I have realised I have made too many assumptions about gender over the years. I had always assumed that Paul (name changed of course) in my company was a man simply on the basis of his appearance (well over 6 foot, well built, big beard, low voice that only someone with an Adam's apple and whose balls have dropped could have). Imagine my relief to find that I have not been misgendering him for over a decade because he has helpfully added his pronouns to his email auto signature - they are he/him/his. There is no company diktat to add pronouns on emails so clearly this is important to Paul or maybe he has been misgendered recently.
So, I thought I would ensure that Paul was not offended on a Teams meeting this afternoon and kicked off the meeting by asking everyone to note that Paul's pronouns are he/him/his and that given that he has stated these that everyone please be sensitive to ensuring that they use them. No one said anything so I think they all took it on board, no one misgendered Paul and I like to think that his move to include his pronouns at work has been embraced in my meeting. Maybe as a result others that attended the meeting will add theirs to their auto signatures too.
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
I am embracing virtue signalling pronouns in emails
MsFogi · 21/07/2022 18:25
PearlClench · 26/07/2022 08:47
As a general point I don't think framing these issues in terms of winning and losing is helpful or realistic.
What we need are practical, workable compromises that protect and give consideration to everyone without increasing risk to women and children
HipTightOnions · 26/07/2022 08:32
women are statistically safer with a transwoman who is a stranger in a changing room or a bathroom than they are in their own home with a male
Well, yes and no.
A woman picked at random from the population may be less safe with her own partner.
I personally am safer with my own particular non-violent partner.
And even for those poor women who are unsafe at home, allowing men into women's spaces only increases their risk.
Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 08:25
women are statistically safer with a transwoman who is a stranger in a changing room or a bathroom than they are in their own home with a male
I'd like to read the evidence on this, please, can you point me to it Didimum?
Women are statistically safer with any strange male than the male in their own home, but strangely we still have single sex changing rooms and toilets.
Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 07:48
It looks like the conversation on this thread has long moved on and left me behind
Not really, @aseriesofstillimages because neither you nor @Didimum have managed to offer a coherent case for why people should prioritise gender identity ideology over sex, or what gender identity means when unmoored from sex and knowing what sex people are and all the stereotype baggage that comes with that.
Why what most women and girls want, ie privacy and dignity from the opposite sex, should be disregarded in favour of what this group of males want.
Since I've never seen that answered in a way that boils down to more than "let them have what they want, it's kind and progressive" that's not surprising.
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