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Velovixen women’s cycling group has drunk the koolaid

122 replies

QuebecBagnet · 12/03/2022 06:55

So it advertises itself as a women’s cycling group, it’s just a Facebook group. But nice to have a female space where you can talk about labia related saddle issues, etc.

It’s the sort of group where personal posts aren’t encouraged, got to be cycling related. People,don’t do introduction posts.

A new user has done a lengthy navel gazing “hi I’m new to the group post”. Which nobody does. Complete with photo where they totally look like a bloke. And of course in their paragraphs and paragraphs of waffle they say they’re a trans woman.

Some people have started other posts saying they don’t feel comfortable, etc. Such people are getting called terfs, getting banned. Posts from admin saying we are inclusive to ALL women, telling us to be kind. And then switching comments off quickly. I hate being told to be kind. What they actually mean is “shut up little woman and do as you’re told, do what men want you to do “. I haven’t seen anyone actually be unkind to this individual but accept maybe someone has been and it was deleted. Just so pissed off, nowhere is safe.

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Pennox · 14/03/2022 08:40

Why arent we allowed ro talk about AGP given its a recognised psychological condition?

Pennox · 14/03/2022 08:41

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Pennox · 14/03/2022 08:54

I mean honestly. This kind of stuff normally makes me angry but this one is just making me laugh. Have you seen the picture on twitter? Christ I dont know why I worry about wearing tight fitting lycra shorts and there is no way the largest velovixen top would fit. Just such obvious trolling.

LizziesTwin · 14/03/2022 10:39

I’d like someone to ask whether they’ve had an orchiectomy or not, that would make it easier to advise on chamois.

QuebecBagnet · 14/03/2022 13:13

@Pennox

Why arent we allowed ro talk about AGP given its a recognised psychological condition?
Deleting posts which mention it as a possibility sweeps such stuff under the carpet and puts women in danger.

Some women genuinely don’t realise it exists and take everything on face value. Not realising their responses are acting as a wank bank. I’m talking generally about AGP here, not about anyone specifically.

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SalsaLove · 14/03/2022 13:18

@LizziesTwin

Maybe a menopausal woman should join & make a similar post about feeling uncomfortable through puberty, fighting their way through education, society’s norms, the struggles of childbirth, heavy periods, anaemia, then hot flushes, weight gain, osteoporosis etc with a photo and see how many welcoming posts they receive. Angry
Add vaginal atrophy to that list!
KohlaParasaurus · 14/03/2022 13:47

I'm sure every group set up to allow women to talk about their sport without male input will eventually be targeted in this way. If this individual has infringed group rules by posting selfies on the wrong day of the week and doesn't get banned/get the post deleted/get a good finger-wagging from admin because they're a transwoman and therefore above reproach it's appalling discrimination against the actual target population of the group.

(Am not a Velovixen customer or group member.)

Bosky · 14/03/2022 15:11

@Pennox

Why arent we allowed ro talk about AGP given its a recognised psychological condition?
Do take care - persistently questioning the "Mumsnet moderation principles for discussions around gender identity and sex" on this particular subject is a sure-fire way to get banned Confused

www.mumsnet.com/i/trans-rights-moderation-policy

You will notice that the URL refers to "trans rights"?

Included in the "Moderation Principles" is, basically, a "trans right" to censor conversations about AGP:

Will you consider deleting posts that associate transgender people with autogynephila (AGP)?

This is something we'd look at on a case by case basis, though we'll definitely delete posts which generalise.

Presumably the "anti-generalisation rule" would not apply if someone posted, "All people with AGP are kind, thoughtful and highly intelligent - no sarcasm intended!"

Which reminds me. There are a several "unwritten rules" that can get posts deleted and, if resulting in three "strikes" within a 6 week rolling period, can get you banned, eg. the phrase, "stunning and brave" is verboten.

One of the most controversial aspects of the "anti-generalisation ban" wrt AGP is that people with AGP who wished to inform Mumsnetters about the general nature of AGP have been banned for doing so.

"We do not want Mumsnet to be a place that feels inherently hostile to any group, be that trans people, gender-critical feminists or anyone else (except perhaps trolls)."

