Sunday Times article by Jan Morris’s daughter

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Whoa nelly, I've only skimmed this and it doesn't pull any punches. Wish I could show it to my beee kiind friends who think Jan Morris was a kindly old lady who represents the 'true trans'.

What a brave, strong, eloquent writer Suki Morys is.

I don't doubt Morris represents one subset of 'true trans'.

Wow! Sounds like Jan was a narcissistic parent. And cruel.

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That is an interesting piece, in that it conforms what we all expected.

He was a narcissistic, sexist, manipulative gap (anagram) and locals and neighbours and Elizabeth's friends knew it. I don't know how the family bore it, seeing him lionised in the press, knowing what he was really like.

I am shocked, shocked to learn that Morris was a selfish, narcissistic fantasist with deeply sexist views.

Shocked, are you?

It's like we've been lied to all this time.

What a truly dreadful man he was. That poor family.

That's quite something, isn't it? The family have been very quiet all this time, and have stood by Morris publicly. And yet all the time there was this huge sadness and bitterness about Morris's cruelty to their own children - not to mention the appalling sexism. How hard it must have been for Suki growing up with that.

The pain is so evident, poor Suki. I am sorry your father was so relentlessly cruel and very much unkind.

Powerful stuff. I am glad it's in the same paper that published Jan's memoir: somehow bookends it. Does anyone think it will get a reprint in the Pink News?

I am also shocked to hear that a male who thinks womanhood is a costume, turns out to be sexist. And a narcissist.

I’m glad Suki has had a chance to have her say

Poor Suki. How cruel her father was towards her.

slowly the word was lost from my repertoire

What other word could that description apply to?

Jan must have been insufferable to live with; cruel and bullying to their only (surviving) daughter, while elevating the position of the sons. Jan had no sense of what it was like to experience life as a woman and clearly had no respect for the female sex. I’m pleased Suki has been able to tell of her experiences as Jan’s daughter.

That is all I was told. Whenever I called “Daddy”, there would be no answer, and slowly the word was lost from my repertoire.

This is so sad. Sounds like a slow, unexplained bereavement.

Would love to hear her interviewed on Woman’s Hour as opening to wider discussion of trans widows and children

That was the part that struck me too Arabella.

Her whole existence seemed to be as the 'invisible child' in the family, and then that strange loss totally unacknowledged too.

I'm so glad that she has finally had her voice heard.

It's like those interviews with the children of transitioned father's that are on youtube- I can't remember where? WDI maybe?

Heartbreaking.

Sorry I’ve just seen there’s a thread from October this could have gone in:

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/4655636-the-not-so-nice-jan-morris?page=1

Wow. Well done to Suki for doing such an incredible job sharing this painful story, it can't have been easy.

That is a very well-written piece. Eloquent, honest, and moving. It makes me want to respond directly to the author; always the sign of a fine work that reveals emotional truth.

'She was always talked about, always put on some pedestal. Her ego was massive, with people constantly rubbing it. She was a woman who enjoyed being in a man’s world because she stood out. I can’t blame her for that, but Jan certainly did absolutely nothing for womankind'

Thank you for sharing

God, Jan Morris sounds like a horrible horrible narcissistic person. Poor Suki.