I have realised I have made too many assumptions about gender over the years. I had always assumed that Paul (name changed of course) in my company was a man simply on the basis of his appearance (well over 6 foot, well built, big beard, low voice that only someone with an Adam's apple and whose balls have dropped could have). Imagine my relief to find that I have not been misgendering him for over a decade because he has helpfully added his pronouns to his email auto signature - they are he/him/his. There is no company diktat to add pronouns on emails so clearly this is important to Paul or maybe he has been misgendered recently.
So, I thought I would ensure that Paul was not offended on a Teams meeting this afternoon and kicked off the meeting by asking everyone to note that Paul's pronouns are he/him/his and that given that he has stated these that everyone please be sensitive to ensuring that they use them. No one said anything so I think they all took it on board, no one misgendered Paul and I like to think that his move to include his pronouns at work has been embraced in my meeting. Maybe as a result others that attended the meeting will add theirs to their auto signatures too.
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
I am embracing virtue signalling pronouns in emails
MsFogi · 21/07/2022 18:25
GoodJanetBadJanet · 26/07/2022 02:26
Oh do bore off, there's nothing fascist or remotely bigoted in this board,
If you say so
please feel free to report whenever you see it.
Thanks, will do
GoodJanetBadJanet · 26/07/2022 02:26
Oh do bore off, there's nothing fascist or remotely bigoted in this board,
If you say so
please feel free to report whenever you see it.
Thanks, will do
Didimum · 26/07/2022 07:49
They are going down, and your bullshit with it. Cry more.
This is thing though. It’s not going down. Not even close. You have the impression it is because you are stuck in an echo chamber of unjustified panic and hatred. We know where women are, overwhelmingly, most at risk - and that’s in their own homes with perpetrators already known to them. The fact is women are statistically safer with a transwoman who is a stranger in a changing room or a bathroom than they are in their own home with a male-identifying partner or family member. Women’s spaces have become the focus of perceived risk and a false haven to keep perpetrators out at the perimeter, when that’s not where the perpetrators lie. And transwomen have become the scapegoat of unfounded ‘stranger danger’ - a tiny minority disproportionately affected by assault and violence themselves.
I don’t need to be here, because the world is already successfully eradicating the consequence of anti-trans sentiment. Enjoy your echo chamber, because that’s all you have. I’m sorry that you’re fighting a losing battle.
@aseriesofstillimages Thank you for your words.
Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 08:25
women are statistically safer with a transwoman who is a stranger in a changing room or a bathroom than they are in their own home with a male
I'd like to read the evidence on this, please, can you point me to it Didimum?
Women are statistically safer with any strange male than the male in their own home, but strangely we still have single sex changing rooms and toilets.
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