Unfortunately, Mumsnet is "inherently hostile" to anyone, including "trans people" who have AGP, if they wish to discuss AGP. Despite the "anti-generalisation" rule, there is also censorship of discussions about specific individuals, even if they have disclosed that they have AGP and have discussed this publicly.

The public debate has moved on a long way since Mumsnet produced the "Moderation Principles". The fact that AGP exists is now much more widely known. It seems like every week there is at least one article in the mainstream press by or about someone with AGP in which "controversial" aspects of AGP are mentioned in either neutral or positive terms.

In short, there seems to be an ongoing campaign in the media to "destigmatize" AGP. This in itself is something that merits feminist analysis. Mumsnet seems to be behind the curve on this, hampering discussion not only of a specific condition but also its politicisation.

There are a couple of very relevant articles on this in Unherd:

The taboo trans question
Why can't we ask what drives people to change sex?
BY SARAH DITUM - 10 March 2022

unherd.com/2022/03/the-taboo-trans-question/

Sarah links in her article to this article by a person who has AGP and is a member of Mumsnet:

Why I became trans
The psychological distress was so severe, I felt I had no choice
BY DEBBIE HAYTON - 24 August 2021

These are the closing paragraphs in that article - I honestly do hope this will not be deleted for "generalisation":

"Just as people with an atypical sexual orientation can be labelled as gay, those driven to atypical sexual signalling can be labelled as trans. So isn’t sexual signalling just gender identity by another name? Yes and no.

Yes, it is an innate quality that is hard-wired into us: it is not something that we can choose, and it can lead to transsexualism if we are driven to signal in the way typical of the other sex rather than our own. But no, sexual signalling does not supplant biological sex. When transgender activists chant “transwomen are women”, they are in effect demanding that gender identity replaces biological sex when we demarcate men and women. The deleterious impact of that approach on female people — “birthing bodies”, according to one female health charity — is profound.

Sexual signalling is also an observable reality, and it is a starting point to understand why some people are trans. There may be multiple different reasons, but I will focus on the group I know most about: heterosexual males who transitioned in midlife.

Not only can our maleness not be wished away — we are members of the sex that produces sperm, after all — I would claim that the reason why this group wants to wear dresses and makeup, grow out our hair and develop breasts is linked inextricably to our maleness. To quote another transsexual, Anne A Lawrence, we are “men trapped in men’s bodies”. That was the title of Lawrence’s book that contained a series of narratives written by autogynephilic male-to female transsexuals.

Autogynephilia was a term introduced in 1989 by the American-Canadian sexologist Ray Blanchard. Blanchard told me that autogynephilia denotes “a natal male’s tendency to be sexually aroused by the thought or image of himself as a woman.” He added, “in the Western Hemisphere and English-speaking Commonwealth countries, the overwhelming majority of adult natal males presenting with gender dysphoria are of the autogynephilic type.”

It’s not difficult to conceive why autogynephilia can lead to severe psychological distress in heterosexual men attracted to their own bodies. Because their sexual and romantic interest is directed inwards — a target location error according to Blanchard — they respond by sexually signalling to themselves. But while their interest is in females (they are heterosexual), their bodies are male. Clothing may help to create an illusion of femaleness but, for some, medical transition may seem to be the only way to square the circle.

This scientific approach to just one form of male-to-female transsexualism is a world away from a metaphysical claim that “transwomen are women”. But the concept of gender identity has been comforting and politically useful for autogynephilic transsexuals in a society that stigmatises unusual male sexuality. Unsurprisingly, Blanchard’s theory provokes a very strong reaction in some.

It should not, however, be ignored: gender identity has caused significant collateral damage to children and adolescents, women’s rights, biomedical science and Western political life. Moreover, it is as unnecessary as the ether. Transsexuals — and other gender non-conforming people — do not need to invent an innate gender identity to understand ourselves.

We just have a need to communicate ourselves — sexually signal — as other human beings do, just in a way more typical of the opposite sex. There may be a host of reasons why that happens, of which autogynephilia is just one, but gender identity explains nothing. Worse, it hinders exploration into the conditions that make us the people we are."

Unless and until Mumsnet catches up with the zeitgeist and recognises that AGP is no longer being deliberately hidden from view but is being actively promoted by "AGP Activists" in the press and in Boardrooms across the UK, we will continue to be punished for "generalising" about AGP or discussing specific individuals who demonstrate well-documented characteristics of AGP.

