These conversations with polite, reasonable, male TS who explain their difficulties and do it all without the shouting, the ranting, the threats and sexual violence and yada yada that we're all so familiar with, have been happening on MN FWR for years.
And yes, anyone compassionate person is going to be aware that for these male people, to reclaim women's spaces and services is going to end the privilege set up years ago for men by men without consulting women. Those men's plight is real, they have been harmed by the rather insane activist years.
But if you've been around the block long enough you start to notice two things.
One is that all of these nice male people always, invariably, have the purpose of asking women to draw a line that excludes other males but includes them in women's groups, spaces, facilities, lives.
Now this has been tried. It was the GRA in fact. A very small number of men who had or were in the process of wholly and entirely transitioning, were given the right by other men (no one bothered to look at whether this worked for women or they agreed, because merely women) to use women's spaces, facilities etc. In fact I believe using those spaces was required as part of proving seriousness of transition.
It has been pushed, and exploited and abused beyond belief, because this only would ever have worked if men were able to respect women. And they can't. And it's now broken beyond repair. The time when this was a usable solution to return to is long, long since gone. It is unworkable. Because you will always have a male like the OP who is realistic about biology, fully transitioned, telling you that no one could ever know they were male. And behind the OP will be other male people, all of whom will claim that they pass whether they do or not, some of them will have beards like Alex, and others be shouting 'call me ma'am' at you. And behind them are males who will tell you that a requirement to 'pass' is false and cruelty, and who are you to gatekeep their womanhood, that it isn't about appearance, that women appear as a whole spectrum, the word salad will be enough to drown in. And behind them will be the one with the sword, or the one wanting to raid the sanpro bin to put the tampons up their bums, and the one who wants to help little girls fit their tampons, and the ones who will photograph themselves wanking on the toilet next to you, and the ones who will tell you they're coming in, you can't stop them, and they'll rape/kill you if you look at them wrong.
They will all use the OP's words, claims and access to leverage their own. The very sad truth is, no gatekeeping of some males and not others is possible. There are no cards issued, no gatekeeping on the doors, if it is any single one male then it is all of them.
Females can only have female only, accessible spaces if no male at all is ever permitted to use them and males are capable of respecting female need, inclusion and access equally to their own.
And that brings me to the second thing that every nice TS MNetter has shown us here.
They all of them - all - listen to women explaining, the exclusion of females that is inevitable in order to meet unmet male need, why this does not work for women, why women cannot be the cloth to mop up for male human problems. And they all end as the OP has. In gently, even apologetically, informing that they have listened, and their decision is that they will just use women's spaces because they need to and wish to. Daddy has spoken.
And it's always that women will just have to be excluded and subordinated, because a male person is in need and sad and has problems. And good women would put them first anyway.
Now oddly enough, I'm not ok with that.