree, some of the comments are not good for the blood pressure of a heavily pregnant woman. "She'll just need to learn" 🤯🤯🤬🤬

''adult man prioritises his very special identity, over the SEN child he is paid to help''.

'' well its a good opportunity to educate her''

GET TO FUCK.

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lets face it OP, Mx is a title your DD is going to come up against many times in her life, why not just help her accept it? Or is she going to run away from anyone with that title forever? what happens if its a banker, a lecturer, a pharmacist, a carer, a job interview? anyone could be Mx. I have met many, and I am sure I will meet many more.

I haven't met any and I do know multiple people who identify as non-binary.

And whether the OP's daughter will encounter people who use the title Mx in the future is irrelevant to the issue of her being able to access education now.

lets face it OP, Mx is a title your DD is going to come up against many times in her life, why not just help her accept it?
It really isn't. There are lots of us who have lived our entire lives without encountering it at all.
Not everything has to be approached from the "Oh, fuck it, let's just bow to the inevitable" standpoint you seem to favour.

No.

No, let's not "face it".

Fuck off.

It's fucking egocentric bullshit and a child's education and mental health should not being being fucking compromised for the sake of it.

ASD is a developmental disorder.

You are expecting a teenager with a developmental disorder to behave like an adult.

And I have never spent 25 hours of my week with my pharmacist. Or needed to say anything to them beyond ‘I’m here to collect my repeat’ and ‘thank you’.

If you don’t understand what school is like for an autistic teen, perhaps go post on a different thread?

If the OP's daughter was a wheelchair-user, and she'd been given a timetable of classes held on floors that didn't have step-free access, would you tell her that her daughter will have to encounter stairs eventually?

I have a horrible feeling @Nimbostratus100 is a teacher 🤦‍♀️

well...As the DWP like to get people to attend PIP assessments in buildings with stepped entrances and no lift I'm gong to guess some people will think it acceptable to say it!

There’s a LOT of not understanding how anxiety can affect autistic people on this thread. 🤦‍♀️

it is really the 1-1’s responsibility to assuage that anxiety.

And then there’s the issue of young autistic girls being particularly vulnerable to gender ideology and how it might impact her to spend 25 hours submerged in someone else’s reality. Particularly as THIS someone seems to be focused on what would help them not their charge.

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Intolerant/unreasonable teachers are a major reason why so many ND kids fail to reach their potential in high school.

There is NO BAR too low for these people, is there?

OP, I would suggest asking some questions of the school. Namely - why is your daughter so anxious about this?

Something is going wrong with their provision if students are being made so uncomfortable and anxious they are not wanting to attend. Is it this individual person, or is it the ideology itself? Or both?

Either way, I think the school needs to consider how they are going to handle this contentious ideology so that it doesn't cause upset and problems among staff and students.

I'm guessing they've never witnessed/experienced how easy it is for the smallest of things to be the biggest of obstacles

Yes, OPs daughter is likely to meet narcisstic ideological people in denial of reality at other points in her life.

Hopefully she wont have to sit next to them for 25 hours a week though.

I just don't understand the hatred and rage on this thread - and yes, I have educated literally hundreds of teens with autism, many in schools where the title Mx is used by some staff along side Mr, Miss, Dr, Mrs, Ms and Rev. Its no better or worse than anything else, its a personal choice, and has been around a long time, and is increasing in popularity.

It is not in any way related to pronouns and forced speech, quite the opposite, it is generally chosen by people who don't want their emails to be read in a prejudiced way because their sex is obvious.

All we know about this member of staff is that he has introduced himself as Mx Smith, or whatever. A perfectly normal interaction

You are not going to get anywhere by going into school and complaining about a teacher or TA's name

Bollox has it been around a long time!

I have a large family and none of my children (only a couple left in school now) have come across this in use before Uni

Unfortunately for op's daughter, she will not be communicating with this individual by email, and the very problem is that she knows fine well what sex he is.
But, go on, shite on about hate 🙄

All we know about this member of staff is that he has introduced himself as Mx Smith, or whatever. A perfectly normal interaction

Not in the school life of most of the posters on here. I for one never had a male, or female teacher wanting to be known as Mx. up until recently is never heard the sodding word, so no it's not perfectly normal.