@Manderleyagain I did think about hijacking this thread but as I'm in it it does provide me a layer of protection. I've contacted James and we've discussed what's going on. I also had a reply back from thoughtful therapists outlining the legal aspect which I've also sent to the union for consideration.
I didn't go in today as I had an awful night sleep and woke up shaking and extremely disassociated (this has triggered previous trauma). I spoke with my supervisor today who is bemused by the whole thing and reassures me I have done nothing wrong. I did also contact legal femisnists and sex matters but haven't had anything yet. I'm having to stop trying to second guess the tutors motivations (although it's pretty clear) as I find I start gaslighting myself thinking I'm this terrible person. Fortunately I have a good support network (of which this forms part of it - so thank you).
I have a meeting with the union tomorrow and they should have gotten all correspondence so ill see what they say. I will request all comms to go through them and will remain largely quiet in the meeting, because at this stage the meeting is not for my benefit. I have also arranged a meeting with an ethics advisor at the BACP - that's next Tuesday, before my meeting on Wednesday so I should be reasonably prepared.