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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Kemi Badenoch through to next round

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InTheCanteen · 13/07/2022 17:24

If you have a Conservative MP and want to protect the rights of women and safeguard children please email them TONIGHT and ask them to support Kemi.

Penny Mordaunt still the bookies favourite (and they aren't often wrong) but we need to let everyone know how dangerous it will be for this woman to become PM; I don't believe she has changed her mind for one moment.

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ApplesandBunions · 19/07/2022 19:16

It depends on what's most convenient at the time.

jgw1 · 19/07/2022 20:55

MarshaBradyo · 19/07/2022 18:30

Borrowing is high but public demand for pandemic response was also high

Sunak and Johnson spent a lot so I can see why some conservatives want to move away from that.

I still think Sunak is better placed to clean up the mess created during that time due to prioritising inflation

We’re also free of Johnson inspired handouts where back accounts are topped up as an unsuccessful bribe against impact of partygate

How was borrowing in 2019 compared to 2010 @MarshaBradyo ?

MangyInseam · 19/07/2022 21:27

Tanith · 19/07/2022 18:23

"The reason that successive governments have pushed stay at home parents to go back to work is really quite simple, GDP. A parent who stays at home does not contribute to GDP. Whereas a parent who goes to work and pays all they earn to someone else to look after their children does contribute to GDP."

The relationships board is full of women who stayed at home to raise their kids and have found themselves at a real financial disadvantage for doing so. They are often trapped in relationships, screwed over by partners who no longer value them.

Yes, it might be nice to see a policy approach that would allow mothers to stay home but protect them if things went wrong. As opposed to just this atomized protect yourself by entering the workforce and paying someone else to look after your kids thing.

The latter contributes to GDP - and also to the bottom line of the corporate world - and the former does not. Which is possibly a reason the latter is what we see.

For all some posters think it is shocking for a feminist site to be interested in society being able to accommodate mothers who want care for their kids, I think it's strange that people who think of themselves as feminists to adopt economic and social liberalism so easily.

DdraigGoch · 19/07/2022 21:31

Abhannmor · 19/07/2022 14:58

I wish I shared your sang froid. But I have to live in Ireland.

Well Ireland has already compromised the safety of women and girls so you've nothing left to lose in that respect, it's true.

MangyInseam · 19/07/2022 21:34

Did KB actually say "family values"?

jgw1 · 19/07/2022 21:37

MangyInseam · 19/07/2022 21:34

Did KB actually say "family values"?

No that was John Major, and look how he ended up.

Blossomtoes · 19/07/2022 21:42

This is what she said

As is the link with the family. Family break-ups increase housing demand, and the unaffordability of housing in many areas stops people establishing the family life they want. Family is the first line of welfare, and strong families reduce the need for a larger state

Families come in all shapes and sizes and, as a strong supporter of same-sex marriage, I reject any idea that being pro-family is about prescribing how others should live. It’s about supporting love

ScrollingLeaves · 19/07/2022 21:48

@MangyInseam · Today 21:34
Did KB actually say "family values"?

I googled her name with “ family values” and could not find her actual words.

But she does mention families in her manifesto in the Telegraph (below), including families in relation to housing and immigration. I have copied an excerpt but there is more before this part.

www.telegraph.co.uk/politics/2022/07/16/conservatives-must-return-first-principles-ensure-get-basics/

Excerpt:

As is the link with the family. Family break-ups increase housing demand, and the unaffordability of housing in many areas stops people establishing the family life they want. Family is the first line of welfare, and strong families reduce the need for a larger state.

Families come in all shapes and sizes and, as a strong supporter of same-sex marriage, I reject any idea that being pro-family is about prescribing how others should live. It’s about supporting love.

So I will look at how our tax and benefit system can support family life and the joys it brings. Coherent, Conservative conviction leadership is what I will bring if you elect me as prime minister.

ScrollingLeaves · 19/07/2022 21:49

Could not find the actual words ‘family values’.

beastlyslumber · 19/07/2022 21:51

ScrollingLeaves · 19/07/2022 21:48

@MangyInseam · Today 21:34
Did KB actually say "family values"?

I googled her name with “ family values” and could not find her actual words.

But she does mention families in her manifesto in the Telegraph (below), including families in relation to housing and immigration. I have copied an excerpt but there is more before this part.

www.telegraph.co.uk/politics/2022/07/16/conservatives-must-return-first-principles-ensure-get-basics/

Excerpt:

As is the link with the family. Family break-ups increase housing demand, and the unaffordability of housing in many areas stops people establishing the family life they want. Family is the first line of welfare, and strong families reduce the need for a larger state.

Families come in all shapes and sizes and, as a strong supporter of same-sex marriage, I reject any idea that being pro-family is about prescribing how others should live. It’s about supporting love.

So I will look at how our tax and benefit system can support family life and the joys it brings. Coherent, Conservative conviction leadership is what I will bring if you elect me as prime minister.

I don't have a problem with anything she says there. Sounds pretty liberal to me. What's the problem with it - can someone enlighten me?

achillestoes · 19/07/2022 21:53

@beastlyslumber

They just don’t like her.

MangyInseam · 19/07/2022 21:58

So if the claim is that "family values" is a sort of dog whistle, then it's basically irrelevant if she didn't use it.

Unless any mention of the importance of strong families is considered problematic, but to me that's the extreme political viewpoint, not what KB said.

