Thanks for your condolences. My titbit of advice - which you both probably know - is ffs get your parents to grant you Lasting Power of Attorney in Health & Welfare when they are still in a position to do so. Don't wait til you need it - like travel insurance, by then it's too late. LPA in Finance is good too, but not enough. The reason you need it? Without LPA in Health & Welfare, you find that when your parent is deemed to have lost mental capacity - a vague area, they don't have to be completely ga-ga - then you are not the decision maker for their care, the State is - namely any hospital consultant, Social Services - they can overrule you. Jean Hills of Epsom did that with us - we were stopped from moving Mum from that care home having given notice - the care home promptly phoned them up to let them know - and her life was put at risk on many occasions - there was a choking incident where she nearly died too - again, nobody held to account. Social Services will be in cahoots with the care provider, always.
The Covid in care homes scandal was no surprise to me, it became a turkey shoot. That care home mentioned lost 25 residents acc to the CQC during the main lockdown year. Usually losses in each care home don't get to double figures. Deaths of the elderly save the State money, of course, in pensions and prescriptions, plus they get a nice windfall inheritance tax.
I seem to be hijacking this thread but it all does link up and I was interested at the same time with the Tavistock scandal because one finds that whenever there are profits involved, care will be adversely affected and whistleblowers will be targeted for some pretty extreme mistreatment - they'll face smears, defamation, even have the police called out on them to criminalise them. It's all done according to the playbook.
You can find more on LPA for your parents by going on the 'Elderly Parents' forum on Mumsnet. To get it, you download a form from the Govt website, print it out, get the signatures in the right order, witnessed, then send it off with an £80 cheque for thereabouts.
Of course, many of us don't ordinarily frequent that forum, so I thought I'd drop it here too.