This thread illustrates two things, really quite sickeningly to me.
One is the major problem of many Autistic kids who have reached the point of school refusal (and some diagnosed with PTSD ffs, children) because of teachers absolutely convinced they Know About Autism, full of self confidence and belief that they know it all, and with very little training or understanding of Autism. It's a big national problem. Come and see the damage inherent in the system.
The other is that there are those who believe that nothing and no one ever matters the second a T person is involved.
We have a child with a severe developmental disability ffs, you do not get 25 hours support on an EHCP without severity of need, who is being demanded to reframe her trauma, learn to cope, and meet the needs of the adult employed to help her. What do those posters expect of the employed adult with the job contract? Absolutely nothing. He has entitlement and no responsibilities at all in those posters' minds.
The thing is: it may very well be that this TA, once aware of the issue, will be horrified at the child's distress and will be very able to be accommodating, inclusive and very much good at their job.
But those rushing to wave the T flag and scold everyone for transphobia on this thread - how many are actually TQ+ themselves?
What damage are they doing to T people in forcefully pushing the belief that the job of everyone else on the planet is to revolve entirely around the needs of T people and never expect any reciprocation in return? We've seen women with trauma and disabilities demanded that they stop having them, shut up and serve T male people in their spaces, let T male people examine them post rape no matter how distressing, let T male people crack on with the abuse of women in female prisons, and now apparently even disabled children have to serve regardless of impact.
How exactly do you think this fosters good feelings and trust towards T people? We know nothing of this TA or his skills or his feelings or how he intends to resolve it, but the posters supporting him here are doing him no favours of any kind.
And again. Slowly. For those who do not have Autism, or have a loved one with Autism.
- Fear of making mistakes can be so significant an Autistic person will avoid the whole situation (such as going to school or having needed support) rather than risk it.
Please do not push ablism on this with 'well they just need to get over it' you are not talking about someone neurotypical.
- Many Autistic people cannot look at facts and lie about them. Such as pretend for someone else's sake that they are a different sex to the one they are. It causes severe anxiety and distress.
'Allies' need to get a grip that needs either get balanced with responsible reciprocation, or the world will lose all patience altogether.