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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Gendered hair, the struggle is real

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KatMcBundleFace · 15/01/2023 14:19

Do we think that Metro is secretly gender critical? They keep publishing absolutely whingefests that really do not show the TQ in a good light at all.

Now of cause everyone should be able to have the hair cut they want..... it is just gender stereotypes after all. But I can't help laughing at the delicate ones crashing into the real world 👇

metro.co.uk/2023/01/15/going-to-the-barbers-as-an-lgbtq-person-means-hiding-my-identity-18080558/

Favourite bits:

"For me, short hair was what I’d longed for, and was symbolic of me becoming a man,’ he says.
Trans people make a lot of changes – both big and small – to feel a sense of trans joy. Hair, after all, is one of the first things people see.
But his first haircut when he came out was not just about choosing scissors or clippers – it was about feeling inner peace."

"Harry now goes to a mixed-gender hairdresser who treats his hair ‘gently and allows me to talk about my life, gender and my partner’."

Talking about your gender eh? Makes a change from "where are you going on your holibobs luv?". Let's ALL talk about our gender next time we are in the hairdressers... it'll go down so well! We all have inner peace after a good hair cut though, so I hear them on that.

Then we get to Eden, who works,
SHOCKINGLY in the charity sector and has a lot of pronouns. Confusingly all mixed up in the article.
"Eden, 27, who is transfeminine and works in the charity sector, says xe can’t use any old barbers as she has to out herself as trans."

Next we find out about the 😱 horror of having to book a "gents" cut when you're non binary.

Finally we get to David, who's had to be vague about their partners pronouns.
Because some women were once a bit mean when he was listening in on their conversations at the hairdressers .
😱😱😱

I'm going to hold all these people in my prayers.

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phlebasconsidered · 16/01/2023 20:34

And I should say I live very rurally (think 10 miles from anywhere)- my barber choice usually sees 99% men and old men at that. Village barber.

nepeta · 16/01/2023 20:42

Metro is owned by the Daily Mail. Two newspapers aimed at different markets, to maximise revenues. So no, Metro has not turned GC, but is intended to appeal to those who are GI.

It's the case in more than one country that barbers and hairdressers charge women more than men for exactly the same service. Whether this is legal or not depends on the country. Usually it is explained as having to do with women's hair needing more work etc., but if you ask for the same exact cut, no fuss, you are likely to be charged a different price based on your sex.

I have never been refused very short cuts or any kinds of cuts, really, but I have now gone to the same hairdresser for two decades as he knows me and my hair and often makes good suggestions of changes I might like, but does not insist on them. So yes, hold on to your barber or hairdresser when you find a good match as it decreases unnecessary minor frustrations in life.

WhereYouLeftIt · 16/01/2023 20:50

AlisonDonut · 16/01/2023 08:57

I am a middle aged woman and the local hairdressers that I'd been using for years refused to cut my hair short [the owner was on maternity leave]. So I went to Toni and Guys. There's Toni and Guys in most towns and they are ultra woke, so it shouldn't be hard to get reaffirmation.

These days we use my OH's buzzers, well I do most of it and he tidies it up for me. No 6 on top and 5 on the sides.

What did they say when they refused to cut your hair short?

The nearest I've ever got to that was a hairdresser taking the time to make sure I really wanted my hair cut from half way down my back to collar length - but cut it short she did! (One of the best haircuts I've ever hard.)

WarningToTheCurious · 16/01/2023 21:12

When I had my longish hair cut short the hairdresser did it in stages to make sure that I wasn’t going to have a “shit, what have I done” moment.

I’ve had a barber refuse to use clippers because he preferred scissors and a razor (and that was a great cut).

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