Yep. It runs down both my mum's side and my dad's, and my eldest's dad's side too... It's like super concentrated. And yes, there is a massive overlapping of gender incongruence and atypical neuropsychology. But for the sake of anyone who would like to use this as a stick to beat us with, I'm 40, it never went away, and what I've done has been a literal and actual weight off my mind. My body, my choice, had to borrow money to go private but my family have been more than wonderful about helping me, here.
It's super insulting when those not supportive of people like me, choose to show their dislike with words and actions which are deliberately inflammatory, deliberately vile, and dismissive. It's no trend for me. It's very doubtful to be a trend for my child. I'm still letting him work his way through this with my support, though. For him, there isn't this mad rush for everything which others experience.
But that's because we are all different. He would love to have had puberty blockers. He would love to have access to testosterone. But it's super hard to get those things at the right times, and we are struggling enough making sure he gets the support he needs in school. Alongside three people's worth of constant medical appointments and life admin and I'm a volunteer who has only just completed my qualification in my organisation. It's already a lot to cope with when collectively as a family we have one bean's worth of executive functioning.
We are very much 'keep our heads down and our business to ourselves' queer people, who just want to get through the challenges we are facing and come out the other side without any hatred or unkindness. I don't go about being obvious about my gender identity. I had a long list of medical reasons for doing exactly what I've done, without bringing my gender identity into it, too. But none of the kids I volunteer with have asked anything about it or mentioned anything, other than to have asked how I was feeling now. They're all wonderful. If any did ask, I have a few stock phrases to gently shut down any probing, because I also don't want to describe to them the medical issues either - really unpleasant and they don't need to know.
The reason any of us or our allies get on their soapboxes is because we have human rights too. There is a lot to talk about sort through, but unfortunately it's all a blanket no on one side, because that side of things is the loudest, and the other side is aware that if it doesn't try and make some noise, then we will repeatedly come to harm ourselves. It's understandable that some get to the 'milkshake at MPs' level of activism - it happens in every area we have a need to protest and rally round for. It would be great if that didn't have to be a thing.
I do wish that noone felt the way I have, and friends of mine have, about the bodies they're born into. It's not something to take lightly, it's not something anyone should wish for, or want to become a part of. I haven't met a single trans or gender queer person who hasn't wished they were ok in their own skin. Not because we feel it's bad or wrong to be trans - but because we shouldn't have to go through any of this to feel happy and comfortable and so on.
I'm not even joking when I say that I've often through my life just wondered how different human life would be if each of us was born exactly the same, biologically, and were hermaphroditic - with absolutely no need or ability to procreate with others. Only singly. Imagine that - my question is then, would any humans experience incongruence with being hermaphroditic - if every single human was identically made.