DdraigGoch · 19/07/2022 22:03

stillherenow · 19/07/2022 15:58

@LK1972 I don't take it as an attack and I'm a great parent Grin.
However stats don't tell the whole story. How would those same outcomes look had the (potentially toxic or abusive ) marriages lasted ? It's not comparing like for like, but happy families vs single parents. Not unhappy families vs single parents.

But this is for another thread!

You won't find much disagreement that the worst of all outcomes is for a toxic relationship to stay together "for the kids".

Maybe KB wants to look into ways of helping people avoid those toxic relationships in the first place. I've no idea. All academic now anyway.

jgw1 · 19/07/2022 22:05

Blossomtoes · 19/07/2022 21:42

This is what she said

As is the link with the family. Family break-ups increase housing demand, and the unaffordability of housing in many areas stops people establishing the family life they want. Family is the first line of welfare, and strong families reduce the need for a larger state

Families come in all shapes and sizes and, as a strong supporter of same-sex marriage, I reject any idea that being pro-family is about prescribing how others should live. It’s about supporting love

Presumably Kemi also objects to people owning more than one home, and especially those who own 12?

WarriorN · 19/07/2022 22:13

So I will look at how our tax and benefit system can support family life and the joys it brings. Coherent, Conservative conviction leadership is what I will bring if you elect me as prime minister

This sounds like a nod towards feminist Marxism ideas of recognising the unpaid labour of women in society.

ScrollingLeaves · 19/07/2022 22:14

beastlyslumber · Today 21:51
ScrollingLeaves · Today 21:48

I don't have a problem with anything she says there. Sounds pretty liberal to me. What's the problem with it - can someone enlighten me?

No, I don’t see what she says here as short-hand for a policy intended to put women down/ ‘family life’s’ political meaning as suggested by Miffee.

Not that it lays out details.

NonnyMouse1337 · 19/07/2022 22:15

ScrollingLeaves · 19/07/2022 21:48

@MangyInseam · Today 21:34
Did KB actually say "family values"?

I googled her name with “ family values” and could not find her actual words.

But she does mention families in her manifesto in the Telegraph (below), including families in relation to housing and immigration. I have copied an excerpt but there is more before this part.

www.telegraph.co.uk/politics/2022/07/16/conservatives-must-return-first-principles-ensure-get-basics/

Excerpt:

As is the link with the family. Family break-ups increase housing demand, and the unaffordability of housing in many areas stops people establishing the family life they want. Family is the first line of welfare, and strong families reduce the need for a larger state.

Families come in all shapes and sizes and, as a strong supporter of same-sex marriage, I reject any idea that being pro-family is about prescribing how others should live. It’s about supporting love.

So I will look at how our tax and benefit system can support family life and the joys it brings. Coherent, Conservative conviction leadership is what I will bring if you elect me as prime minister.

That sounds like fairly standard Conservative viewpoints. What exactly are the naysayers expecting her to say?! 🤯

jgw1 · 19/07/2022 22:19

NonnyMouse1337 · 19/07/2022 22:15

That sounds like fairly standard Conservative viewpoints. What exactly are the naysayers expecting her to say?! 🤯

Presumably in the interests of the tax system supporting families she opposed and voted against April's regressive increase in NI?

WarriorN · 19/07/2022 22:20

I always thought the most radical feminist approach to motherhood was to be a sahm, potentially with partner taking over for a good period of time when baby was more independent. Except we live in too much of a capitalistic and patriarchal and even misogynistic society to be able to accommodate that. And it's getting worse. Couples generally have to both work full time to accommodate the lifestyle and housing costs.

I was too wuss to be a sahm.

WarriorN · 19/07/2022 22:23

Being a full time mother isn't seen as having much value in monetary terms. (or father- even less so, which boys ever aspire to this?)

NonnyMouse1337 · 19/07/2022 22:28

jgw1 · 19/07/2022 22:19

Presumably in the interests of the tax system supporting families she opposed and voted against April's regressive increase in NI?

Well, I'd be more than happy to see her challenged on the details of how she hopes to achieve what she's stated in terms of taxation, affordable housing etc. But nothing she's said so far implies she's in favour of some sort of extremist, dystopian vision that leaves women chained to a kitchen sink with an abusive partner.

ApplesandBunions · 19/07/2022 22:37

NonnyMouse1337 · 19/07/2022 22:15

That sounds like fairly standard Conservative viewpoints. What exactly are the naysayers expecting her to say?! 🤯

It sounds like not much at all. It's academic now of course, but I'd have liked to know what she actually meant there, what ideas she might have about policy.

jgw1 · 19/07/2022 22:40

ApplesandBunions · 19/07/2022 22:37

It sounds like not much at all. It's academic now of course, but I'd have liked to know what she actually meant there, what ideas she might have about policy.

Policy?

Government has been a policy free zone for a couple of years now.

PomegranateOfPersephone · 19/07/2022 22:41

MangyInseam · 19/07/2022 21:27

Yes, it might be nice to see a policy approach that would allow mothers to stay home but protect them if things went wrong. As opposed to just this atomized protect yourself by entering the workforce and paying someone else to look after your kids thing.

The latter contributes to GDP - and also to the bottom line of the corporate world - and the former does not. Which is possibly a reason the latter is what we see.

For all some posters think it is shocking for a feminist site to be interested in society being able to accommodate mothers who want care for their kids, I think it's strange that people who think of themselves as feminists to adopt economic and social liberalism so easily.

👏👏👏

DdraigGoch · 19/07/2022 22:48

Miffee · 19/07/2022 17:09

HA! He'd be bankrupt in weeks.

Pretty sure that he is pretty skint, due to all of the maintenance payments.

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