Justme56 · 05/01/2023 23:56

Not sure if I’m allowed to update this thread but heard that the company, Velovixen, have now gone into liquidation.

Whatsfordinnerglutenfree · 06/01/2023 00:11

I wonder why , genuinely, can it be because of them supporting TWAW? Or other non related business factors

Banoffeepie21 · 06/01/2023 02:36

It’s the shop that’s gone into liquidation, not the Women’s cycle group/community.

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 06/01/2023 03:40

Banoffeepie21 · 06/01/2023 02:36

It’s the shop that’s gone into liquidation, not the Women’s cycle group/community.

The women's cycle group on facebook is/was run by the business. It's not an unusual marketing strategy for companies, especially ones in sports, fitness and leisure.

NeighbourhoodWatchPotholeDivision · 06/01/2023 03:51

Current group description. I'm not going to speculate whether this clear stance lost the business more sales than it gained, because I can't possibly know.

Velovixen women’s cycling group has drunk the koolaid
Velovixen women’s cycling group has drunk the koolaid
Justellingthetruth · 06/01/2023 04:34

@QuebecBagnet

velovixen has shut down as a business

CoffeeBoy · 06/01/2023 07:10

I saw they’d gone bust. Which is very sad. On their fb group yesterday someone did bring up the situation from this thread. They said since they let that male person into the group they had refused to buy anything from VV. they talked about how it was obviously a fetish, they used to talk about menstruating while riding a bike which they obviously don’t do, post pictures of their bulge through their Lycra and talk about saddle sores. I wonder how many other women also refused to buy from VV due to this.

DFSsale · 06/01/2023 07:17

I stopped buying from them and I left their FB group too after it was clear they were happy for males with fetishes to parade around their online space and kick out women who politely objected. Im
sure there are larger challenges at play for small businesses but alienating your core base is not a good idea.

Blister · 06/01/2023 07:18

And another service for women bites the dust because of self exclusion.
It won't stop until there's nothing left. Like a cancer.

Meseekslookatme · 06/01/2023 07:31

Justme56 · 05/01/2023 23:56

Not sure if I’m allowed to update this thread but heard that the company, Velovixen, have now gone into liquidation.

Oh dear. How sad. Never mind.

Speedywallpaper · 06/01/2023 07:35

I left the FB group when the fetishist started posting and actual women were shut down. They deserved to go bust.

Banoffeepie21 · 06/01/2023 07:38

There are plenty of people who are customers (like me) who are not on the Facebook group and had no idea of any of the above. I used to be on it but one of their ambassadors was a bit annoying and I came off it. I thought it was a great community group at that time (a few years ago).
Their heartfelt statement is on their main website page and I received it in email. I really liked the principle of what they stood for (specialising in cycle clothing for women) but I do think it was short sighted to focus on the higher end ranges. They’re a considered purchase for me now I no longer have the disposable income I used to.
I think it’s jumping to conclusions that their demise is due to the Facebook groups stance on TW but I can see that that will be a factor. That would have turned me off as a customer if I had been aware of it.

EastLondonObserver · 06/01/2023 07:46

What if the person was post-op? The clothing would be suitable for them, no?

JeanRondeausMadHair · 06/01/2023 07:59

EastLondonObserver · 06/01/2023 07:46

What if the person was post-op? The clothing would be suitable for them, no?

No. Because no opération will alter your skeleton.

picklemewalnuts · 06/01/2023 08:03

EastLondonObserver · 06/01/2023 07:46

What if the person was post-op? The clothing would be suitable for them, no?

Surely their needs would still be very different.

And why would women be happy to discuss their very personal needs in a group including men? Saddles are different, bike set up is different. Clothing is different.

EastLondonObserver · 06/01/2023 08:07

picklemewalnuts · 06/01/2023 08:03

Surely their needs would still be very different.

And why would women be happy to discuss their very personal needs in a group including men? Saddles are different, bike set up is different. Clothing is different.

If they had no penis though?

CryInToYourCornflakesNicola · 06/01/2023 08:13

EastLondonObserver · 06/01/2023 08:07

If they had no penis though?

Errr, still have a completely different pelvis.

also most do not have any surgery.