mrshoho
I have difficulty in understanding the non-binary concept
Imo its when a person recognised there are sex based stereotypes but rather that call it BS they agree the role should remain and that they can create their own personalised stereotype.
What on earth is going on in midwifery these days? Have terms such as chest feeding and birthing people, really replaced breast feeding and expectant mothers? Are they used universally or just if requested?
I think its linked to when the social change driver was to desex women and say they were the same as men. This got women out into the work place. (Great but GI Jane was not packing pain relief and menstrual products, birth control, nappies and a baby in her training gear, was she?)
When it pushed out to areas where sex difference do matter the social standard remains "male never pregnant". So special laws and rules develop to compensate for the "are pregnant" events. These are positive discrimination to level the disadvantage of the event or expectation of an event. In some cases the law actively discriminates against "male never pregnant" social expectations.
But the underlying "male never pregnant" social structure remains.
Most women in the Western world have the abilty to remain "not pregnant" for most of their working lives.
Girls are taught to not get pregnant, to have a career, etc. Partly because that is what is expected when the social standard in a "male never pregnant" society.
Being pregnant and birthing is a female only social experience and in a "male never pregnant" society that event is a social exception not a social norm. It is seen as having no real economic or social value. It has a cost as special laws are need to be introduced. These disadvantage the "male never pregnant" group.
Within that culture desexing pregnancy and birthing to accommodate the event as a male event is seen as being progressive. Its realigning what is a low value event to a male equivelant because now the society has to accommodate "male maybe pregnant". After all if a man can change a nappy whats the problem with changing breastfeeding to human milk feeding. If mum can express milk she can go back to work and back to being "male not pregnant" or she could sell her product in a capitalist society.
Progressive, inclusive, bla bla bla is easier than saying out loud "this is womens work".
The fight women will have is to say I am not a male. I am female. Giving birth is a global female only experience society needs to adjust social standards from "male never pregnant" to "female and may be pregnant" . I am entitled to fully participate in society as a female who may or may not give birth.
Changing language to male centered usage has a short term gain. Mums still are called first by childcare, are expected to arrange work aroung childcare, there are dads who see domestic work as womens only work etc. etc. But the wider conversation needs to be held because its only female who get pregnant and post birth someone (mother, father, wider family, paid minders) needs to raise the baby as it grows to be an adult.